Marriage. How to proceed? Any tips?

Is it really the custom in your country? Well, i would say that it would be difficult to marry someone you don't know. You will be together for life and how could you get along with her instantly. Although there are arranged marriage that lasted, i would say that you should give yourselves time to know each other better. The descriptions on her you receive from other people may not be accurate so it is best that you be the one to really know who she is. Good Luck!

My piece of advice. It's a tradition in our country, so don't give too much importance about the stranger thing. Just make sure the family background of her is ok. (In our tradition, elders take care of that too.) The first two years of your married life is very important. Don't take anything for granted and don't let anything to be taken for granted. (It's a tough thing, but you have to.) Keep it simple. Remember the popular saying "Don't say YES when you want to say NO; Don't say NO when you want to say YES". This one thing will do.

There is nothing wrong in your being impressed by her profile and feeling she would be a good match for you.But I would also suggest you need to talk to her before ; you are pretty close to your family; only son a nd a loving brother.Your family is also pretty cose knit.Make it very clear to her that you need your personal space and ensure that she would be a contented , happy girl.What is her qualification? Will she take up a job? WHat is her father doing? How many siblings does she have ? Is her mother a good , nice, decent lady? You need to find all this out. Nowadays, girls hae a lot of expectaation from life and expect these to be fulfilled by their husbands. Be aware of all this and ensure that she would suit your lifestyle.

Not only choosing anyone whom you like. Better to start a relationship being girl friend or boyfriend to develop love which is the most important in a relationship...

Hi shibham, How is it? Once you have said she is your choice as she is well educated, cultured, beautiful etc. there should not be any question of stepping back. This is an arranged marriage. Go to her, have a chat. See if she would fit on your shoe. If yes, yes, and if no, no. After all this is your life not of your parents or relations'. The choice is yours.

I would suggest both of your meeting in person-- have discussion about likes, preferences at least for an hour. Learn about educational qualification, work experience, employment,habits. If both of your like each other proceed. blessings.

Hi shiby and felicitations to you on your forthcoming marriage. I noticed primarily that your discussion was about your bride, your marriage and about how you are feeling about things. You will do yourself and your bride a huge favour if you start getting into the habit of caring about her, her fears, her thoughts, her happiness. If you only think of yourself, she will become miserable. If you always put her first, you will set a good example and hopefully, she will do the same for you. This will create happiness and harmony between you and then love will grow.

are you ensure love her?that's not a good idea to know a girl depend on some informations without contact,i think you should spend some time to get along with her to know much better about her,marriage is a very important thing in our life,you should have your own choice and choose your bride by yourself,your parents are good for you and their reference maybe becoming to you,but the most important thing is the bride becoming to you.

Hi shi... Such good news from you so early in the morning, congrats! Are you excited? You must be We do not practice arrange marriages nowadays but during my parents' time, they still do. The boy and girl would still meet however, go out together to get to know each other better before they really decide. It would be good to do that shi, and also best to reach an understanding with her as to how to make your marriage work better. I believe the key factors to a successful relationship will include mutual understanding, trust, love, care and concern, and sufficient communication. Of course these factors are not exclusive, and you may find yourselves connect in many other ways. All the best to you!

hi shiby, My clan actually was into arrange marriage before until mom broke it glad she did my auntie and uncle got married through arrange marriage after 30years my auntie found her true happiness and annulled her husband I asked her once did she ever been happy with my uncle she said Yes but not all the time though her husband was a good man. For me marriage is a long time commitment something that love should always be present and the end of the day it's still your decision. I hope you find the one and have a happily marriage life happy mylotting

Oh my, that's pretty tough! Why you haven't found the girl you certainly love and not being arranged by parents? are you a home buddy or what? i am confused with this... i can't imagine getting married of a stranger.. but if you're really hopeless and you want to have arranged marriage then it's all up to you. The best thing to do is to pray and ask God for guidance.. i hope you'll make the best choice. Marriage is sacred..Godbless

Hi Shibham, Congrats on your choice. It is good that you are getting /gathering all details about her but I really feel you should meet (see) her once before the final call/wedding. After your first meeting, half of your problems would settle down and you won’t have to worry about the rest. If possible, try to do the shopping, wedding discussions etc jointly that would make you closer to your ‘stranger’. Since she’s educated, I am sure she would also like to meet you before wedding. Why do you not want to meet her? is this her decision too? Wishing you all the best..

Hello Shibham, Nice to know that you have selected a girl for yourself who is well educated, beautiful and cultured. Well if you have chosen her based on her bio data or profile without even meeting her for once, I am sure your decision has come out purely from your heart. And in such matters we should listen to our heart. But as you mentioned you haven't met her yet, I think you should meet her. Meeting her in personal will help both of you in understanding each other. Will help you know about each others likes and dislikes. And after all communication plays a vital role in the formation of any relationship. Good Luck!

I'm sure she is marrying a nice guy. Make a romantic party just for both of you and let her to wear the wedding dress.Take some photos as a memory for your kids. After all she is not your servant. Congratulatios shiby. hugs.

Why don't your begin to date now and see if your two can hit it on? Arranged marriage can also be good though, if the god 'arranges' you the right one.

Hi Shib, it is good to know that at last you have found a suitable partner. Since myself is not into arrange type of marriage, so i don't have much info to share. But, from my friend's experience, arrange marriage can be great, too. One of my friends marriage was arrange by her parents. She also married a totally stranger. What her family do is, allowed she and her new partner have a few meetings before they decide to engage and getting married. Now, my that friend had 2 children and their marriage is going stronger day by day. Hope the same good blessing for you and your new partner.

I don't know, are arranged marriages normal in your culture or country? They certainly aren't in my country, so I couldn't tell you how to proceed with it. I guess you two should probably spend some time together and get to know one another and whatnot, so you are no longer strangers.

It is not simple to answer your question as I belong to another culture where there are no arranged marriages. But if you have doubts, couldn´t you arrange to meet this girl so that both of you can see if there is a posibility of future understanding? What does your family think of her? How much do you value your family´s opinions? Those are other questions that are as important. Remember this is a lifelong commitment.

hi bro, never think like that. Arrange marriages are the greatest culture in our india. Go ahead, you have happy life with her. all the best.

Hey this is great you marry with your parents choose lady. Now your day to day task start; you have to make a better understanding with your wife and asking about her choice for example ask question like that which color she like, which type of dress she like and understand her too... appreciate her abilities and so on