Jealousy is very bad
By ankster
@ankster (273)
India
May 30, 2012 7:43am CST
Me and my hubby relocated to Sharjah,United Arab Emirates one year back.My cousin sister who is ten years elder to me stays in Abudhabi.My hubby got an excellent opportunity and he is working with the biggest company of his field.We settled our home in very smoothly way and enjoying life to the best here.But one of my cousin sister is here in UAE since 7 years.she is very annoying and irritating.She has developed an all time complex and jealousy from us.She daily calls me and boasts only about her life and irritates me a lot.I cannot ignore her phone because she is a relative.But she is so jealous of me and my hubbys progressive and happy life.Her husband is well settled too but still she has an all time inferiority complex.I always feel she is a mental case.She behaves in such a toxic manner eating my head all the time..She plays on my mind and Iam frustrated by her jealousy and all the time comparing my life with hers.She is 10 years elder to me and I always expected lots of maturity from her side but Iam fed up of handling her..Me and my hubby are extremely simple people with no over smartness and jealousy from anyone.We lead our lives and never interfere in anyone"s matter but my cousin"s jealous and annoying behaviour is killing me from inside..As soon as her phone rings every afternoon I get frustrated..Its been one year when Iam keeping patience..but she has become impossible and her young kid is also getting spoilt by learning jealousy and unhealthy competition from everyone..Guys do suggest me how can I come out of my cousins stupidities.As Iam very simple and plain hearted Iam not able to avoid her and rather not able to speak much when she speaks..She is psycho case and Iam praying god that she leaves country soon and settles elsewhere..Please help me all of u in fulfilling this prayer..
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8 responses
@viji_v2 (727)
• India
31 May 12
It is so sensitive issue to handle with. You have to say what you think but it is so smooth and also mean time make her to think. If she speaks words of jealous like comparing just give answer what she has and never say that again. You are plain hearted and you may wish not to hurt her. But you have to do it once to protect you from her in future. You can't keep her always disturbing you mentally. It is you have to take step to protect yourself. You think if she flies to other place and wont do that same from there. Just stop as soon as possible and as soft as possible.
Take care.
@ankster (273)
• India
31 May 12
thanks a lot my friend for awesome words..but once she flies somewhere else I know all problems will be solved..She will not be able to call daily as she do now..She has complex that cannot be cured by anything..And she is relative so I cant be harsh..But my friend your supporting words are very much encouraging..thank you once again..
@ankster (273)
• India
31 May 12
I cant avoid her phone calls.I know only thing is either god shift sme to some other place or either she shifts to some other country..otherwise she is very sticky and irritating..and plus she is not at all our well wisher.Through her talks her mentality reflects that she is desperate to see us in problems..I hate her..Wish god helps me.
@sheen13 (567)
• India
30 May 12
You are absolutely right! Jealousy indeed is a very evil thing actually. And one shouldn't have such a quality in him/her. Because the sooner or later it can create many adverse problems. As she is your relative, it might be wrong to ignore her. It is never apt to create misunderstandings and problems between any relationship. I think to get rid of her in a better way, you should try confronting her and making her understand well that the way she is behaving and speaking to you isn't good. As you said that she is ten years older to you, so obviously she should be mature enough to understand and deal with things properly. She might realize that the way she was behaving was not appropriate at all. It is a good thing that you have kept patience since long and it is better if you try to keep calm because temper certainly is not a good thing. I have experienced such kind of behavior from my relatives as well and know that it is very difficult to control one's anger in such a situation. But I've also learnt that it a the best choice to keep calm and control one's anger every time. Hope you get out of this situation very soon. :)
@ankster (273)
• India
30 May 12
Thanks a lot for your such sweet words.You are very generous person..Me and my hubby are very calm and simple people and my cousin acts as if she is very sweet and simple but instead she is very cunning jealous and shrewd.And I dont want to spoil any relationship so when she calls I listen patiently and smile with her..I appreciate her in all her endeavours..But then I wish for future healthy relationship its better God takes her away from this place..It will be better for my peace of my mind and for healthy relationship as well because she is such a person she will misuse my simplicity and thats not right..very very thanks for your awesome words..
@sheen13 (567)
• India
30 May 12
My mother says me that simple people who are kind and good towards other people and have patience in them to handle things are rewarded good by God in the future. And I am sure that even you will be rewarded good by God because you are trying so hard to get out of the situation you are in with so much of patience! :) And it will be absolutely wrong if she misuses your simplicity, so I'll definitely pray that everything gets alright and that you have a bright future with no problems and difficulties! :)
@barehugs (8973)
• Canada
30 May 12
In Canada and the USA we have an option on a phone that shows the number of the caller. This allows us to decline to answer a call from an unsavory relative or whosoever. If you have an option like this, why not use it and simply do not answer calls from your cousin?
@ankster (273)
• India
30 May 12
..Thanks so much my friend you have written very kindly to me..We have also option of called ID but she is a big pshyco.If I dont take her phone once she will call whole day.She is a pain and I want to get rid of her voice and meeting to her by only one way and that is she goes back to India..as she boasts lot about her home in India..so its better she goes there and stop eating my head daily..
@kukueye (1759)
• Malaysia
30 May 12
Yes of the sickest people i know have high jealousy with anyone and everything , and they constant complain about everything and not themselves.Like to blame people faults and not themselves.These people are dangerous to have around because of the their mouth and also tendency to poison people mind , spread malicous rumours and also ill intention in things they do.
@ankster (273)
• India
30 May 12
You are absolutely right my friend..I can just pray that god helps me and takes me far away from such people.I f she would have been any friend I would have avoided her but she is my relative and I cant ignore her so thats becoming a big problem to daily bear her stupid and irritating talks..
@victorkrish (1614)
• Malaysia
31 May 12
Even jealousy is a kind of mankind disease but people
also believe that a jealous person have a strong love.
It is how we just observe and eying it.
@mercvict (127)
• India
30 May 12
This kind of people is there everywhere you go. The smartest and easiest way is to tell her directly about her character, at the same time, don't hurt her, tell in a good way. Then, slowly avoid talking to her, initially it may hurt but gradually, this will be good for everyone.
@ankster (273)
• India
30 May 12
Thanks a lot my friend for your kind words.But my only plight is she is very cunning and smart and Iam not an inch of it so will not be able to tell her directly or indirectly..But yes god can help me out by taking me far away from her.As she is relative we have to meet also once in a month or two months so that also is unavoidable.Actually she is not able to digest our happiness and that reflects in her talks and stupid comparisons..So only distance from her will give me peace otherwise I know she will not stop calling and Iam not so strong to avoid her bluntly..But you are very kind my friend to write so sweetly to me..
@natliegleb (5175)
• India
19 Aug 12
I entirely agree with you since in this materialistic world,jealous is very common and one must have inculcated the moral values to be on the safe side or else we might also end up in the unhealthy category and face all sort of problems.my heart goes out to you and i hope your prayer and wishes get fulfilled sooner
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
30 May 12
Jealousy can be good as well. Even animals have this feeling. It can be used in a positive way too. By forcing the one who is jealous to work for the same succes or to save for the same stuff.
You say you are no over smartness I wonder why you mention that also what it has to do with feelings of jealousy.. also wonder if it's about jealousy or envy. Did you ever ask her how or what? I would confront her with it but also tell her that as long as she is not able to behave you will keep out of her way since this is not the kind of relationship you want. I doubt if her kid is getting spoiled by her jealousy since this is also kind of character and kids are not blind for what is going on. Praying won't help you as you already noticed, also calling someone a psycho won't. BTW there is a big difference between being psycho (if so she needs help/medication) and being jealous. You better act instead of praying and hoping and mess up your life. Since you are the one who allows her to do so and you are also the one who is responsible for your own life. So go for it, instead of killing yourself inside by holding it in.
@ankster (273)
• India
30 May 12
hello my friend..kids learn and act the way their parents do.His kid sees her doing undue comparisons with others and feeling jealous with others progress all the time so he is also acquiring those negative attributes in him..Iam not responsible if she is calling me or irritating me because she is relative and I cant avoid her..I mentioned that Iam not over smart because if I would have been she would not have got the guts to annoy me all the time..But still you are wrong Iam not responsible for her stupidity..I can only pray and thats it..By the way Iam enjoying life very much and only her phone calls are boring and irritating thing in life rest everything is great..but then yes I cant so anything to avoid her so atleast god helps me out by kicking her off from my place..thanks for your words anyways..
