Do you ever think how some people must be so frustrated

hi joystick yes a lot as I live in a retirement center and there are many people here who can get frustrated just trying to get their'wheelchairs through a door way. I tend to help but have learned some really really do not want help unless they ask you for it.I do respect this as it has to do with one's self esteem. I for example like to try to open doors for myself and my monitor rather than asking for help. but sometimes the help of a thoughtful fellow resident is really welcome. I have had my walker stuck in the heavy door going shut on me and the wind and rain at my back, and noone gave a damn. oh some watched me like an interesting side show but Jesse bless his heart hurried over and held the door open so I could get in out of the weather.so having experienced frustrations too I try to help all I can. I am able to walk and not be stuck in a wheelchair so I must help others. sometimes I want to and the other person wants me too but since my left hand will not lift up but to my waist I cannot help; if it requires two strong hands. Most frustrating as I hate to let anyone down. I had a bad fall five years ago breaking my left shoulder so badly they had to put in a shoulder joint replacement. My muscles had weeks of therapy but still I only got a little bit of use of my left hand and arm. so sometimes I just cannot help anyone

I believe that everyone has some frustrations. Infuse life is not a game, nothing is given to us. What we get from life we have to "sweat". Then of course speaking of frustration, these vary from person to person and depend also on age.

I would like to think most of us would help people who is frustrated with things they can't do it is nice to help people in anyway that we can to help someone else...

i would rather give people their privacy and even if i want to help, i have to take into consideration that if they did not seek my help, it means they are still trying to help themselves. i believe that if we do cross over and offer help without them asking, they might take it the wrong way and think that we are actually only trying to make them even worst than they are.

I can raise my hand on that one. When I was younger I assisted elderly people as I worked in a nursing home at age 15. I learned the word respect way early in life. Now that I am disabled and sometimes cannot do what I used to, instead of my husband who is more capable than me he will say things like: I am lazy. I should be doing more aorund here. I should help you. Or he will come back and say WILL YOU SIT DOWN? Don't worry so much. So yep I get frustrated. I do what I can when I can and want to very much give him a swift kick where the sun don't shine sometimes. but if I did I might become more disabled. he is not worth it!

hi joystick, frustration is not a good emotion for anyone old or young.. I think we as people would like to think, if there was something/ someone/anyone could do for us to elevate some frustration they would certainly be there...Thats exactly what I would do for others especially people I know.. I also think that its the right thing to do when we see strangers frustrated and we are in a position to give some assistance... Something as simple as seeing someone with an arm fully of packages or books and trying to open the door and just can't quite get it can be frustrating especially when they are in a hurry....Just help open the door for someone...hold the door for someone..help someone you see trying to reach something on the top shelf in a supermarket and just can't reach it...the cars are zooming by and someone just can't trust not getting hit....help them cross the street... There are so many things we can do to help others in this world that we take for granted but means so much to others who are having a hard time... We as people can be a lot more kind to our fellow people... Go GIANTS!!!!!!

It is best to help unobtrusively when possible. But then, too, sometimes we look at another person and think they need help when from their perspective they are doing just fine and don't want or need help. Other times we see them and know they are in danger of some sort but they do not realize it. It is like what I was telling somebody recently, that I do not carry a handbag and when I get up and walk away from a table in a restaurant for example I have had men rush up to inform me that I "forgot" my handbag, thinking I had one and left it at the table. They might think they are being helpful, but I find them annoying and patronizing. Other times we see them and know they are in danger of some sort but they do not realize it. Then maybe we have to step in. Sometimes it is hard to tell whether we are helping the other person or interfering. We might think how frustrating this would be for us, but is the other person truly frustrated, or just making an effort.

I have a friend always frustrated with all his moves and actions. He always change his mind and decision specially when it's related to his family. When he cannot make things to realize he felt frustrated and sometimes he cried. I felt pity with my friends, what I did I support him and guide him whatever he did. Now, he felt better and not feeling alone on this world. Our friendship become more closer.

Yes people do get frustrated when they can`t do something.They find it difficult to adjust to a changed situation which makes them struggle.I have been going through such a situation since the last 40 years as i am now completely wheelchairbound because of an incurable neuromuscular disease which affected me during my youth.However i did not allow the subsequent disability to affect me mentally since there where many things i couldn`t do which i used to do when i wa alright. I became reconciled to the situation and circumstances i found myself in and became determined to fight my ailment.I am now a senior citizen and dependant on others for everything but i have enver become frustrated.I take everything in my stride and remain positive and cheerful.As for helping such persons one should go out of the way but in an unobstrusive manner and with tact so that their egos are not bruised nor are they made to feel that they are obliged.

some people do not have the fortatude to do what they need to do. They perhaps need more help from their parents and aren't getting it. Maybe they think things should come easier and get frustrated because they don't. Why not help them? It would probably make us feel better as well as them.

yes most of the time. even me there are times i get frustrated when i plan to do something or like to acquire and there are many hindrances. it get me mad as t mean another failure on the way. likely, failure makes me realize my weakness and learn to identify the weakest points and the next time i already know to tackle it.

I rather see people get frustrated often and there were a time or two where I got frustrated about something. I mean there's something that really looks so easy. But its not easy. Then really, looks can really be deceiving. So when I see someone struggling with something, I do feel their pain and it is rather a bad state to be. And those people tend to sometimes be furiously independent. Which just makes them more frustrated. And not to mention a bit snippy when we try and lend our helping hands to guide them through. It is really sad to watch, but it is just something in life where people are going to get rather frustrated. It can be an absolute positive trainwreck to watch.

It is better if they are the one who ask us for our help instead of helping them so that they would not feel upset. Those elderly feel insecure or they lose confidence if we try to help them. They feel that way because they think that if someone would help them, they feel helpless and worthless because they are old. So what they did is they do it for themselves even if they cannot do simple tasks that leads them in frustration. We feel guilty about those people we see who struggle to do things that they cannot do but there is nothing we can do about it. For me, it is better if they are the one who ask us for our help.

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