Is something wrong?

@Greninee (369)
Philippines
February 6, 2012 5:12am CST
Hello everybody! Maybe you are tired of listening to my endless chit-chat about my happy moments together with my co-staff( my crush).LOL! But forgive me for sharing another moment with him...hahaha... It's lunch time and we ate together. It's a month of hearts right? He invited me to watch a movie together! waahhhhhh! I'm screaming inside! But I tried not to show it in my face and the way I move because I am used to that!hahaha! I said, :"that's a good idea but we have no money,hahaha". We laugh. But here is the point of my discussion. I keep on observing him for many days and I observe he seems like he avoids me. I don't know why i feel this,maybe I am just falling for him?Oh my! And he keeps on teasing me to the other guys...hmmm? something wrong? Whenever he teases me, I just smiled. Then, sometimes he acted like he didn't care. And he is asking me for the second time where is our other co-staff(it was kristine) and I'm kinda jealous but I act like it means nothing to me. any comments? thanks!
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@5mahi05 (667)
• India
6 Feb 12
hello Greninee, Well, we never get bored of anything here on mylot. Feel free to share your feelings. Well, he has asked you out for a movie, so that means he would like to spend some time with you outside the office. You are feeling insecure recently and feel like he is avoiding you could be because, you are expecting the relationship to take off in a jet speed, in jist, you are fantasizing being with him, which is not happening. Crush as you said, all these happens. He keeps teasing you with other guys?! Is it the same guy or different guys?! Observe that! Guys have the tendency to check on if you are interested in other guys this way. Sometimes he acts like he doesn't care, which means there is something disturbing him when you just smile. May be he just wants you to be verbal enough to tell that you are not interested in any other guy. (you can even add "other than you" if you wish to ;) ) He is bringing in another girl between you means, he is trying to see whether you feel the same and jealous as you feel. May be he is also observing you like you are observing him. If things are as I think, then either he would want you to open up to him about this, or he will soon stand on his knees in front of you. Be prepared for both! Guys now a days are smart enough to make the girl speak first!
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@Greninee (369)
• Philippines
6 Feb 12
Hello friend! Thank you my friend...that's very fattening to my part. thank you guys for listening to me. yes, you are right that maybe I just fell it because i am expecting...so glad that I shared my feelings here in mylot because there are good listeners like you guys and I feel happy.he teased me to different guys. Yes, maybe he is also observing me. hoooooo! I can't breath if he gets closer to me and smiles at me. I also observe that if I am happy, he avoids me. If I am busy or moody, he keeps on teasing me and make me laugh..hmmmmm....I guess I should be more observant.thanks a lot. mwaaaahhh.advance happy valebtines day!
@5mahi05 (667)
• India
6 Feb 12
Advance happy valentines day wishes to you too! Hope you spend your valentines day with your boss this year! ;)
@eljayo (1107)
• Philippines
6 Feb 12
Hi!I think you should not show too much affection for him. Don't be too obvious and don't expect too much from him. Just be yourself. It is best that you concentrate on nurturing your friendship with him then decide afterwards.:)
@Greninee (369)
• Philippines
6 Feb 12
hello eljayo! well, you're very right my friend. That's why I really do my very best not to be so obvious. I'm afraid I will fall in love with him. I had a realization right now... We always avoid to get hurt, to expect and to cry but we cannot simply avoid it if we started to love...And I'm afraid to love...I think I'm still immature when it comes to love. Thank you for advice my dear friend.Okey, i will focus on our friendship. I will do my best. mwahhhh...thank you.
@sid556 (31018)
• United States
6 Feb 12
Hi Greninee, Well, I for one am not tired of your stories. This is the first one I've stumbled upon (that I recall). Anyway, to me it sounds as if you have a huge crush and that you are reading to much into little things & worrying that something is wrong and maybe he isn't returning your feelings. He asked you to watch a movie with him and that is a real good sign. Since neither of you have any money, how about inviting him to your place for a drink and maybe watch a movie at home? Maybe when you laughed and said that neither of you had any money, he took that as a "no"??? I think you should have just said "Sure, sounds like fun." Maybe he has money set aside. I can't imagine that he'd ask you if he didn't plan on paying for it.
@Greninee (369)
• Philippines
6 Feb 12
Yes, i think i had a huge crush to him but I really do my best not to be so obvious because I just want also to observe him. I don't know if he took it as "no" when we both laughed. I think you have the point my friend that he didn't plan to watch a movie if he has no money set aside. well, thank you so much my friend. I feel so flattered that you remembered me.:-) It's the reason why I stay here mylot because of you guys! mwahhhh..thank you for the advice!happy valentines day!
• China
7 Feb 12
judging from the state what you said, i just think, maybe a man could tease his loved girl or do not care her sometimes,but he must know the limits. so you should consider give his some times to test again. once he made mistake again, leave him at once. the follow you can only need to wait until a gentlemen come into your life. have a nice day !
@obe212003 (2302)
• Philippines
7 Feb 12
it is for you to find out and for him to continue give hints, lol! in a way a friendly gesture could be mistakenly equating to having affection in a more normal level, but obviously you seem smart to realize what he is up to and more importantly how you feel towards him..
@TrvlArrngr (4058)
• United States
6 Feb 12
Try to find out if he is in a relationship with another coworker as that could be very awkward. Just play it like you have been and good luck.
@jaiho2009 (39084)
• Philippines
6 Feb 12
Since I do not know the real issue with your friend- I do not know what to comment. However, I will try to comment from this post. Just give it a little more time. If you think he doesn't have same special feelings towards you, then moved one and try to entertain other guy/s. But, if you think he has no guts to tell you what he feels (maybe becoz he doesn't want you to feel he is taking advantage with your friendship) then, why not try to make the first move. I am not saying that you flirt with him- but why not try to keep a distance or be indifferent (not the usual closeness) Wait for his next move- I am sure he will confess his feelings soon (unless he really doesn't have same feelings towards you) Oh girl- this is really hard!
• Philippines
6 Feb 12
For me, it means two things. It's either he likes you and he's testing you if you like him back, or he doesn't like you at all and he's pushing you to other guys. When he asked you to watch a movie and he told you he doesn't have money, you should have said jokingly that you'll pay for both of your tickets and observe his reaction. If he's avoiding you, just ask him. That maybe a bit frank but us men need to be asked or told directly what women want because sometimes we just don't get it. Hope I helped. :)
@yanzalong (5918)
• Indonesia
6 Feb 12
It seems to that the guy plays hard to get. I think he likes you and to prove that you like him, he tried to make you jealous by asking about kristine. He knew if you were jealous.
@enelym001 (8333)
• Philippines
6 Feb 12
Hi there Greninee, I can feel that you two are getting really close. I think it is only you who thinks that he seems to avoid you. Maybe you are just feeling a little paranoid. But because he invited you to watch a movie with him, it is great. Maybe he was teasing you with other guys just to see and assess whether you have feelings for him or not.