What if all of a sudden the love of your life lives you, while you struggle.

@deodavid (4150)
Philippines
May 29, 2012 4:20am CST
Hey there guys, It's me again, well this is a story, about me and my lull and i think that it is taking a toll in my relationship, well as a couple of days had gone by and i am in this trying to get back on track mode, the love of my life seems to be distancing herself from me and not even wanting to see each other on offs i kinda sent her a message regarding the issue and i haven't had any answer yet from her so i am just waiting and really hoping that she tells me what is on her mind so that i know what to do and can do something about it something drastic and maybe dramatic. I love that girl and i believe that i will be devastated if i loose her. Any tips?
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8 responses
• United States
29 May 12
Usually when someone is pulling away, the harder you push the more distance grows between you. I'm afraid the answer isn't easy. You are going to have to occupy your mind with something else for at least two weeks. She is giving you a direct indicator that she needs some space, and if you give it to her she may very well come back to you with open arms, but if you crowd her you may live to regret it. Focus on one of your personal goals, let it consume you, and forget about her for a little bit. The thing women find most attractive, is a man in control of his own destiny, become that man, and even if it doesn't work out, you are at least setting yourself up with something positive to look forward to.
@deodavid (4150)
• Philippines
29 May 12
Hey there my friend, Wow that is the best advice that i have ever thought of in my life, i mean it is not only productive it is very optimistic and more favorable to me than to her, i mean if i set my self up for my personal goals i get to be better and at the same time she'll see that i am doing fine and will have the reason or motivation to be back in my arms and if that doesn't happen i will still get to be better even if she just dont return to me wow you my friend are a genius thanks for this now i have something to look forward too to tomorrow, your man my friend.
• United States
29 May 12
After I had my heart stomped on a few times I learned the hard way that I had to work on myself and take care of me. I started writing poetry seriously, and not only did I meet a woman I will spend my life with, but the others that decided to leave were seriously jealous that I had moved on. We can't control how others feel about us, but we can control how they see us.
@deodavid (4150)
• Philippines
29 May 12
Hey there phil, Wow that is just so deep men, well I'll try to think more in that way, i mean yeah no control over there feelings but there outlook on us definitely in our control your cool men and intelligent beyond your years, hope that life brings you more blessings as you make it for yourself and please do share more to others your wise words like you did this one for me, now my mind is open.
• Philippines
29 May 12
When the love of your life is distancing herself from your presence, there's really a cause for concern. There are different factors and circumstances. I don't know them and it's you that is closest to the action. There may be a third party involved. There may be some health concerns. There may be some other reasons. Knowing the reason will really help you evaluate and make adjustments. Until then, you are left guessing. Going to her and talking it over will be best.
@deodavid (4150)
• Philippines
1 Jun 12
You said, well we talked things out and really the issue is more likely about about my attitude lately but we've already figured stuff out and we already have a solution and it is compromise on both of our ends.
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
29 May 12
Yeah keep doing what you are doing-trying to talk with her about what is going on. Make things right if something is wrong. I hope that she will talk with you soon and let you know what is going on. Perhaps get her a gift if you have hurt her feelings or made her sad.
@deodavid (4150)
• Philippines
1 Jun 12
Hey there my friend, Well i have given her more time for herself so that i she can think about our relationship and she has and we are doin fine right now and yeah i will get her a gift we have a date on sunday so that we can enjoy being with each other.
@viju0410 (2286)
• India
29 May 12
hi, It is better to give her some time to get back to you. may be she's having a hectic time / mood swings or there could be some reasons for distancing from you. Do not push hard and don't think that its the end of your love story dear friend, it is only a phase and the temporary distance could teach you to have more patience and strengthen your relationships. Be cool and love is not one sided...right?
@deodavid (4150)
• Philippines
1 Jun 12
Hi there viju, Long time haven't shared some thoughts, well were better now and yeah i have given her the space that she needs and i will keep it that way, i love the woman and i will do whatever it takes to be with her as long as she wishes me to, thanks.
@brownny (66)
• China
29 May 12
Hi david its hard when u love someone and feel that way, the only thing i am gonna tell u is to be strong, cause when a woman start to act like that its mean there is a reason and women show they feeling very clearly, u will be afected for the begining but not for your all life if you dont think to much. try to talk with her and do your bst to later give her reason, then if she think that you are not good for her anymore take some distance but before taking distance try everything you can do like offering her gifts,hugs,kisses,etc...
@deodavid (4150)
• Philippines
1 Jun 12
Youre right, that is exactly what i did and it was great well anyway thanks for taking the time to give me an advise i truly appreciate your sincere share of thoughts, happy lotting.
• Philippines
29 May 12
Simple. She is just preoccupied with what she is doing lately. Maybe you two are preoccupied with your stuffs at work or school or etc. Find time to get back together and communicate. See what's wrong with the time being and fix it together. Good luck.
@deodavid (4150)
• Philippines
1 Jun 12
Thanks, Actually last night we kinda patched the problem but i still have to do some changes , she also has to but we are working things out and i think we will be much stronger once this tide passes.
@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
29 May 12
Just wait and don't push her so hard by asking why is the reason, she maybe needs a break and somehow the day will come and she will tell you honestly, if she is honest with you.
@deodavid (4150)
• Philippines
29 May 12
Hey there lyn, Well i think my gal is pretty honest , yeah maybe she is just figuring things out for her self and just trying to look for some personal answers to her questions regarding our relationship, i love that young woman but if she decides to leave me of course I'll beg but i will never push her in my life, that would be selfish and in my opinion selfish love is not love at all.
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
30 May 12
Leave her in peace, stop bugging and bothering her. Might be you don't feel or see it that way but at this moment it is how she feels. You only make her more dislike you with every message you send or every step you take to get an answer. At this moment she will not give you any answer, It's clear she wants you to leave her alone. Sooner or later the time might come you can talk again or be again but at this moment it's not possible. I don't know what you expect or want or think, but even a blind person can see that you are NOT on her mind. Might sound hard to you but this is the way it is. So let it be and try again in some weeks time. And go on with your life! Nobody likes a whimping person.