A Time for Marriage

Philippines
April 5, 2012 9:31am CST
When is the best time to get married?? I have always dreamed of getting married someday with the person I love.. Now, I have a stable boyfriend and we've been together for quite some time.. Though we haven't found a stable job yet and currently got no savings.. I know this is one thing to consider when planning.. But at my age, I feel like settling down.. I just don't want hurry my partner..
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@obe212003 (2302)
• Philippines
5 Apr 12
Just take your time. Work on your relationship, adjust, have stable jobs then plan, save and visualize your future, and when the time is right, get married. Marriage is a commitment, and surely not a bed of roses. it is better to be prepared and matured before settling.
• Philippines
5 Apr 12
Maybe I'm just letting my emotions rule over.. We also talked about this with my partner but it seemed like we both are not financially prepared.. Guess we'll just have to wait.. Thanx for the advice :D
@obe212003 (2302)
• Philippines
5 Apr 12
Being financially stable would surely be a great advantage as monetary matters are really relevant to any newly weds; a place to live on your own, the basic necessities in life, etc. This basically tends to dictate the future of your family as this what makes our lives miserable or not.
• Philippines
7 Apr 12
You are so right.. I have seen a lot of couples who have jobs but still seem to be out of budget.. And I don't want that to happen to us..
@johndur (3049)
• Pasig, Philippines
6 Apr 12
the best time to get married is when both of you are financially stable to support your soon to be kids until they finished schooling...
• India
6 Apr 12
Hello friend, You are right my friend. I also agree with you. Have a nice day.
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• Philippines
7 Apr 12
And I do too agree with you.. Needs a lot of hard work..
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@else22 (4319)
• India
7 Apr 12
When one gets married,one has to face a variety of situations.One has to face problems and money is required to solve them.Thus financial stability is one of the most essential things that needs to be considered before taking a decision to get married.So first of all, try to get a good job. Equally important is to decide whether your boyfriend would make an honest,loyal,loving and mature husband.You have been with your boyfriend for quite some time.Try to judge him from each and every aspect. Married life is a responsibility.Prepare yourself to shoulder it.And take the decision to get married only when you get well prepared to face all situations.
• Philippines
7 Apr 12
Thanx for the advice.. I'm pretty sure I already my partner well.. Financial stability and job security is what I am after.. If we both achieve that, then probably we will tie the knot..
@j_munkh (30)
7 Apr 12
I think you must have job before you get married. if your boyfriend really love you he must wait you until you have nice job. He also must have job if he really love you. It doesn't matter age in this situation. If you haven't enough money and job you will live very hard.anyone helps you. Because it's your life. They said that you've chosen it yourselves. Therefore don't be hurry to get married.
• Philippines
7 Apr 12
That's true.. That's why I keep on telling him to get a stable job so we could work on the planning already.. Maybe he still wants to enjoy his single life.. And that's still fine with me..
• India
6 Apr 12
Hello friend, i think when the two person are settled in their life and carier then the time for there married.
• Philippines
7 Apr 12
Well, too bad for me I'm still on the process of building a career in life.. LOL
@Cherish14 (2695)
• Philippines
6 Apr 12
hi there, i have responded to many discussions like this before. for me the best time to eat married is not only that you are financially stable, but also physically, emotionally and mentally fit. when you feel like you are ready and at the same time financially stable, then i think that would be a good time for you to get married.
• Philippines
7 Apr 12
I agree with you.. Those should be considered..
@as2006 (5041)
• Israel
6 Apr 12
The best time to get marriage in my opinion and experience is when you feel it in your hart.Then came your family to support,friends and the same feeling must have your partner for life. After that you need emotional and mental stability.....
• Philippines
7 Apr 12
Well I do feel it now.. It's just that I want to be financially stable before really going into it..
@WakeUpKitty (8706)
• Netherlands
5 Apr 12
We had this discussion over here so many times. The time is right for you if you are able to financially take care of yourself and someone else. If you can pay your own rent and are able to be responsible for your deeds, someone else's and the rest you have to deal with. If you don't need to knock on your parents, families and friends door each time you are in need. And if it comes to your partner it's the same. If your partner is not ready you can not get married.
• Philippines
7 Apr 12
By just reading your comment, I can already say that it's not yet the time for us.. LOL Thanx by the way!
@cyrri_ako (461)
• Philippines
5 Apr 12
i got married because i know we're both ready for it...though financially..we were not stable yet...but i knew and i trusted him that much that i know our marriage will be a success...and it is....!!!!
• Philippines
7 Apr 12
Great to hear that.. I'm happy for you! I was also told that my partner will never work hard unless he gets married.. That way, he will be focused and be determined to work.. We'll see..
• India
5 Apr 12
i think as read your discussion, you are matured enough to understand the things required to be covered up before marriage. that's a good start. as mentioned the first thing you need is to have a stable job. 25 is still not the right age to settle down in case you do not have a stable job that too without savings. so enjoy each others company for the time being and get some money in your account and then plan. i got married at 32 with a good balance in my bank account to take the next step in life. some said its late, some said its ok....but i know its my life so that's my decision and advice to you
• Philippines
7 Apr 12
I'm happy for you shwetat195.. Thanx for the advice! I will surely keep that in mind..
5 Apr 12
I think that any time you feel are you in love with each other and feel it's the right time to get Married then that's good. People are different and some may take longer to decide than others.
• Philippines
7 Apr 12
Indeed.. I think I'm of the right age already.. I just have to make sure of our security..
@kaeirole (669)
• Philippines
5 Apr 12
the best time to get married is when everything is settled..mentally and financially..it's really easy to get married..but it's hard when you entered that life and both of you aren't financially stabled..and remember that when you decide to enter that chapter, it won't be your parents'responsibility to support your family..but it'll gonna be you and your husband to be..
• Philippines
7 Apr 12
That's true.. I, personally, don't want to ask for any financial help from my mother or my husband-to-be's parents because that would be very shameful.. I know it really is a big responsibility..
@AJsMom (157)
• Philippines
5 Apr 12
When you feel that you are ready to face everything for you and the family that you are going to build, that would be the right time. When everything has been put into consideration like financial stability, emotional and mental stability that would be the time to decide when. Marriage is full of unexpected events. Make sure that you can defend the family from all adversities. It is a continuous journey and you and your spouse should be in total control. I guess preparing for all of these takes a lot of thinking and discerning. Never rush on marriage. Take your time, you yourself can feel when it is the right time.
• Philippines
5 Apr 12
Indeed.. I appreciate all these advices coming from you guys.. Maybe I have underestimated marriage too much.. I thought it would work with less preparation.. Guess I have to work hard first..