...finally! Trip is over and I won't deal with these people any longer.
By jeanneyvonne
@jeanneyvonne (5501)
Philippines
April 7, 2012 7:54am CST
I am now in a trip with my family in another country (Japan). The trip involved also the collegues of my father and some of their fmailies who opted to join. I was really excited since I was very interested in Japnese culture, its people and the country itself I don't why I feel this way towards anotehr country). The only thing that I am quite disappointed is some of my travel comapnions. Granted that the invitation to us (and other families) are just an extension but I someitmes feel embarrased for them when they goof around. It is supposed to be a relaxing time but I think there should be still some repsect involved.
I don't know if I was in the wrong or if I am reading this too much. Perhaps I expected too much of them since they hold some authority in our local pladce? Whta do you think?
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8 responses
@marguicha (215584)
• Chile
8 Apr 12
It is very difficult to travel with people you don´t know too well. There are lots of small things that you can accept if you are together for a short while, but that you cannot stand on an every day basis. I have treveled with such people a couple of times and I have discovered that you either travel with close people or it is better to do it alone.
@jeanneyvonne (5501)
• Philippines
10 Apr 12
I completely agree with your statement. I guess that the length of the trip plus the anonymity or my less knowledge about my travel companions really contributed to my appreciation of the country and the trip itself. There was a certain distance between the people who joined. There is chemistry between the primary participants and civil and polite appreciation between people who were on the extended invitation (like myself). It was good at first but I guess I could have preferred the trip to be more personal and more lively with my friends and myself more than going with almost compete strangers and my family. At least, there e will be less fuss and friction in terms of dealing with each other. anyway, it was a good trip and I hope the next will be better.
@polilablowe (21)
• Singapore
8 Apr 12
I think, instead of focusing on them on the duration of the trip, you can try to focus more on your interest on the Japanese culture. They may just be excited on the trip as well and in turn they cannot help but look like they are goofing around.
@jeanneyvonne (5501)
• Philippines
10 Apr 12
I guess you are also right. Maybe I did read too much from their actions and I made some assumption on their part. I also think that their goofing around is just a reaction on being foreign country.
@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
8 Apr 12
This is why I don't like to travel in groups of people who I don't personally know. The common denominator might be there - your father, but still the trip wouldn't be so fun with other people involved. I'd rather go with people I know and those I know wouldn't embarrass or cause me stress - afterall, it's a vacation.
I went with a group tour of me and my college friends with our partners last February, it was a certain blast because we knew each other and thus conversations were greater and there wasn't a lot of stress (not major ones).
Have a great MyLot experience ahead!
@jeanneyvonne (5501)
• Philippines
9 Apr 12
I completely agree with you. I went there because my father thought it would be a good family bonding time but sometimes, I felt that I shouldn't have joined because I barely knew these people and I have to act with my best foot (which isn't exactly my description of a vacation).
perhaps I should plan a long-planned trip that my classmates keep insisting about. it'll be probably more fun than this, even just in our local place.
@maezee (41997)
• United States
7 Apr 12
I know what you mean. When you are in any kind of close quarters with anyone for an extended amount of time...Even while traveling...They can drive you nuts. Me & my sister were traveling in Sweden for two weeks and I was mad at myself for allowing her to drive me crazy when we were supposed to be having a good experience. I mean it was a great experience but we drove each other nuts being around each other 24/7 without breaks.
At least you got to go to Japan. That's awesome!!
@jeanneyvonne (5501)
• Philippines
9 Apr 12
Yes, it was awesome and also very tiring. Our tour guide is the most nicest I met and I hope that we did managed a good impression on her. we manged to visit many places but many, especially those who call the shots, want to do the shopping more than being culturally immersed (this is just my impression - I don't really know them personally). I guess disadvantages, disagreements and other nasty stuff tend sot make the trip less happier or successful. there is no perfect trip but I guess I had my own expectations and some few them weren't meant. Anyway, i did enjoy and I hope to go back there as soon as I can.
@closetgaara (128)
• United States
8 Apr 12
I think it's completely natural to feel offended or even embarrassed if the people you're traveling with are goofing around while you're trying to be respectful to a new culture or soak in the sights. I've also felt the same thing at times when some of my friends or family don't pay as much attention to where they are instead of complaining or just messing around. You're on the trip of a lifetime in Japan and should be enjoying all aspects of the culture, so again, I think your reaction is natural. However, instead of looking down on them or feeling disappointed in them the entire time, you should redirect some of that emotion into living up the trip as best you can. Don't let the actions of others distract you from what you want the Japan trip to be.
@jeanneyvonne (5501)
• Philippines
10 Apr 12
That's a very good insight and I hope that I really did soak as much of Japan as I could even though there are a few setback on the way. I guess goofing around is just a down time for those other people on the trip - their way of enjoying this trip. And in this thought, mine was different from theirs. I think that i did enjoy the trip - most of it was pleasant, smooth and very well-thought out. I plan to visit again hen I am able in the future.
@Daisy_22 (1229)
• Philippines
25 Jul 12
Forcing to deal with people you don't like is very difficult.I readlly do understand you. The feeling of having no freedom at all.Keep on being careful with every moves your going to do because of other people.I experience that.Instead of enjoying your trip, i guess it ends up with nothing.I feel bad about it....Especially having no right within your own place..that's worse!
@marguicha (215584)
• Chile
17 Jul 12
I have traveled with other people and also by myself. The two ways have their good points and their bad points. I just came back from a 2 week trip with a friend. There were a couple of times that I felt like murdering her, but on the whole we had a great time together
@honest_efforts100 (1607)
• India
17 Jul 12
Humans tend to be very commanding and very demanding species of creatures especially when given a place of authority and moreover when others are the at the far end of their generousity. Humans like some species of mamals,especially those of the higher order are attention seekers and demand to be recognised for whatever act of gratitude they think they have bestowed on someone else and will do so in the most degrading of ways.Thankfully it is just a one time trip,it ends when you get off that plane and go home and like the trip the experience you had with them will pass and remain but just a fleeting memory.
