What can i do?

China
February 27, 2012 10:23am CST
I graduate from the school for one year. I am coming to new city.Each of things is new.When you cross the crowded city,you will be feeling alone, cause you are in the strange city, you do not have much more friends in the new place. You want to find the right way to live in the new place. But many things make you confused, want to escape and be back to original. When you have not find good job and better live place, you feel upset, then you will think about yourself ability and doubt that you can do it well or not. When you stay in your house and want to cry, everyone understands tears cannot solve problems. Nowadays i really cannot clearly see realistic or unrealistic things, I lost my way, please let many kind-hearted people give me more suggestion and let me understand what can I do in the real world and in the new place.
8 responses
• China
28 Feb 12
Hi! There is no doubt that new place means new challenges in life. But also, it is including new chances that you have never met in your old place. Every young people face the same problem when they are new to a city and many of them deal with it successfully eventually. That can not be easy but don't doubt your ability when you are down. Just working harder for a while then you will get it done! :)
• China
28 Feb 12
hey, you are right , think about toomuch is nonsence, jut do it ,say thank u to u my friend..
• China
28 Feb 12
you are welcome. Good luck in your fellow days and looking forward to hear your good news :)
• India
27 Feb 12
Hello fiend! Why you are feeling lonely? Try to make many friends. And if you cant then we are waiting for you at mylot. Join with us.
@sishy7 (27598)
• Australia
28 Feb 12
Great suggestion here. It could be a start, at least. Sometimes even just reading discussions cheer me up
• China
28 Feb 12
hey my friend ,in the new place, you will adapt many things, new environment make you lonely.
@sayo13 (414)
• India
27 Feb 12
my friend i think you need to retain your self confidence and courage. you are loosing it too soon. Many of us face similar kind of situations in life and that time we really need some kind of support and self motivation from the people in our life. My friend you should start making an attempt to make new friends but be sure that they are good people and you know them well.you need to make your self busy enough to forget all the odd things in your life. you need to share your heart out to someone you trust and i am sure that person can give you enough support or help you to face the life in the way you should. make an effort to do the things that make you happy and feel better. first of all love yourself and have faith in your life. everything will turn up better and hope foe the best. beat Wishes.
• India
27 Feb 12
Its a great idea to make new friends.
• China
28 Feb 12
hey my friend, feel better now! think about many days , i want to change myself,thanks your advise.
• Philippines
28 Feb 12
we also have desame situation well all you have to do is you have to be competitive and be a good friend as well ,, you will forget boredom if you will do it that way and always keep yourself busy and please dont visit crowded area that has a lot of bad guys be wholesome be bold be confident and be yourself i love take care
• China
3 Mar 12
thank you very much!!
• India
28 Feb 12
It is 100% sure that when you want to settle yourself in new city you need to struggle lots. Patience and concentration is the key to success. You just have patience and keep on trying, do not loose your heart, keep positive attitude and work hard, I am confident that if you do such above mentioned practices you will be succeeding very soon. Do not loose your hope, world is too big enough, there must a suitable place for you on this earth.
• China
28 Feb 12
hey friend, you are kindhearted person ,give me this suggestion
@deodavid (4150)
• Philippines
28 Feb 12
Hi there CDIlove, Wow you've got major problem there my friend but anyway let me try to help you out. I have been moving from one place to the other this past 5 years and i could say that i have been very well adjusted to moving. At first it would be hard since i grew up in a province kind of place for 18 years and then moving to one big city after the other, but the key there is always walking around your new place check the sceneries the people whom to get to know and to avoid, the hangouts food places, bars gaming stations whatever, explore the place so that you can enjoy and avoid the fact that it is very different from were you come from because technically it is, so don't fret you can do it.
• China
28 Feb 12
hey, say thank you to u for helping me to solve my issue.
@choybel (5059)
• Philippines
28 Feb 12
You are probably experiencing homesickness and depression. It is a common feeling which will surely pass once you get your self-confidence back, make new friends, and get accustomed to the new place. You will have to adjust to survive and for this you have to stay focus and be strong. It is also a good idea to try to keep in touch with loved ones from other places so as to lighten your burden. Try to find a temporary hobby to keep yourself busy whenever you feel alone and lonely. I do hope you get over this feeling soon. Good luck and more power!
• China
28 Feb 12
maybe you are right ,sometimes i am really homesicked and depressed
@maezee (33317)
• United States
27 Feb 12
Stay strong, don't give up on your goals and aspirations! I am sure something will come up for you in this new city and with this new life of yours. No one said it was going to be easy. See, you're taking a RISK by leaving your comfort zone, where you are used to living. That takes guts.
• China
28 Feb 12
hey, i like your words:"donot give up your goals and aspiration" , i hope i can do it well.