Is your family superstitious?

@Porcospino (31366)
Denmark
February 6, 2012 12:33pm CST
When I was a child I spent a lot of time with my grandmother and we have always had a very close relationship. She is very superstitious and warned me about the things that I should avoid. She told me not to walk under a ladder, open an umbrella inside the house etc. One day when I was a child I had borrowed a book about palm reading at the library and I asked my grandmother if I could see her hand. She said: "Oh no, absolutely not. That is very dangerous, because if you look at people's hands someone is going to die" and she told me to never ever do that. One night my parents had invited some relatives and friends for dinner and the number of people was 13. My grandmother refused to sit in at the dinner table. She told my mother that she would be having her dinner in the kitchen while the rest of the guests had their dinner in the dining room. My mother tried to talk her out of it and asked her to have dinner with the rest of the family, but she refused, and my parents chose to invite one more person so that we were 14 people instead of 13. Did you grow up in a superstitious family? Which kind of superstition have you learned from your parents or your grandparents?
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@_sketch_ (5742)
• United States
7 Feb 12
Yes, my family are pretty superstitious, but nowhere near the level of your grandmother. I used to be a bit superstitious as a child, having learned it from my parents and other family members, but as I got older, I questioned things more and more and I require more evidence to believe something nowadays. Some superstitions I have believed include ghosts and "jynxing". I consider religion to be superstitious, but I know that's fighting words to a lot of people.
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@_sketch_ (5742)
• United States
10 Feb 12
Okay, so someone experienced something similar, but that didn't really answer my question as to why you think it was a ghost. On mushrooms, me and two other people all saw a curtain move and we thought the window was open. It wasn't.
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@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
8 Feb 12
I think that a lot of people would get angry that if they hear you say something like that about religion. That could lead to many long dicussions... I don't consider ghosts superstition, because I have met a ghost myself and so have my husband and some of the members of my family. It is really a subject that divides people in two groups: The people who believe in those things and the people who don't belive in those things. Here on MyLot I have met both groups, and it is interesting to talk to people who agree with me as well as people who don't agree with me.
@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
9 Feb 12
I didn't see the ghost, I only heard it. I was very skeptical at first and I thought that it could have been a hallucination or something like that, because I had never experienced something like that before. I was staying with a friend when it happened and when I mentioned the things that I had experienced in the room he told me the his roommates had experienced the same thing as me. He said to me: "I never really believed them, but they have told me that they have heard something in that room". I am not the only person who has experienced strange things in that room and that is the reason why I don't believe that it was a hallucination.
• Philippines
6 Feb 12
No, we are really not the kind of family that believes on superstitious belief. I think that it now a modern day era. People don't easily believe on that kind of stuff.
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@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
6 Feb 12
Some people in my country still believe in that kind of superstition, but those things aren't as as common today as they were in the past. When I look at my own familiy I can see a big difference between my grandmother's generation and my parents' generation. My parents are less superstitious than my grandmother and they have never warned me about the same things as my grandmother.
@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
9 Feb 12
I can easily imagine your feelings when you discovered that your cat was gone, because I have experienced the same thing as you. It was not a cat, it was a guinea pig. While my parents and I were on vacation they asked my grandmother to get rid of the guinea pig. When we returned from our vacation my guinea pig was gone and I was so angry and hurt that they got rid of it behind my back. That is something that I would never to do my child if I become a parent, I think it is so wrong to do that. I really wanted a cat when I was a child, but my father always said: "No way, I hate cats" so I never got a cat. Now I am an adult, I have my own home and my own cat
• Calgary, Alberta
9 Feb 12
When I was a little kid, my cat gave birth to a white kitten, I love that kitten so much but my mom gets rid of it while i was not around because she believes that black cats gives bad luck. Thats why the moment I turned 20. I moved out from my parents. I love animals, they dont, also they dont like animals cos they think they were stinky and they cared about hygene so much.
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@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
7 Feb 12
I feel that in every family there will be some member or the other who would be superstitious especially an older member.In my own family most of the members are quite superstitious - my grandmother would never venture out to do any work on a Tuesday since it is considered inauspicious ....One of my aunt always drives forward and then only reverses her car from the garage.She says one should never straightaway reverse the car, though I am not still sure why? lol....it becomes a habit after a while and they accept it without thinking or analysing.I am not at all superstitious except that, after many incidents I tend to believe in my intuitions even if it sometimes seems far fetched !all the best
@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
28 Feb 12
You wrote that your grandmother considered Tuesday inauspicious. That is interesting, I hadn't heard that before. The only superstition that I know about the days of the week is the superstition about Mondays. My grandmother always said that we shouldn't start something new (education, job, business etc) on a Monday because that would bring bad luck. That was often hard to avoid because school often started on a Monday. In my family my grandmother is the only really superstitious person, and most of the superstitious beliefs I have learned from her.
@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
28 Feb 12
Down South most people consider Tuesday inauspicious, this inspite of it being called Mangalvar ( mangal meaning auspicious )...As you rightly point out it is rather hard to avoid Monday since it is the first working day of the week !
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@ankit_620 (496)
• India
6 Feb 12
Yes i grew up in a superstitious family.It is at times really crazy the way they think about certain stuff.It was like if a black cat crosses your way then it gives you bad luck or if someone sneezes before going to do an important task then it won't go well something like that.A broken glass in house is hex.These were some of it but i don't really bother about them.
@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
6 Feb 12
The thing about the cat that crosses the road it also one of the things that I learned from my grandmother. She took it very, very serious when something like that happened and she was very worried about the bad luck that was going to come. I am not as superstitious as my grandmother is, but I still remember all of the things that she told me and the things that she warned me about.
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• India
6 Feb 12
You had this superstition is your family too,i thought i was only in my region.Well you know for me it is very annoying kind of stuff because you know whenever a black cat passes and my mother or my any family member is with me will get a hold of me or make stop so that i don't cross the cat path and so they make me wait for someone else to pass by it.
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• Philippines
7 Feb 12
Me three I guess. Mine runs in the family. It's not just about bad luck, though, it's also about the good luck. I can't believe my fastidious mother actually buying things that are supposed to bring luck or good fortune. I know that it's hard to explain to her and nothing really is harmful but I really don't get in believing in luck or doing a certain way just to get luck. I believe in hard work, determination and skill. But in debates, I usually give up since she's so fixed with the idea.
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@megamatt (14292)
• United States
7 Feb 12
Thankfully we are not superstitious. I have a family that granted is very much not without their own quirks. However, there are just going to be a lot of times where they are pretty much grounded. A look at a lot of these superstitions and rather chuckle a lot of the time. I don't believe in bad luck, I don't believe in the concept of luck period. Granted these superstitions are extremely interesting to research and look at how they originated. However, I regard them in the way I regard a lot of other things. With a kind of amusement. Granted, it is not so much the thing, but rather the belief of the thing and people tend to subconsciously sabotage themselves. The mind makes things real enough to do damage.
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@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
12 Feb 12
I think that you have a good point about the people who believe in those things. I think that it is true that they subconsciouly sabotage themselves in some cases. Sometimes they do something that is supposed to bring bad luck and afterwards something bad happens. Superstitious people like my grandmother think that there is a connection between the superstition and the bad things that happen, but the bad things might have happened anyway. They see the connection between the superstion and the bad luck, because they believe that there is connection. People who are not superstitious think that bad luck that came after they saw a black cat or something similar was just a coincidence. I also think that it is interesting to research the superstitions and find out how they actually started. Some of the things that people believed in the past are a little funny when we hear them today, but in the past they really believed in those things.
• Ireland
7 Feb 12
Hi Porcospino, To a degree my family were and still are superstitious but not sure that they would have taken it as seriously as your family but who knows. There'd be mentions of breaking a mirror meant 7 years bad luck, not to walk under a ladder, if your nose was itchy it meant you were going to argue with someone, if your right hand is itchy not to scratch it because it means money is coming your way and if you do scratch, the money will be forfeited. Something about magpies as well (one for sorrow, two for joy and all that). Ditto Oshy about spilling salt and dropping cutlery meant certain visitors coming to your door. Also bird pooping on you brings good luck......for me that last one is true! Several years ago when I was childminding from home I was wanting to fill the last vacancy I had and within a couple of days of the poop incident I started to look after a baby girl. Coincidence maybe but I'd rather not chance something when I know what it may bring! IrishGal77 :)
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@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
28 Feb 12
Yes, the broken mirror that is another type of superstition that I remember from my family. My brother once broke a mirror that I had in my room and my grandmother was really worried about the bad luck that he would attract, but nothing happened. I didn't know the superstition about the magpies, but I have heard about the bird poop. I have never experienced it like you have and it was interesting to hear about your experience and the things that happened to you.
@barehugs (8973)
• Canada
6 Feb 12
As the earth increases in consciousness, many old beliefs and values have changed. I am from Canada where superstitions and religion are in the decline. Very very few people are concerned if a black cat crosses their path, and many of our Christian Churches are abandoned, and falling down.We are a well educated people,who have evolved beyond such primitive thinking, and we value our modern life style. Canada is one of the best countries in which to live and raise a family!
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@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
7 Feb 12
In my country many things have also changed compared to the past. Many people from my grandmother's generation are still superstitious, but among younger people superstition is less common. You mentioned that many of your churches have been abandoned. In my country some of the churches have been turned in other buildings and the number of people who go to church is quite low compared to the number of people of who live in the country. On Sundays many of the churches are almost empty.
@Sreekala (34312)
• India
7 Feb 12
Hello Porcospino It means superstitions have their own roots all over the world and I think it may be different in place to place. It is difficult to convince the people who are superstitious. I too heard many superstitions in the childhood. But thanks to my aunt, (paternal uncle’s wife), when anybody said about a superstition she used to explain why they are spreading that belief to us. Moreover, she explained scientifically the reason behind on the superstition. I think it helped me and realizes the fact and imagination. (In our place superstitions are making us to follow a good habit) I would like to add, I don’t have any idea why No. 13 is considered as bad and can’t find any logic behind the same. I born on 13 of a month.
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@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
8 Feb 12
I think that the superstition about number 13 is related to the Bible and the last supper. My grandmother is very scared of the number 13. My first apartment had the number 13 and when my grandmother heard that she immediately wanted me to find another apartment, because she thought that it would bring me bad luck to live in buidling with the number 13. I am not as supersttious as my grandmother, I was just happy that I had found an apartment, so I didn't want to move. Nothing bad happpened while I lived there and I wouldn't be afraid to live in number 13 again. I heard there are some hotels that skip number 13, because many people don't want to live there, but I haven't actually seen a hotel without number 13.
@dodo19 (47117)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
6 Feb 12
As far as I know, no one in my family is really superstitious. I can't say that I grew up around anyone who was really very superstitious. If anyone in my family is, well they never showed it or said anything about it.
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@ckyera (17332)
• Philippines
7 Feb 12
Hi Porcospino! I have heard some superstitious beliefs from some elders in our place but our family don't believe on those things at all. I don't know, its maybe because of our religious affiliation. But with some relatives who are not a member of our religion, they do believe and practice those beliefs...
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@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
12 Feb 12
It was interesting to read about the connection between superstition and religion. In my family my grandmother is the only person who is very superstitious, my parents, my aunts amd uncles etc have heard about the different kinds of superstition, but there is a difference between them and my grandmother. Like your family they have heard about those things, but they don't believe in them. My grandmother really believes in the superstition and she takes it very serious.
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
7 Feb 12
Hi Porcospino There are many superstitions here in Indian families. Cats crossing the path, sneezing before you just start out with something afresh, dogs wailing at night - all are supposed to bring bad omen. tens of such more if not in hundreds Personally, I did not believe in any of those, though there seems to some connection and sightings (in my personal life) when I faced bad omen when I had heard dogs wailing and crying out loud at night... At times I seem to start believing that dogs wailing in the nights do bring bad omen the next day but again, there are many days when nothing that bad happens. Still unsure what I follow - go with my belief or leave it as all other superstitions...
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@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
7 Feb 12
It is also my experience that it sometimes seems like there is a connection between the things that happen and the superstition and sometimes there is no connection. I am not as superstitious as my grandmother, but I still remember the things that she has told me and the warnings that she has given me. Sometimes I remember some of those old things that my grandmother told because my husband mentions some of the same things. My husband is very superstitious, too and he believes that many things lead to bad luck.
@fannitia (2167)
• Bulgaria
6 Feb 12
Nobody was superstitious in my family. Maybe this is strange that my grandmother wasn't at all because she was born at the end of the 19th century in a small village. I remember that a bogey man was supposed to take me if didn't eat all my meal. But she wanted only to frighten me and make me eat. Of course we know about things like the black cat crossing your path but we don't take them too seriously.
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@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
7 Feb 12
I used to be scared of the bogey man and I thought that he was living inside my closet My grandmother sometimes tried to scare me into eating, too. I was very fussy when I was a child and there was a lot food that I wouldn't eat. That was a topic that we discussed very often. It a little strange to think about that now, because today I love to taste food that I don't know.
@KOSTAS499 (1624)
• Greece
28 Feb 12
Unfortunately Greeks are superstitious, but I have decide in some point in my life to overcome all that and live a free life.
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• United States
7 Feb 12
I don't think any one in the family is truly superstitious. But on the same token we have all heard those stories about walking under a ladder, opening an umbrella in the house, hanging a horseshoe with the ends up, beware of black cats, and if you spill salt you have to grab a pinch and toss it over your left shoulder. I think we have continued with these as more traditions and things to share with the next generation than of being really superstitious. Then again maybe they were and we all follow along without being aware we are. There were some other things too about itchy palms, itchy nose, etc.Can't remember what they mean now; one was where you would be receiving money and another you will be giving money and many more. Interesting how families hand down these actions from one to another.
@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
10 Feb 12
I remember the itchy palms. I think that the right hand is the "the lucky hand" because it means that you will receive money. If your left is itchy you are to lose money or give money away, so that is not a good sign according to the superstition I don't know what an itchy nose means.
@surekharathi (14146)
• India
21 Nov 12
Recently I started a discussion if cat cross our path means bad and change the route, yesterday started dont sneeze of anyone going out of home means our family is superstitious. Because they think more about all these and now I also fear so follow all rule. Ohhh I heard 3 no. is bad no. not 13 I heard this many time from many people. Specially when we are doing pooja(worship) not 3 members together but join at least 4 or less 2
9 Feb 12
hi Porcospino! well, not only my grandmother is superstitious but most of my family likes that... you can't eat at the doorway! you can't eat while walking! you are girl you marry after your older sister! and there are still many others...
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• India
29 Aug 12
Some people are very superstitious and always give importance to the traditional beliefs, mostly elders in our family are in this sort. Even though we are living in the modern scientific world, our grand parents always give importance to the traditional things and believe various superstitious quotes and make us to believe them, some times our elders will force us to do some things due to the superstitious belief, we are in need to do the thing due to give respect to the elders words. I am from an orthodox family. My mother and granny always give importance to the traditional beliefs and do things based on it. We tried a lot to change their attitude, but they never give up their superstitious activities. Till today they are following some old tradition and conducting various fasting activities if some one suffer with fever. As we know getting sick is quite common to every one and we can come out from it by visiting our doctor, but my mother will pray a lot if some one in my household got sickness and avoid eating food and continue her fasting activities until the person recover from the illness, this activity gives health issues to her. Also she is having great faith with some old quotes like don't do any good thing on the date 13, don't go outside while a cat crosses aside and so on. I hate this kind of superstitious belief and never give importance to them. This kind of traditional quotes don't have any scientific proof and we must avoid following such kind of unwanted beliefs.