Boyfriend / Girlfriend Removing friend from their partner facebook
@lordcaocao2025 (4098)
Indonesia
April 9, 2012 7:33am CST
A few days ago i have a nice chat with a girl. We talk a lot in facebook chat, and we make jokes in each other status. The next day, i try to contact her again, then i cannot found her in my facebook friend. While i searching her, i found out that she was no longer in my facebook friend. After that i contact her again and add her again.
After she approve it, we start talking again and she explain that she have a very jealous boyfriend. He remove me from his girlfriend facebook friend simply because i talk with her girlfriend and jokes around with her. It could happened because the girlfriend give her boy friend her facebook password.
Do you ever experience the same thing that happened to me? Being remove by a jealous boyfriend / girlfriend? Or do you actually ever become the jealous boyfriend / girlfriend?
please share your experience with us.
9 responses
@rusty2rusty (6751)
• Defiance, Ohio
9 Apr 12
I do not share my facebook password with my boyfriend neither does he with me. To me it is easier that way. I don't want or need that access. However I have deleted friends on Facebook that my boyfriend does not like or agree with.
@rusty2rusty (6751)
• Defiance, Ohio
10 Apr 12
I think it is to. But I also believe what is good for them goose is good for the gander. I do beleive in most things equability when it comes to a relationship.
@lordcaocao2025 (4098)
• Indonesia
11 Apr 12
Thanks for the reply rusty2rusty. But i do have a few problem understand you, especially in the sentence "what is good for them goose is good for the gander". English is not my first language, and i rarely used it, so i am sorry if i sound stupid, but could you explain to me what it's meant.
@lordcaocao2025 (4098)
• Indonesia
10 Apr 12
Well thanks for sharing, rusty2rusty. I actually agree with this kind of arrangement. Your boyfriend cannot access your facebook, and you cannot access his facebook. But if he found people that he don't like ( and you think it is reasonable for him to dislike them ), then you agree to remove them from your facebook friend list. I think this is the perfect arrangement.
@Cherish14 (2693)
• Philippines
9 Apr 12
hi there,
that has not happened to me before because i never entertain any boys messaging me on Facebook. i have a boyfriend and i shouldn't entertain anyone else anymore. if i was the boyfriend, i would actually remove you too from my girlfriend's friends' list heheheh sorry 
@lordcaocao2025 (4098)
• Indonesia
10 Apr 12
Well what i do with her is just a talk. We are friend, it mean i know her personally. We talk in real life and we also talk in facebook. I also talk with other girl in facebook. I don't think it is wrong for the girl to do that. She can interact with anyone she want as long as it is not flirting. A good talk with a friend can relieve people stress.
@Cherish14 (2693)
• Philippines
10 Apr 12
oh sorry, so you know each other and you are friends? sorry i thought you just know each other from Facebook.
well i guess there is nothing wrong with that. you can talk and know your limitations since you know she already has a boyfriend. it would be wrong too if the boyfriend is too jealous. i believe everything will be okay as long as we all know our limitations and we know where we stand.
@lordcaocao2025 (4098)
• Indonesia
11 Apr 12
Well yes, the latest update. My friend has forgive her boyfriend because her boyfriend already promised her to not do this kind of thing again. We also friend again in facebook. But after what happened, i don't think i will have a lot of chat with her again. I think i am gonna talk trough other method with her since i don't want to cause trouble for them again.
@lordcaocao2025 (4098)
• Indonesia
12 Apr 12
Well i think there are many reason for people in relationship to chat with other people. People who in relationship does need social interaction, especially with friend. You can talk with people you know and met regularly and chat with them. If people with relationship only can communicate with her / his partner only, then it will be a very boring life.
@lordcaocao2025 (4098)
• Indonesia
10 Apr 12
Well it might happened like that. She is really angry about what his boyfriend do. She apologize to me for what happened. I don't know what might happened next with their relationship. I just hoped that the boyfriend start to understand the important of privacy and stop using his girlfriend password.
@lordcaocao2025 (4098)
• Indonesia
21 Apr 12
Well i do still angry about what he do, but i do forgive him. Because either i forgive him or not, it will not give any effect at all for me. So i choose to forgive, but i will not forget. If this kind of thing happened again, i will advise my friend to let him go and search for another partner.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
12 Apr 12
I've never been the jealous girlfriend and I've never had a jealous boyfriend remove my friends from my facebook account. I even frequently text and talk to my ex-boyfriend with my cellular phone and my husband doesn't even say anything about the fact that he and I talk to each other frequently.
I honestly don't know what I would do if my husband was to get jealous of the two of us because we've been friends practically forever.
@lordcaocao2025 (4098)
• Indonesia
12 Apr 12
Well it is good for you dorannmwin. That kind of marriage must be a very happy one, since jealousy was not on the way of the destroying the happiness you both have. As long there are trust, i am sure, you will not want to miss use the trust your husband give you.
@sparky3dfan (599)
•
10 Apr 12
That's happened to me half a dozen times (being removed from someones list). Doesn't bother me at all, infact it actually amuses me greatly. It's funny to me that just by talking to someone behind a computer screen their partner is getting so frustrated, jealous or annoyed by it they go through the effort of logging into their facebook and deleting me.
Her giving him the password may not be what happened in your case though. A-lot of people these days will let their browsers store their passwords and so on which is fine if you're the only one using the machine or completely trust the other users. Either way its a bit silly he removed you just for talking and joking with her. Keep it up annoy him some more :) (im kidding (kinda))
If they don't have trust even in the relationship with one or the other being online now, I can't imagine how bad it gets offline for them. Maybe its not jealousy either, maybe he has a reason to get annoyed by it from a past experience with her, something she did. Just because she said he just gets jealous doesn't make it 100% accurate.
@lordcaocao2025 (4098)
• Indonesia
10 Apr 12
Well yes sparky3dfan, i think some people are so possessive to their girlfriend / boyfriend, that even a simple chat can make them burn with jealousy. I think this kind of jealousy will make their relationship go into a worse place. They should control themselves more.
@lordcaocao2025 (4098)
• Indonesia
11 Apr 12
Well my friend already talk thing out with her boyfriend. Her boyfriend seems to loose up a little bit and apologize to her. He already promise to her that he will not do this kind of act again. I also already back to become her friend in facebook. But now, i am gonna loose interest at chatting with her again.
@sparky3dfan (599)
•
10 Apr 12
A little bit of jealousy won't hurt at the end of the day. But being that possessive and jealous over a simple chat and joking around (referring to your other reply to me) to me is just normal everyday fun between friends. To me the way hes acting is either one of paranoia, a possessive nature like you said and one of no trust for his gf what so ever. He may have his reasons for that you may not know about. But at the same time she is choosing to stay with a guy that acts like that, hopefully she'll talk to him about it and try to rectify it instead of just living with it.
@offkey (313)
• United States
10 Apr 12
That is crazy, jealousy isn't heathly and isn't good for a relationship and a lot of people on here have issues. My husband has my passwords for everything I have nothing to hide, if he were to delete a friend of mine from my Facebook or anything, I would take offense to that, he cannot say who I can and cannot be friends with unless that person is dangerous. I have had jealous boyfriends in the past, it can become dangerous depending if the guy is violent or not, becareful you don't want your friend in any danger.
@lordcaocao2025 (4098)
• Indonesia
10 Apr 12
Well yes, i don't really know about his boyfriend. But from his act, i know that he is the jealous type. I just hope his jealousy doesn't follow with a bad attitude because it will put my friend in danger. I just hope both of them can understand each other more.
@lordcaocao2025 (4098)
• Indonesia
10 Apr 12
She is just my friend, not my girlfriend. Anyway, i know what i meant. Password should be keep by the owner only, sharing password to other, especially facebook password will make other user use it. It might have a bad effect to the user owner and to the friend of the user.
@girlthing62989 (103)
• Philippines
9 Apr 12
lol! you are aware that the girl you're chatting with has already a boyfriend and you still keep on chatting with her and making jokes? I think that is not normal because the girl is in a relationship and his boyfriend has the right to remove you from his girlfriend's facebook friends because he saw your conversation and being jealous is a normal thing since he love his gf and he wanted to protect his gf from any man who will try to fool his gf and you should be aware of that! try to put your shoes on the boyfriend's shoes and come to think about it. me I will also do the same if i see that my bf is chatting with other woman :)
@lordcaocao2025 (4098)
• Indonesia
10 Apr 12
Well i don't think talking and making jokes it's some thing that can ruin relationship. She was my friend, it just usual interaction. I think it is funny if a person who have a boyfriend cannot be chat too and cannot make tell them a jokes. If i have a girlfriend who laugh at people jokes and have a good conversation, i will not get jealous. If i do flirt with her, then i will be jealous.
I really agree with what sparky3dfan said, "Her boyfriend in my opinion has ZERO rights to delete anyone from her facebook or anything else for that matter without discussing it with her first".
