A SAD story ABOUT LAST NIGHT...
By MJkejnie
@MJkejnie (20)
Philippines
May 30, 2012 3:41am CST
Last night i revealed a secret from my father.
Last last night @exactly 2am i was just lying in our dining room in the sofa near the room of my parents but suddenly my mom was sleep in my room at that time for some reason and it was really unexpected of me to hear my father talking in his phone @ a very early morning 2am.Yes 2am, so i listen their conversation in 10 mins, with a melo voice upon my father talk in the phone so i judge directly an it was so hurt to my part at that time i do know what to do as a eldest daughter and i know how much pain can my mom felt when she will know about this.
But then i still decide to tell about it to my mom, i know its no easy to the part of my mom knowing about this but i keep on saying to my mom that she need to be strong because were still here as her children who will always there to comfort with the absence of the comfort of my father as his husband.But then my mom did not control his temper he directly enter the house after we talk, an through cold/hot words to my father an my father was so look guilty he scolded me also, and i did not control also myself, i talk back to my father as in talkback all the heartaches i felt from him i say it to him with tears ....BUT then after that i felt self pity because i think im so bad a really bad daughter...
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7 responses
@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
30 May 12
You can talked to your mom about this, she deserve to know what's the truth, your mom is old enough to handle those aches only just to be with beside her is lot of reason for her to be strong.
@TrvlArrngr (4045)
• United States
30 May 12
You did the right thing - it might be very hard on you but you did the right thing. No one deserves to be cheated on.
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
30 May 12
Hi Mjkejnie,
I'm so sorry to hear that you were put in that position to begin with. Please don't be so hard on yourself. What were you to do? If you did not reveal to your mom what you heard then you would feel as if you were betraying her. Then she would have 2 people betraying her...you and your dad. You did tell her and your dad got upset which is a natural reaction but he'll get over it. He was wrong and I'm sure he knows it.
@MJkejnie (20)
• Philippines
30 May 12
hi sid556,
just woke up this morning & its nice to know that their are people like u who know how to sympathize my situation... yes that was also im thinking if i will not tell about it to my mom, i think im just tolerating what my dad doing if i will still keep it. thats why thanks God because i think i did the right thing.:)
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
30 May 12
You did the right thing, do not feel guilty.
It should be your father to feel guilty and not you.
Why should you feel bad for knowing and discovering the truth?- you should be strong, your mother needs you.
In this situation, being the eldest you should stand up for what is right and will fight for your mom.
I am sure your mom needs you more this time- so be strong and never shows any remorse for what you have done.
Show your father you are there to protect your mother from whoever wants to hurt you and that includes your dad.
This is the right time for you to show how much you loved your mom.
And -one more thing- who will defend your mom if you will show your weak side?
@bjc66bjc (6730)
• United States
31 May 12
hi MJK,first let me say that it was a difficult situation to
be in..and was there a right or wrong outcome for you, well
I don;t know...but I do think you made the right decision and
you should NOT feel guilty or consider yourself a bad daughter...
After all how would your mother had felt had she found out you
knew and did not come to her,,,and never mind about your father.
why should you protect him whem he is truly doing something so
wrong...
Its not your fault its his and don't forget that....good luck
and don't be hard on yourself.....
Blessings to you and your Mom.....
@itsmamanen (423)
• Philippines
30 May 12
i experienced the same thing when i was in college. i caught my dad went on a trip with a woman. i followed him to the airport discreetly. and there i saw who he is with on that trip. but my spying was my mom's idea. she said she can't follow my dad because he might see her and it's impossible for her to leave the house. it was really like hell telling my mom the truth. but i don't have a choice. my mother deserves to know.
i admired the strength of my mom to stick with my dad and endure all the pain. mom stayed with my dad through thick and thin because she said we were a family. if my mom isn't that strong, i would have belong to a broken family by now.
@MJkejnie (20)
• Philippines
30 May 12
hello itsmamanen,
im sorry to know also about your situation my friend before ,i admire ur mom how srong she is,i think my mom an ur mom are just desame goal in life when it comes to defending a reputation of a family....
my friend this is not the first time i caught my dad doing messy in our family an did is not the first time that my mom know about that ,but by the time my mom get hurt an my dad asking for forgiveness i dont know why my mom always or just easy forgive my dad.
@ryanong (9665)
• Vietnam
31 May 12
I am sorry for your situation. However you mom should know the truth. You did right when you told to your mom. The problem in here is both your mom and you could not keep good control at that time...
Don't be hard to yourself, this situation may happen to any family I hope your dad and your mom will have a talk about it and everything will be fine later.
