It is hard to live in your in-laws if one of them doesn't like you....
By mobhomeir
@mobhomeir (7558)
Philippines
June 22, 2012 2:35am CST
hello guys...just come back from a couple of weeks hibernation. Just busy from priorities that I could not really avoided just to be taken for granted. We're moving out from our former residence where we stayed for almost eight years. It was really so sad to think and realize those things that was one of the best things that happened into your life. We miss our former place, a place where we stayed for a long period of time. A place that witnessed all of our life's struggles, survival, and trials that sometimes if we realized those passed moments of our lives, we couldn't believe we survived.
Right now we temporarily stayed at my parent-in-law, the problem is we were given just a couple of months to look for another place for us to stay permanently. My mother-in-law doesn't want us to to look for another place but her hubby (my father-in-law) doesn't like us both. My wife is the youngest of their siblings but we both hated by her father no matter what "exhibition" I would do. He keep telling my mother-in-law when we will moving out from their place.
I hope your parent-in-laws love you guys...
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15 responses
@ShyBear88 (59288)
• Sterling, Virginia
22 Jun 12
Me and my husband before we got married we lived with my parents and it was great living with them because my parents love both me and my husband. Then before and after we got married we lived with my husband grandparents and that was like hell. They really didn't want us to move out of there place but we finally broke free after being there for nearly 8 months and I was 5 months pregnant by then and I was just tired of living up to there standers of living. I tried really hard but nothing I did seemed to be right or good enough for them. Now that we don't live with them we get along a lot better they respect me and my husband more and especially our parenting skills with our daughter.
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@mobhomeir (7558)
• Philippines
22 Jun 12
Hi my friend..it is really advisable to those married couple to live separately with their both parents to avoid trouble that may jeopardize the private life of the new couple....
Thanks for responding...
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@ShyBear88 (59288)
• Sterling, Virginia
24 Jun 12
It just depends on the parent and child relationship and there personality. Living with my parents wasn't bad but living with my husbands family its not fun and hard to live with them. We have less freedom as a couple not saying to go out and do things just to be able to have things the way we want to from room design to what to feed our child and insurances and stuff. So we felt it was best to live on our own.
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@TheIzers (680)
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22 Jun 12
My younger sister and her family (husband and 2 kids) lives at my mom house but I never heard my mom complaining about that in fact when they lived at my sister's in law my mom keep asking when were they going to move in? I think my mom just happy that the house wont be too quite anymore since all her kids got married and moved out. So I guess it's really depends on the personality of the parents.
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@Chikezie (385)
• Malaysia
1 Jul 12
I would advise you to look for another place. This will help your own family as you said that father-in-law do not like you. This will prevent and rancour at home. Though your mother-in-law loves you, you will maintain your prestige when you get your house and come to visit them at intervals
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@mobhomeir (7558)
• Philippines
2 Jul 12
That's right my friend. There is no way (ever since) we like to live with them.Right now we are still looking for that elusive new home of ours..Thanks for responding my dear friend..
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@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
24 Jun 12
Personally there is no way I would want to live with my in laws even temporarily. They are so negative towards me and it would either kill me or our relationship. I know couples have had to do it from time to time. But personally unless there is no other choice or a couple is just starting out, this is something I would never recommend.
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@mobhomeir (7558)
• Philippines
25 Jun 12
Yes my friend. We have no other choice from being moved-out from our former fad. We both have no other relatives here on our city but only my wife's parents. I was already expecting this because ever since my wife's direct relatives never like me. I forcefully eaten my shame to save us but not for long time. What we supposedly needed is a few days to give us time to look for that elusive house for us.
Thanks for responding my friend..
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@kalav56 (11464)
• India
24 Jun 12
Good that you would be moving out soon.A son-inlaw would never be respected by his in-laws if he moves in with them.it is different for a son if he lives with his parents.Here it would be difficult for the daughter-in-law but if parents get along well with the son they would make efforts to see that the happiness of the son is not jeopardized and make some adjustments.
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@mobhomeir (7558)
• Philippines
25 Jun 12
You're right my friend because I never ever heard from parents, all of my siblings any comments or any forms of ruddiness against my wife. In fact my wife suggested for us to go home (at my place in the province) to stay there for good.
I neglected the idea because in my province the kind of my work is not there to be found. It is hard for us to live there for good really. Recently we are still looking for our elusive fad. Thanks for responding my friend...
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@cerebellum (3863)
• United States
24 Jun 12
Sorry to hear you don't get along with your in-laws. I got lucky, and got along better with them than with my own family. I realize that is probably not the case for most people!
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@mobhomeir (7558)
• Philippines
25 Jun 12
Yes my friend even me, I am sorry for my self. I got a wrong kind of in-laws. I just hope any time from today we can finally settle a right fad for us...
Thanks again for responding...Take care...
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@nerijorge (53)
• Philippines
26 Jun 12
I know how you feel, it is really hard to live with someone who doesn't like you. The same situation I feel at work. It's hard to be with them because they make me feel that I don't belong.
You're situation is pretty much the same with my wife's. My family always have something to say. But it was her who really wants to move out of my parents' house even without me. I know that she's thinking about it and just waiting to have the courage to move out. I also hope that my family and wife would be okay later on. They have been like this for the past months. It's hard most of the times since I am being caught in the middle.
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@mobhomeir (7558)
• Philippines
26 Jun 12
I see my friend, you're right my friend we have the same fate with your wife. I guess, your wife has more chance to settle with your family than on my situation.
Good luck for both of us..thanks for responding..
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@GemmaR (8517)
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22 Jun 12
It is hard to live with somebody who doesn't like you no matter who that is, and that is all the more reason to try and move out of their home if there is any way that you would be able to do so. Being with people who you don't get on with is no fun, and you might actually find that you would be able to get along with them a lot better if you didn't have to be with them for such long periods of time. It takes a big person to be able to do what you're doing, so you should be proud of yourself that you're managing to put up with the situation.
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@mobhomeir (7558)
• Philippines
25 Jun 12
That's right my friend. It is okay if that someone might be just a friend or anyone not related to you. The most hurting one is if the people whom you are expecting can help you is your in-laws and the one themselves throwing you out. Would that be so frustrating? Thanks for responding ..
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@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
22 Jun 12
dear Martin 
Glad to see back.
Oh well, I love my parents in law so much more than my ex- hehehe.
I mean, I am very lucky to have parents in law and that's my greatest consolation that I can shout my lungs out.
There is exact word to define how good my PIL are.
I know how you feel- I was disowned once by my own parents and I feel devastated by that time.
But parents will always be parents and that proven by time.
It never takes long- my parents took me/us back and now we are in best of relationship.
Hope everything will be fine soon 
Glad to see back.
Oh well, I love my parents in law so much more than my ex- hehehe.
I mean, I am very lucky to have parents in law and that's my greatest consolation that I can shout my lungs out.
There is exact word to define how good my PIL are.
I know how you feel- I was disowned once by my own parents and I feel devastated by that time.
But parents will always be parents and that proven by time.
It never takes long- my parents took me/us back and now we are in best of relationship.
Hope everything will be fine soon @mobhomeir (7558)
• Philippines
22 Jun 12
Hi bonita mia..i miss you my dear...yes...you're lucky indeed-unlike me...but I had no more choice it's already there..it would just be a sad to think, in your times of scarcity and trouble your in-laws could not help but instead rejects you when you needed them most...
Happy weekend bonita mia..
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Happy weekend bonita mia..
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@cloud31 (5809)
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22 Jun 12
Hello friend,
Welcome back !
You are undergoing in a very hard situation.I understand your feeling and I'm hoping everything will be alright with you and your family.
I haven't experienced how to deal with in-laws but I hope I can get along well with my future in-laws when time comes for me to settle down.
In your case I feel your burden and that with your wife.Just tolerate a while and maybe one of these days you can move out and find a better place for you to stay along with your family.
Take care always!You've been missed!
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You are undergoing in a very hard situation.I understand your feeling and I'm hoping everything will be alright with you and your family.
I haven't experienced how to deal with in-laws but I hope I can get along well with my future in-laws when time comes for me to settle down.
In your case I feel your burden and that with your wife.Just tolerate a while and maybe one of these days you can move out and find a better place for you to stay along with your family.
Take care always!You've been missed!@mobhomeir (7558)
• Philippines
22 Jun 12
Yes cloud..how are you my friend? I miss you a lot. Well, I guess I was not lucky enough to have a nice in-laws. We don't really have a plan of staying here for long because we knew already how they would react whenever we will stay here for long. Honestly these people (my in laws) have same attitude, from the father my sister's siblings are all selfish, greedy, suspicious, and greedy.
As of this moment, we are still looking for the right house for us...
Thanks for responding my friend..and enjoy your weekend..
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@asliah (11137)
• Philippines
11 Oct 12
hi,
that is really true,though not yet happen to me in my real life,but because i have some friends who are experiencing that situation,and they opened it to me and shared their experienced to me,well that is really not good because you will feel others i mean other person or not really a member of the family.
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
22 Jun 12
Yes it's hard and I would not advice anyone to do so. It will only cause a lot of stress (all sides) plus you have not your own home. If you are an adult you need to build your own life and have your own place where your own rules are plus where you feel save.
If you two stay you will have daily fights, so will your mother in law have with her husband.
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@mobhomeir (7558)
• Philippines
22 Jun 12
You're right my friend...but never ever in our minds that we will stay here for long. It was happened that we were not able to find a house instantly after we've been advice to move out from my former landlord...I don't like (ever) staying in my in-laws especially with their "hell" attitude.
Thanks for immediate respond my friend...
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@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
22 Jun 12
Hi mobhomeir,
It is really hard to live with the in-laws. As they will actually think that when their children started to have a family, they must stand on their own. They normally don't understand it why you still need their help when you already built your own family and still depends on them.
Hopefully you guys found a new place to stay.
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@mobhomeir (7558)
• Philippines
22 Jun 12
Yes enelym, we would really look for a right place for us. It so happened that we were not able to looked immediately (until now) when we force to vacate our former place. Besides, with their kind of attitudes, the more I would never ever stay with them. Thanks for your respond my friend...and happy weekend..
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@mobhomeir (7558)
• Philippines
22 Jun 12
Yes...but never ever drop in our minds that we would stay for long here in my in-laws. We did had no choice because we did not found yet a new house where we could stay permanently. Thanks for quick respond..appreciate it..
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@grapeape35 (44)
• United States
22 Jun 12
I too have been in that position to live with in-laws that dont approve of you.
I do hope you wont have to stay there that long, I know that was the most miserable time of my life. We were there for almost a year. I hated everyminute of it. No matter what you do, it isnt good enough. Getting put down all the time is quite a punch to the self esteem.
I hope that your luck changes for the better!
Keep your chin up.
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@mobhomeir (7558)
• Philippines
25 Jun 12
You're perfectly right my friend. That's what I am everyday of life while we are still here in my in-laws residence. We are still looking for that elusive place for us. Thanks a lot.
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@Bhebelen14 (5194)
• Philippines
26 Jun 12
We lived to my husband uncle for 2 years and it really hard for me to stay in that house even though they like me. My movement and actions was very limited because I am afraid to commit mistakes. Even though that everything was free in that house but then the feelings was very different and uncomfortable. Its very different if you have your own house because you can do anything you want without limitations and never afraid to commit mistakes.
