Do Long Distance Relationships really work?

Singapore
June 8, 2012 6:54am CST
Good day mylotters:) Do you think Long Distance Relationships work? I'm in one now and I don't know how long I can take it. Do you think that it has a chance to workout until the end, or it will end up that we will be both heartbroken in the end? Love to you hear for your feedbacks:)
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@Chikezie (386)
• Malaysia
8 Jun 12
Hi Maanplim, Long distance relationship is based on both of you. This is an issue about perspective. It works for those who are committed to it. However, I believe that it is more worthy to stand, if the two involved have been together for some time before separating probably due to education or work. This is will be a good one but a newly started relationship to just go into long distance might not really last. As there might be gainsaying about how loyal or faithful each person might be to the other. Long distance will work as long as no one among them is paranoid with any prejudice in him or her. If one has such spirit, it will bring a lot of suspicion, accusation and counter-accusation. Openness to the relationship will be very vital for it success. Constant communication will also help. I believe, it should be more dependent on the male to always instigate communication so that the lady will fell that she left alone to die in oblivion.
• Singapore
19 Jun 12
lol! sad to have read the part where you said that if it's a new relationship it might not work because ours is just 5 months and we needed to separate already. and you're right, suspisions are there and even if you don't want to think about it, temptations really do come along. but even though i accuse him of things, i am still very vocal about how much i love him and that i won't find somebody else while i'm away. so hopefully that would be enough for him to be loyal to me. and i think it is working because we are 2 months away from our anniversary which i am very happy about. wish us luck on our relationship:)
@Chikezie (386)
• Malaysia
20 Jun 12
Sure you are right Maanplim, lets see how u make it at the end. I wish you the best of luck in ur relationship
• United States
8 Jun 12
I'm currently in a long distance relationship and so far it's working out. I think it helps that I've been with him 2 years in a close distance relationship and just recently he went into the army and now we're far apart. I haven't been able to talk to him for a few weeks now, I've only gotten a letter from him and that's it. In about a month or so he'll be able to talk to me again because boot camp will be over. I still won't be able to see him all the time like I used to, but at least I can talk to him. I'm confident that things will work out because we both really love each other and we were together for a few years before he even left for the army. I think a long distance relationship can work if both of you are committed to each other and call and skype regularly. If there's not much of a connection there between you two, then it'll be harder to make things work. Good luck to you
• Singapore
8 Jun 12
oh, that's really nice that you have been together for 2 years already. with us it's just 5 months when we separated because I went to work abroad and he stayed in the Philippines. it's been 5 months and even though we have so much arguments almost everyday, we are still together and I am hoping that we can survive this journey even if we're miles apart:) Thankfully, skype is here to help us:)
• United States
9 Jun 12
I also went away to school about 3 months into our relationship and he was upset. We talked every day and sometimes we'd fight, but we really cared for each other and we made things work. Now, 2 years later, we're at the point where we really love each other and see our relationship heading to bigger things so we make this current situation work because we know that after he's done with the army, we'll be able to continue our lives together. It'll be hard to get used to, but when you really care about the person, things will find a way of working out. Good luck!
• United States
25 Jun 12
Hello maanplim~! I'm currently in a long distance relationship myself and I've been with my boyfriend for a little over three months but we've known each other for almost four years. To be honest, long distance relationships can work if you have strong enough communication with the person you are with. One of my exes literally ignored me for months on end and that was due to the fact that he was cheating on me with another guy... But with my boyfriend now, I know I don't have to worry about that because we are always talking to each other and we have a very strong bond. In the end, a long distance relationship is what you make it. :) I hope that was a little helpful~!
@512771751 (1096)
• China
16 Jul 12
It is so sweat to hear you and your bf's story. The same as you, I also in a long distance relationship just now. Hope all the lovers in long disrance have a happy future.
@shaeylee (11)
• Philippines
8 Jun 12
Good day to you!.. i've been in a relationship before for 6 years, and regarding your question for me my answer is NO. but i'm not saying mostly but based on my experienced it did not work, because i've been away for my Bf for 2 years and throughout that distance years we are communicating everyday thru video chats, calls and so on. And i can really tell we are very in love with each other, but still there were temptations which most boys cannot resist so the rest is history.. But it's up to both of youi in the end, you really have to work it out in order for your relationship to last and trust each other... :)
• Singapore
19 Jun 12
was it you or was it he who went overseas? they say that men going overseas have a higher possibility of infidelity rather than the ones staying in their own country. dunno if it's true but i also think when men get lonely because of homesickness, end of story. lol
@512771751 (1096)
• China
16 Jul 12
Hello dear friend maanplim, the same as you, I also in such kind one. Is the distance too far? Luckily for us that, we two don't live too far and I have my summer holiday to accompany him. The same as you, I don't know whether we should stick to the furture. If you don't live too far, you should buy a car and drive the long distance. Why not find a work in the same city?
@samson1 (738)
• Jamaica
18 Jun 12
Embarking on any long distance relationship is a tenuous one indeed! Why? I think that this arrangement (of being in a long distance relationship) shoud be a temparary situation; whereby, at some point, a termination date/time ought to be established, so that the parties can be together more often than originally envisioned. Maanplim, I think that the success of any long distance relationship will depend on: (a) who you are as individuals, and your resolve to ignore the temptations of infidelity that may occur; (b) what both of you are prepared to accommodate, while being in this type of relationship, and; (c) what efforts are made to meet during the time living apart from eachother, so that the love can be rekindled, over time. If you are 'proprerly grounded' in your resolve with your partner, and the feeling is reciprocated by your partner, then you have a reasonable chance of living through the challenges of being in a long distance relationship. Otherwise, this type of relationship may not be for you.
@suzzy3 (8370)
14 Jun 12
I have never had a long distance relationship myself.You do hear of couples living in different countrys and keeping in touch through phone,email,skype ect.It must be really difficult if you want a cuddle or feel lonely.I think you must have a strong relationship to make it work.The armed forces and thier partners ect,would be the people to ask how they make it work.I feel sorry for you and your partner.It depends on how often you see them.If your partner lives miles away from you and it is almost impossible to see them because of travel costs or time.It must fade a bit or hurt like hell.It depends on how much you think of them,what your relationship was like before they went away.If it is all going to be worth it I suppose only you know that.You must really love him and it is difficult giving advise do what your heart tells you.Also your head it is an awful thing to go through.I do hope you decide whats best for you,you are the important person in this as it sounds like you are the one doing the missing.Good luckxx
@aribdee (133)
• United States
9 Jun 12
I had a long distance relationship before but too bad it didn't work. Well, in the first few months it did. But as time goes love begins to fade and we end up broken. But, If you are really willing to wait for her/him then I think long distance relationship will work for a few. You need to sacrifice your time especially when there's a huge difference in your time zones. But in my personal experience, I don't think it will work for me.
• India
9 Jun 12
Its all about dedication towards your partner. If you and your partner have a strong relationship then the distance between you two won't matter. But if you are trying to start a new relationship and that too a long distance one, things might not work out. You have to meet up and spend time with each other. Relationship has to be started being together, not distant from each other.
@Lucas818 (378)
9 Jun 12
Hi there, long distance relationship works when both party really put efforts in it. Communications is the most important factor in maintaining it. I'd been through long distance relationship and failed; now I'm in a recent one, and it's getting better and better. Good luck to yours!
@kingparker (9698)
• United States
9 Jun 12
I can't tell you that it will work. But I just can tell you the statistics, and you can determine on yourself. My friend had a long distance relationship before, and he end up heartbroken, and he never talk to that girl ever again. And majority of these long distant relationship end up ugly usually. Some cases are exception, they love each very much, and they end up happily ever after. So, that is what I can tell you, depend on how much you love each other.
@Lore2009 (7389)
• United States
8 Jun 12
well, anything can happen.. from my experience I've been in a long distance relationship with one person and somehow I went through with it.. and it was really really painful but it worked out! But the ironic part was that the relationship ended after we were united and living together. I don't think I'll ever do it ever again.
• Philippines
8 Jun 12
That depends on how deep your relationship is and how well you know, trust, and understand each other. There are some instances that a long distance relationship worked for a long time but you need to put on much more effort for ti to work. understand both of your needs and you need to trust each other. you also needs to be contented.
@JenAC1984 (232)
• United States
8 Jun 12
Hello maanplim, Yes, I do believe that long relationships can last if the two people are strongly dedicated to one another. The important thing is to remember that trust and devotion is a must and has to exsist. I also know that if it's meant to be, you shouldn't try to stop it just becuase of the distance. Be very patient with one another. Write letters; that helps a lot. Send each other small, but meanful gifts. Show that person just how much you love them and tell them every single day just how important they are to you. Also, try to do your best to raise or save money so you can soon go and see your love. Being face to face will really help the relationship to sort itself out, even if you both only get to see each other a few times. If you do not have the funds to see one another, look into other options. Ask for help or find a part time job to save money for your trip. I wish the best for you. Don't ever give up on love if it's real! Have a peaceful day!
@IAmNena (178)
• Philippines
8 Jun 12
Hello maanplim, That's a good topic you got there.my answer for that is Yes,because majorities of long distance relationships do work.You know, It's not about the distance between you that you should count.it's all about you and him/her, and what are you both will do to keep your relationship.I support long distance relations because sometimes, soulmates are just miles away without knowing it.Well it still depends on the both of you.Even relationships not are not long distance doesn't work. I hope that helped, good luck anyway :)