busy boyfriend..

Philippines
March 27, 2012 9:17pm CST
what if your boyfriend doesn't text you a week or more than a week it is because he said he is so busy with their family business..do you think your important to that person ?
11 responses
@dazzledlady (1619)
• Philippines
28 Mar 12
A week is too long for me to be able to understand that he is busy with their family business. 1 sms, call, e mail or note would be ok telling me that he has some important matters to attend to. I think you are losing him over the business or someone else. If he cannot manage you and their business then why get into a relationship. It is never good to neglect your partner. Communication should always be present to maintain the connection. He has time to court you but when you become his gf he no longer has the time to even drop a call or text? Time for a check, you better start asking yourself or him about the real score. If it really bothers you, tell him if you do not want to ruin the relationship you have with him.
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• United States
29 Apr 12
I agree with you. He could send her some type of message. It would be nice for him to get a hold of her and let her know that he does care about her and that he is just busy. He could also let her know that he will plan something for them to do together. You do make a good point. He has to balance his priorities and if he can't he really shouldn't be in a relationship.
• Philippines
28 Mar 12
No text in a week is something different, it's too long. I don't know what are his excuses but you have to weigh in his reasons before you decide something. In terms of importance, I can't say your really important, sorry, its because of how he handles your relationship. What your asking is just a text, it's not even a call, but he still can't do it. Better talk it out with your boyfriend.
• United States
29 Apr 12
I agree that is a long time. I would be pretty frustrated if my boyfriend took that long to respond to me. I would start to think that he didn't care enough to call me and at least say hi and ask how I'm doing. He may have legitimately been busy but the least he could do is call.
• Philippines
28 Mar 12
Maybe their family business require that he do not use a phone while at work. It might be perceived by their customers as ignorance or showiness.
• United States
29 Apr 12
Yeah that is a good point. If she asks him about that she may be surprised and come to see that that is the case. Hopefully they have talked this through and have been able to understand one another. Trying to balance all of our responsibilities can really be a tough chore.
• Philippines
28 Mar 12
the question is, how long have you been together? how often do you tell him how you feel? it's not just about him. have you asked yourself if you've been vocal to your feelings as well?guys only know black and white and we girls wants all colors in the world. it's not a crime to ask/demand a lil time from your boyfriend because in the first place he's the one who asked you to be his girl. BUT if he's a total jerk that even if you already told him how you feel about not hearing anything from him for over a week, please let it go. he's not worth it.
• United States
29 Apr 12
I think it would definitely help her if she tells him how she feels. Sometimes we forget to speak to the person that we are upset with or that we are thinking about the problems we are having with the person. But it really does help us to be open and honest with the other person. And hopefully they will listen and try to understand where we are coming from.
@bhonti (1247)
• Philippines
28 Mar 12
If you love him that much, I think you should understand him. Just be in his position, I am sure he is in a lot of pressure right now with his work that another pressure from his relationship will you will not help. Just be understanding as much as you can, but he must make sure that he will try his best to have his quality time with you.
• United States
29 Apr 12
You as well make a good point. He probably was under a lot of pressure. Hopefully they were about to talk more about the situation. As long as she tells him how she feels and what she needs from him they will probably be able to keep their relationship strong.
• Vietnam
28 Mar 12
HELLO SCORPI...! I always text messages to my gf everyday. If your bf doesn't text you a week, i am not sure but i think he very busy or you are not important for him. You need talk with him about that.
• United States
29 Apr 12
That is good that you do this. I'm sure that she appreciates this. It's very important to keep communicating with the person we are with. It shows that we care about them and that we value them as a part of our life.
@shylade (3137)
• Philippines
28 Mar 12
i think it is not enough excuse for not communicating with you even in text. unless he had gone to a place where there is no signal or out of the country when he can't use roaming. there are lots of ways he can communicate with you if he really like to. otherwise, he will have many reasons.
• United States
29 Apr 12
Yeah he hasn't contacted her in awhile. It doesn't take that much time to get a hold of someone and let them know that you are alright and that you are thinking of them. Hopefully he has talked with her and that he is doing better in that regard.
@tonyllenium (6266)
• Italy
28 Mar 12
if i make a thing like that to a girl in my country they will leave me for sure...without problems!!
• United States
29 Apr 12
It helps a relationship to communicate. Communicating is key. Without communication the relationship will fall apart very quickly. Hopefully they have been able to work out that issue and that he knows it's important to keep in touch with her.
@lovedude (4454)
• India
28 Mar 12
well it depends upon situation.. how he has behaving with you when he talks, how much time did he give to you when he was not busy.. it may be possible that work load is too much and he is not able to get time for you.. profession is profession, you can't stop him working.. but at the same time he has responsibilities for you too.. I guess he should atleast text you everyday that gm dear or gn sweetheart these words are enough to make you in love for him..
• United States
29 Apr 12
You bring out a good point. It would depend on how he has been acting. And when we know the person we are with we can generally tell if they are really busy or just trying to push us off. So hopefully he hasn't been doing that and he has just been busy. It's a good thing that he enjoys work and is hard working. A lot of people aren't.
@Aja103654 (5658)
• Philippines
30 Apr 12
I don't really know for sure but I will do my best to be patient. If I can't take it, I'll just call him or pay him a visit, but only for a short time. it has to be a surprise visit so that if he is lying, then he would be caught off guard.
@Dominique25 (9475)
• United States
29 Apr 12
That would be very frustrating. And I would start to have my doubts about whether or not I was important. I would let him know that I understand that he has responsibilities with work but that I would like to spend time for him. And that he would have to pencil me in somewhere.