I think she is back on drugs again...
By maezee
@maezee (41997)
United States
May 16, 2012 6:04pm CST
Well, what do you know, I haven't been on here in like a week (or so! Omg!) and so get ready for my boatload of discussions I'll be starting.... Starting now! 
. I started a discussion a while back, maybe a few times actually, about my (ex) childhood friend (who also lives in the duplex upstairs from me), being addicted to meth and/or heroin and getting in trouble with the law about it and being forced to go into treatment.
We were talking for a while when she got out, maybe a month or so, I borrowed her like $40, but it seemed like she was incredibly needy (wanted me to hang out with her 7 days a week, almost literally) and really only seemed to want to hang out when she needed something - money, a ride somewhere, cigarettes, whatever. So basically I told her off and now we don't really talk at all.
This makes me sad.... Because I have no idea of what's going on in her life. I know that she is not working or going to school though, and is basically just leeching off of her dad (who is leeching off of MY dad- who is the landlord!)
Anyway, I noticed some weird changes in her behavior... Like how she would sometimes be sneaking off in the middle of the night, and would always have friends over. Right when she got out of treatment she basically said she had no real friends, that I was "it". And now she seems to have a new one over (trashy lookin', too), every day! And is disappearing for odd hours even though I know she isn't working or doing anything with her life at the moment... I also noticed the few times I run into her she is always looking a little rough around the edges.
I am just at a loss. I hate to make judgements, but this is the kind of stuff she was doing when she was a druggie. When she was a recovering druggie, I would hear from her nonstop.
I just wonder if I should try to mend things with her, or if I should just let her go? Should I get involved if she's on drugs again or let her do her own thing and figure it out on her own?
Advice or even just the listening ear is appreciated. 
. I started a discussion a while back, maybe a few times actually, about my (ex) childhood friend (who also lives in the duplex upstairs from me), being addicted to meth and/or heroin and getting in trouble with the law about it and being forced to go into treatment.
We were talking for a while when she got out, maybe a month or so, I borrowed her like $40, but it seemed like she was incredibly needy (wanted me to hang out with her 7 days a week, almost literally) and really only seemed to want to hang out when she needed something - money, a ride somewhere, cigarettes, whatever. So basically I told her off and now we don't really talk at all.
This makes me sad.... Because I have no idea of what's going on in her life. I know that she is not working or going to school though, and is basically just leeching off of her dad (who is leeching off of MY dad- who is the landlord!)
Anyway, I noticed some weird changes in her behavior... Like how she would sometimes be sneaking off in the middle of the night, and would always have friends over. Right when she got out of treatment she basically said she had no real friends, that I was "it". And now she seems to have a new one over (trashy lookin', too), every day! And is disappearing for odd hours even though I know she isn't working or doing anything with her life at the moment... I also noticed the few times I run into her she is always looking a little rough around the edges.
I am just at a loss. I hate to make judgements, but this is the kind of stuff she was doing when she was a druggie. When she was a recovering druggie, I would hear from her nonstop.
I just wonder if I should try to mend things with her, or if I should just let her go? Should I get involved if she's on drugs again or let her do her own thing and figure it out on her own?
Advice or even just the listening ear is appreciated. 1 person likes this
4 responses
@EricSullivan (37)
• United States
5 Jun 14
You must consult a doctor soon as possible or join any rehabilitation center will be helpful. Hope all will go well.
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
29 May 12
It's hard to help someone who doesn't want the help. Even though we are most certain that they are wasting their lives, yet we get our hands tied because any help we give them, they just turn around and do even worse.
I know it's a bit mean, but I suggest you just move on. Let her deal with her issues on her own. And let her come to a decision to fix her own life. And when she does, then you let her know that you'd be around.
@kawalnarang (1095)
• Trinidad And Tobago
16 May 12
Help them if you can and leave them if you can not,also another idea is get someone to talk to them,if there are seniors who can guide them,,Best wishes.
@blaqwynter (218)
• Canada
16 May 12
Sometimes, you can only do so much, until you finally give up. Its obvious that she isn't willing to better herself, especially after rehab or treatment. She is lucky to have a friend like you, because not many people like you exist out there. I tend to be another rare gem myself. Just be careful though, she may try and use you, or attempt to get you involved with the wrong crowd. Again you can only do so much for so long, until you feel its time to just give up and walk away.
