Disciplinary Action - No Video Games for a Month...
By Muelitz
@Muelitz (1592)
Canada
April 25, 2012 3:32pm CST
In my other post, I mentioned about my son's odd behaviour in school. Although we have not talked about it, I am thinking of imposing a punishment in case I find out he did something wrong. He likes to play video games during weekends and I am planning not to make him play video games for a month. Would that be too easy or hard on a 10 year old kid? How do you discipline your kids?
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12 responses
@safety69 (592)
• Taiwan
26 Apr 12
I think is too much , You should talk to him first , they understand very well , and tell him if he does whatever he did again you will take one weekend off the computer. Dont be too hard on him , I have a almost 10 years old son and I talk a lot with him very serious and friendly , and making him understand the responsability it takes in life. just lead him to be reasonable.
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@Muelitz (1592)
• Canada
19 Jul 12
We gave a way out of the punishment so it all worked out. We promised to lift the punishemnt if he learned to ride the bike without training wheels. We actually thought it would take him 3 to 4 weeks to learn. He did it in less than a week so he was free to play again. Thanks for your input.
@eunique317 (347)
• Philippines
26 Apr 12
I think making him abstain from playing video games is okay as a form of punishment. But you do need to explain why you are doing this to him.
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@ladygator (3465)
• United States
25 Apr 12
Hi! It is very frusterating when our children misbehave in school! I always stress that the teacher has many other kids that they are in charge of. There are so many things that they must teach the kids and when there is someone disrupting he class then that sets the teacher and the studies back for everyone and it isnt fair to all the other students. Now I will set a punishment for usually a few days. But I am kinda light on my kids. If thats what you decide and think that it fits for an appropriate punishment, then it is not to hard. The goal in punishment is for them to understand the wrong and not do it again. A month of him losing our on a favorite thing. Might be just what is needed.
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@Muelitz (1592)
• Canada
19 Jul 12
A month is a long time for a punishment. But there is a way out of that. We told him that we would allow him to play again if he learned how to ride the bike without training wheels. He actually learned how to do it in less than a week. Thanks for your input!
@starsailover (7829)
• Mexico
25 Apr 12
Hi Muelitz: I think that's a good punishment if your boy is not doing things right at school. However you should try to make him understand why you do this and that his bad behaviour makes you take this decision. At the same time, try to administrate with him his spare time to do positive things for him like school activities and stuff. Have a nice day.
ALVARO
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@alphenor (686)
• Philippines
25 Apr 12
Rather than keeping him from something that he's enjoying, why not find him something enjoying that is more productive than those video games and if possible, accompany him in doing that productive activity. In that way, he won't be spending his time on those video games and he still has enjoyment plus your parent-son bonding.
Most of us who play video games are just looking for enjoyment/happiness. It only happened that video games approached us before our parents did.
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@Muelitz (1592)
• Canada
19 Jul 12
I must admit that your response made me think about the time that I spend with my kids. Most parents like me would buy our children toys so that they could play by themselves and so that parents would have time to do something else. I realize that parents should also help or play with the kids so there is bonding. And another great input from you, find another thing for the kids to do. I am proud to say that we have been spending time biking outside. Thanks to summer. Hopefully this will keep their minds off the video games for awhile.
@stary1 (6612)
• United States
25 Apr 12
Muelitz
I think I would start with one weekend and make it clear the 'next time' it will be 2 weekends...I think taking away playing video games for a month seems harsh. Of course it also depends on how long he plays so maybe limiting the play time would also help..good luck..kids can be a challenge...
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@danishcanadian (28953)
• Canada
26 Apr 12
Does he ONLY play the on weekends, or does he play them during the week too?
If he ONLY plays them on weekends, then not for a month might work, but if he plays them all week, perhaps try not allowing him to play them on school nights AT ALL, but keep weekends.
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
25 Apr 12
Hi Muelitz,
I'm not sure what your son did as I did not see your other discussion. Taking away video games is not too harsh at all. If he did not do anything wrong though, I don't think I would make to be a punishment. I would limit his time playing them anyway just because I don't think it is good for any kid to spend too much time on the computer or in front of a tv screen.
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@Muelitz (1592)
• Canada
19 Jul 12
Hi there, odd behaviour meant something that most people would not do. It like something unexpected. For example, when you ride a bus, people would sit on the empty seats or stand if the bus is full. A person that displays an odd behaviour would sit on the floor. Sitting on the floor is not something most people would do so it is considered an "odd behaviour". I hope this helps.
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
26 Apr 12
Yeah I think that that would be a good idea. Children should now that there are consequences for their actions. Depending on what he did you can determine if a month is a good time frame or a few weeks. I think that would be a good discipline action as that is something that he likes to do.
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
19 Jul 12
You are welcome. I'm glad that he did. Children at times try really hard to see how far they can push adults. It's best for us to stick to our resolve and do what is best. Hope that you are having a good day at mylot.
@ungetabe (12)
• Morocco
26 Apr 12
If playing video games is one of his hobbies , it's a good way to show him that each time his behaviour is bad , he won't be able to play for a whole week-end.
And plus , beginning early is good , but don't be too strict , a month is too much i think. It's only a 10 years old after all
@honest_efforts100 (1607)
• India
16 Oct 12
It’s good to have a disciplinary action to your kids in order for them to learn. I think it is hard for hi because he is addicted to that game. And maybe in that way he learns from his mistake and will not do it again. For this moment I don’t have kids and don’t know yet what disciplinary action should I impose.
