I may not know much about marriage

But I bet I know a lot more about divorce than you'd expect! From 1984 until 1999, I worked with divorce records in the state of Texas. If it involved children, I'd probably seen it. I've also known a lot of folks who have had divorces, both with, and without children. So, when I hear from a friend who is just started the divorce stuff talking about "husband hunting" it sends off alarm bells. Now, I'm not talking about someone who's marriage has been beyond on the rocks because of emotional neglect, due to one member of the relationship being unable to connect with people emotionally. I'm talking about someone who's husband was still doing nice things for her, but she discovered he was cheating. On the other hand, she wasn't exactly going out of her way to stay with him either, he'd be in other cities for weeks and she'd have to stay behind because she had collected a lot of critters that needed help. I don't know, it seems to me that they were both wrong - and while I don't exactly know either of them extremely well, I've actually known HIM longer than HER. I try not to judge, but in this case I think they've both messed up this marriage thing - and I wasn't exactly thrilled when I heard that they had gotten married. Funny thing about fans (science fiction fans) when they get married... for whatever reason the marriages don't seem to work. Either one decides to leave fandom and wants their partner to "grow up", or one gets way into a fandom and finds new friends.... Or, one is busy trying to make money and the other is... well... what ever it is they are doing. The good news is that the only children in this relationship have 4 legs... (or none as is the case of her snakes.)