Women Only ~ About Period and Menopause

@NailTech (6892)
United States
March 28, 2012 6:37am CST
I'm so sorry if this offensive to some of you but especially the men, but it is something that has had me worried the past few days. I am 48 and have been thinking I'm becoming menopausal. My periods have been really erratic, I'll have them as usual, then miss a month or two and then like now, they won't end like normal. Mine has been lingering on a bit for at least an extra day or two. I'm getting really worried. The flow isn't heavy the past few days but it should have completely stopped by now. The problem is wether or not to see a doctor and what they will choose to do for me. I have no health insurance. I'm so nervous I've had the shakes this morning, on and off uncontrollably. Thinking bad thoughts.
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12 responses
@carmelanirel (21108)
• United States
29 Mar 12
I saw where you said your mom started menopause at 45, and that can happen, there is no set age when it starts, every woman is different, but typically they do follow their mother's pattern. As for what you are experiencing, it sounds normal to me and as long as you are in no pain and get your yearly checkup, I wouldn't worry about it.
@NailTech (6892)
• United States
30 Mar 12
I was thinking that too following my mom's pattern, she said she didn't have the symtons I do of this nature though but then again I never had kids and she did. So, that made me wonder now as someone else brought that up on this discussion and now it's got me wondering, too.
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• United States
30 Mar 12
Oh, I didn't realize you didn't have children and I don't know if or how much of a difference that would make.
@NailTech (6892)
• United States
31 Mar 12
Tis OK, no worries. I don't know either but it is something to ponder about it seems, now.
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@marguicha (83920)
• Chile
29 Mar 12
Menopause is a normal thing although sometimes it can give problems as hormones diminish. I would say that, whether you have menopause or not, women should see a gynechologist once a year for a checkup and a pap smear. Better be safe than sorry.
@NailTech (6892)
• United States
30 Mar 12
Yes, i agree, and i finally broke down and did it. It wasn't easy for me as I have a strong feeling about some doctors and other things. Wish me luck.
@marguicha (83920)
• Chile
30 Mar 12
My sister never goes to a man doctor for intimate things. She told me once that woman doctors had to be extra intelligent as they studied in spite of all that society punishes them for being women. I had to agree.
@NailTech (6892)
• United States
30 Mar 12
It didn't have anything to do with a man generally, really, but I find female doctors in my case are more knowing of the subject matter on a personal level as they are a female like me.
@Shavkat (50202)
• Philippines
27 Aug 12
As a guy like, the menopausal period strike at early 40s and above. The best thing to do, ask a consultation with obygeine doctor.
@NailTech (6892)
• United States
27 Aug 12
Yes I have. They were pretty much informative. There are times when I already thought I had this before my current age, now. Thanks for the response.
@almond24 (1251)
• Hungary
30 Mar 12
It's not early for menopause at all, especially if your mom had it around your age. Your symptoms can be very easily pre-menopausal symptoms, you don't need to assume the worst, but seeing a gynecologist would probably help. Please try not to worry so much because it won't make you feel better Hopefully the test results will confirm that everything is ok.
@NailTech (6892)
• United States
30 Mar 12
Hi almond, I am trying to not worry. I'm a born worrier though and sometimes friends (like online ones even) help to ease those worries.
• India
29 Mar 12
I think you need a doctor about this matter. So you went to a gynologist. I think he/she will help you. Have a nice day.
@NailTech (6892)
• United States
30 Mar 12
Thanks, yes I did and i hope they can without much other problems.
• Canada
29 Mar 12
With not having any health insurance, you will definitely be paying out of your butt for any sort of health care. Even in Canada, they say or claim that we have ''free'' healthcare. Ummm.. No we don't.. We still have to pay for it with our taxes every years dumb as****... lol Anyway, due to your age, you are close to the menopausal stage. You will begin to get the classic symptoms of Menopause sooner rather than later. I believe you already had stepped one foot in the door with that one.. I know I'm 20 years younger than you are, and know nothing ''personal wise'' but I will once I'm around your age.. I just seen my mother go through it, as well as a few older co-workers. Its not pleasant.. I wonder if not having kids, will make a difference when the time for menopause hits... I don't have kids, and don't plan on having any, Do you think it will be better or worse for me? I wonder if this even matters when it comes to the change of life...
@NailTech (6892)
• United States
30 Mar 12
Yea, it sux to be me right now. This insurance stuff is for the birds. I have heard from some Canadian friends the horror stories, one in particular, of how he has to go through so much hassle for his health problems and the insurance, etc. It is like you get sick over just the insurance thing, and not even about the health problem as much.n I don't have kids either and never thought of the fact it might make a difference, good point. I will ask them about that too if I remember. I have no idea if it will be better or worse for you as I'm in the same boat, and not even sure.
@lady1993 (16213)
• Philippines
29 Mar 12
I learned in school that menstruation would stop after 33 years from your first period- s you should count it first. I think you should g to the doctor, the sooner the better since they are the only ones who can really help you. Take care.
@NailTech (6892)
• United States
30 Mar 12
Wow, that was interesting info. I have never heard that, in my day they never told us that in school. I will keep that in mind and even ask around if others have heard about it, too. Thanks, that was helpful info. I did go to the Dr. Take care, too.
@tipay26 (873)
• Philippines
29 Mar 12
I think the best way to know the answers about your question is to have a check up with your gynecologist.To lessen your worries about your situation and to properly address to you what is really happening on your body.
@NailTech (6892)
• United States
30 Mar 12
Hi, and yes I did go, to have blood tests and then the Ultrasound , I hope to have some answers soon. This is just a big hassle for me but I want to know what's happening with my body.
@marianne87 (3526)
28 Mar 12
I am only 25, and my periods have been irregular for a few years. In the past 12 months I have had 7 periods, irregularly spaced and really heavy. My doctor says there is no medical problem. 48 is very young to become menopausal, I would just wait and see.
@NailTech (6892)
• United States
29 Mar 12
I would have loved to wait and see, but something about it all is making me too nervous. I'm not sure why. I am thinking I just should get some examination anyways after not having them in awhile too. But this is scary for me as I have no idea on how & when this will end. It's been over a week now, and however light but am feeling sort of sickly abit too. Like, not enough energy already. I'm glad you have no medical problems with yours although it is so irregular. I hope it continues to be this way for you but the irregularity would still baffle me.
• Canada
28 Mar 12
It sounds like you are going through pre-menopause. Don't worry too much, everything will be ok. But it is still a good idea to make an appointment with a gynecologist and to make sure everything is ok.
@NailTech (6892)
• United States
28 Mar 12
Thanks maria, I did. I have gotten some blood tests done today but have to go back tomorrow to get the ultrasound done as that doctor wasn't in. I just hope and pray it isn't anything like cancer. I have been worried sick now.
@maezee (29506)
• United States
28 Mar 12
I wouldn't worry too much - it sounds like you are pre-menopausal. My mom is going through the same thing, she is turning 50 this summer. Sometimes she has her period twice a month (actually, it's been that way somewhat consistently). One of my co-workers, who is 55, had her period for three months straight. Not to scare you, but I'm just trying to show how some 'abnormalities' are actually somewhat normal. I would definitely consider getting health insurance though..Personally I don't have it (I will once I am out of debt though, can't really afford it right now), but usually if you live in the U.S., there are plans for low-income folks if you qualify for that, usually less than $100 a month. I think you will probably want to see a doctor eventually. But these kinds of erratic periods are not heard of when your body starts to make 'changes'.
@NailTech (6892)
• United States
28 Mar 12
Thanks maezee for the input. I tend to be an over worrying anyways but when it somes to health and the fact I have no insurance everything worries me. I'm sure I could fins something but what if you have too much money in the bank but still don't make more now (what they consider to be too much anyways, which is just money saved up for years), does that low income insurance qualify? Its all a bunch of lousy red tape to go through for me with it all. :( Thanks for the examples of your co-worker ( doesn't she feel weak from all that??) and your mom, I have been like your mom, sometimes it was twice a month--for every 20 days--it was terrible. Did your mom ever get a diagnosis it was normal? Lately it has been so crazy that I just want a straight answer if I can get it. Thanks for the response, it is somewhat comforting.
@anne25penn (3310)
• Philippines
28 Mar 12
A visit to your gynecologist will be the best advice that I can give you. I never miss out on a doctor's appointment when it comes to women's health issues that I may have. I have PCOS for over ten years now and have had an operation to remove water and cysts from my ovaries so whenever I feel something or notice something unusual with my period, I go straight to my doctor. I also don't changed doctors when it comes to my gynecologist because I have been her patient since 2004. I do hope that everything checks out fine after you do get yourself checked.
@NailTech (6892)
• United States
28 Mar 12
Hi anne. What is PCOS? I just made an appt to go see a gyn. I have not went in a long while and had to find a new one. It's very stressful for me now to think about, I think that's why I was getting shaky.Thanks for the advice about not changing doctors, I think that's a good idea to stick with one, too. Its why I still go the general practitioner DR. I see on occasion. Thank you for the response, I hope it turns out OK too. I go at noon today. Soooo nervous.