Friend gets really weird when he is drunk...
By maezee
@maezee (41997)
United States
March 24, 2012 5:29pm CST
A few weekends ago I was hanging out with a guy friend that I have known since literally elementary school (over 15 years). I know that he used to have a bit of a crush on me, but I thought that he was over it after me saying I thought we were better off at friends (and there is no mutual attraction there).
The other night we tipped a few back - well, I was drinking beer and he was drinking Stoli vodka mixed drinks, and he got completely emotional on me.
Firstly, he kept grabbing my knee during conversation. Over and over again! Like that was the normal thing to do when talking to a friend. So, he was getting touchy-feely (I told him at that point to BACK OFF), but kept droning on about emotional things and how he loves me and all this. And beyond that, he also kept being a debbie downer about his life, etc etc. He also kept asking me serious questions and lecturing me about my job, my lack of completing my college education, etc. He kept saying things like, "Alyssa, you could be so much more in life than what you're doing right now.. . I was getting beyond irritated!!! While I am trying to relax and have a good time, he was trying to weigh me down with this crap! AGH! And keep in mind This was in the company of other friends, around the bon fire, and we were all just trying to have a good time. He kind of ruined it for me.
I decided I will no longer drink with this guy. When I have a few beers, I do it to have FUN. To relax. Not to get hit on, lectured at, or to be too serious or depressing with.
Man, I am getting angry just thinking about it.
Do you know any 'emotional' drunks? Or anyone who acts like this?
He is normally a nice dude who I can get along with well, but this night... I just couldn't handle it!!!!
And do you think he MEANS what he says when he is drunk, like it is only coming out because his inhibitions are lowered, or is it just drunk mumbo-jumbo?
How do you handle this situation?
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6 responses
@CelticSoulSister (1640)
• Southend-On-Sea, England
6 Jun 12
I think it's because drinking brings down the inhibitions and makes us do/say things that we wouldn't perhaps even think of when sober. As for how to handle it, I'm not sure. I'd probably have said a friendly goodbye to him, left, and gone home, then the next day phoned him to see how he was. If he remembered the drunken evening, he might be ashamed/embarrassed and even offer an apology, or perhaps if too embarrassed, just keep quiet about it due to being too ashamed for words. Whether someone is drunk or sober and trying it on with you, you still have every right to state that it's not what you want and to ask them to stop or you'll leave.
@andy77e (5156)
• United States
27 Apr 12
No actually I do not. Namely because the very moment that someone gets drunk, they are no longer a close friend of mine. I refuse to hang out with drunks.
I have never met a single person anywhere that got to a good place, hanging out with drunk people. Not one.
If refusing to hang out with drunks, cuts down your friends, it's likely the best thing that will ever happen to you, whether you realize it or not.
If he was that out of control on you when you were surrounded by friends, imagine what crap might have happened had you been alone.
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
30 Mar 12
I don't get drunk too often, but I do remember being emotional. I don't like it, so I just (drink and) don't get drunk. And most specially, I don't do it in front of somebody who I could make a fool out of myself.
So, have you talked to him after this incident? I bet he's pretty embarassed!
If not, then there must have been something there to all he was saying.
@mistrynisharg (102)
• India
24 Mar 12
yes you are right.
i have one example of that situation.
before one year my beast friend is fully drunk, i think that was 11pm. and he speak some bead words very loudly in residential area, and because of that some local people bit me. i can't forget that.
@olliekobra1 (1825)
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24 Mar 12
it sounds like this dude has a real bad crush on you, but it does sound annoying what happened maybe you should just hang out with the girlys.
