Am i right to let me son go traveling alone?

@Archaiwy (599)
China
February 16, 2012 3:02am CST
Tomorrow my son will go to a far-away place to have a test.He will take more than eight hours on the train to go there.Yesterday he told me to text his teacher about this.When i telephoned his teacher today, he asked me if i really let him go there alone.I said yes.From what he said i learn many of his classmates were accompanied by their parents and that he didn't understand why i didn't accompany him . I said i believed my son will do it.Mylot friends,Am i right?If you were me,what would you do?
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15 responses
• United Arab Emirates
16 Feb 12
Hi Archaiwy The most important question here is "How old is your son?" We should send our children alone or should accompany them...It depends on their age and off course their maturity level...
@Archaiwy (599)
• China
16 Feb 12
sorry i forgot it .he was 16.And if he is a grown-up,he should travel alone.
• United Arab Emirates
16 Feb 12
In my view a 16 year old boy can/should travel alone...He can manage it... These are the occasions in life from where they will learn...So I think your decision is correct..
@Dominique25 (9475)
• United States
1 Mar 12
Each parent has to make their own decision. I personally wouldn't let my son go by himself. But then it sounds like he's older? How old is? If it were my son and he had graduated high school and was going for college then I probably would let him go by himself. But if he was still in high school I or his dad would go with him.
@Archaiwy (599)
• China
1 Mar 12
Now we are happy that our son has come back safe and sound and he is feeling good,from which we can see if he is willing to learn take care of himself something that others think he would do will be done by himself.but what the most is that prents let him know they believe in him.
@shylade (3137)
• Philippines
17 Feb 12
if my son can not manage to travel alone then i will accompany him and especially if he needs my support. but if he can already travel independently, i might as well let him alone. it depends upon the situation. but to not worry, God will take care of your son and besides, his teachers are there to look after him.
@Archaiwy (599)
• China
17 Feb 12
Yes.i also thought of it.He would like to travel alone.To tell the truth,i am worried about his travel.i don't know how he manages the travel.On one hand, i would like him to train himself and on the hand i am indeed worried about his safety.So what i can do is pray to the God to protect him.
@pahak627 (4244)
• Philippines
16 Feb 12
It depends on a child's capability. I guess your child is already independent. I know he can manage. You are right. I also have a 16 year old girl but she can't travel alone yet. She's afraid to travel alone. Even matured persons, there are those who feared traveling alone.
@Archaiwy (599)
• China
17 Feb 12
Yeah. Go traveling alone depends on how capable he is.Some adults would not like to travel alone just like me. To be honest , i don't like going traveling alone i prefer some companions.if we face with some troubles we can have a discussion.
• Philippines
16 Feb 12
I believe a 16-year old boy can manage on travelling on his own. You should not worry too much, as long as you knew that travelling on those areas were safe. My mother let us travel alone as early as 11 years old, and we learned how to be independent and learn how to read the signs in order to get to our destination. Indeed, as a parent, you will feel that our children is someone we need shield and embrace always in our nest, just to keep them safe, but I believe 16 years old is a good enough age to let go of the chains and let your child be free in the world. I think you did right Archaiwy!
@Archaiwy (599)
• China
17 Feb 12
Yes. It's common that parents worry about their children no matter how old they are.But children will be grown up sooner or later.so parents should give their children chances to train themselves ,making themselves stronger ,experienced to face the society rather than shelter them.If not ,children will be spoiled.
@maximax8 (28871)
• United Kingdom
16 Feb 12
If your son wants to go alone then I think that you should let him. It will be an eight hour journey and he will have the test when he arrives. I know some of the students might travel together as a group. I traveled with a friend to the Netherlands when I was seventeen years old. I went around Europe on my own when I was eighteen years old.
@Archaiwy (599)
• China
17 Feb 12
You are brave.I want to give my son a trying chance,but in the deep heart, to be honest i am worried about his safety.After all he is young and the society now is not so stable .There are some bad people around.so i tell him to keep in touch with me all the time.
@Masihi (4227)
• Canada
16 Feb 12
I wouldn't let my son travel alone, no way! Too many idiots out there that'll hurt him in some way. It's not safe. In Canada we have a law that we can't even leave our kids alone until they're twelve years old. I know I'd be reported if I let my kids roam by themselves even in the streets so why would you send your kid on a train by himself? Sorry to be harsh, but safety first. I'm VERY strong in this opinion. I don't mean to be blunt or come across as rude, but I have a soft heart for children, and I've read too many abduction stories to be able to allow for any exceptions. If I can't go with my son, then my son isn't going. As I said earlier, better safe than sorry.
@Archaiwy (599)
• China
17 Feb 12
Thank you for your opinion and i appreciate it .Yes. Whether children or adults ,when travelling people should take care of themselves.saftey is the most important.From what you said i know you are a devoted mother.And you are a very polite person.Thanks again.
@shylade (3137)
• Philippines
17 Feb 12
it depends on how old id your son and that he can already travel independently. but for me, i will accompany my son unless i have a very important things to do and he can already manage to travel alone.
@sishy7 (27592)
• Australia
17 Feb 12
A young man of 16 could be mature enough to travel by himself. It depends on how your son feels about it. If he feels confident to do it, then it's not wrong to let him. Still, you have to monitor him, especially if it is the first time he takes such journey. I am not sure about the safety issues involved in his travel, but that could also be why the other parents decide to accompany their children.
@Rick1950 (1577)
• Lima, Peru
17 Feb 12
Well, if their classmates are going together with their parents, it would have been better if you had accompanied your son too. But maybe you can't. On this case, it is good if you're frequently in contact with him using a cell phone. You need to know where your child is at every moment. Perhaps you know another parent who is making this travel with his own son too, and you can ask him for watching your own one.
@beenice2 (2464)
• Canada
16 Feb 12
First of all his age? And my answer about that is why does he has to go that far for a test, can't he have it closer or else? Otherwise I make arrangement that I and my husband could go with.
• United States
16 Feb 12
You know your son better than anyone and you know how responisble or irresponisble he is. I would want to ask how old your son is though. Maybe that it why the teacher is concerned. However, perhaps some of his classmates and their parents are riding the same train to the same destination? That might be a good idea - but you know him better than anyone!
@bjc66bjc (6745)
• United States
16 Feb 12
Hi Archaiwy, As a parent and a grandmother, I don't think you should feel bad at all for not going ot letting your son travei alone...He is 16, not grown but I am sure he can/will be OK.. After all there are other adults there.. My daughter went to Psris with the school when she was 16 years old on a school trip...I never worried because she was to far away from me to not hope and pray that everything would be OK and trust in the chaparones..I could have gone but I could not fford to go..that was over 20 years ago... Be Happy, wish him a safe trip, and just pray,,,,everything will be fine....
• United States
16 Feb 12
I let my daughter fly from Florida to ny when she was little and that was fine. I let her go to school on the bus that was 9 hours away as well. My daughter is 17 years old now. but her first plane ride was about 8 alone. she was with the airport staff. Hope this helps.
• China
16 Feb 12
hi archaiwy, so you son is 16. I think you are right to let him go traveling alone. A child's education has always included teaching them how to be good members of society, so I think you have made a wise choice to let your son to touch the society by himself when he can traveling alone :)