Guess I should not let it bother me but...

Wow your sister was totally wrong to do that to you. Geeze! I have felt like this on a few occasions recently. My sisters and I are really spaced out in age. I am 40, my middle sister is 30 and my youngest sister is 17. My Mama was really there for me when I was younger and helped me out alot with my kids while I was going through my divorce. I am remarried now with more kids but she just visits them and does not see them as often and has never kept them overnight. My middle sister has relied on my parents for a long time for help with her kids too and she keeps trying to get my Mama to babysit frequently. Unfortunately, my Mama is getting up there in age and she is having all sorts of physical problems and my middle sister does not take this into consideration. My younger sister is 17 and basically doted on by my parents. They do alot for her that they did not do for me or my sister when we were her age. At times it is hard to realize that we should stop being so dependent on our parents for things. I had twins back in October of 2011 and my Mama offered to stay out of work and come help with them. I accepted because I really needed the help. She never did stay out of work and come help. She didn't even come and help on the weekends. She always come up with an excuse, she was sick or was not feeling well or something of that nature but it hurt just the same. Now my middle sister is feeling the pressure like this because my Mama is turning her down left and right when she asks for help. I don't really blame my Mama one bit because she is feeling poorly and kids drain her. I do wish that she had not offered to help me with the twins if she did not mean it. I do wish that she would spend more time with them even if it is just a brief visit. She is the person in the family that comes up with the baby nicknames that sticks with the child throughout their life (my oldest boys (ages 22, 21 & 18) all still answer to their nicknames she gave them). My youngest boys (ages 2yr and 8 months) don't have a nickname yet and it does hurt.

Our family suffered a lot after it went through many obstacles and my relatives were kind enough to help us anyway they can, but there is that feeling that we are the family of disaster, so my father told me this and let me share it all here " They may be right for now, but you have to stand up for yourself and prove them wrong later on. Show them that you will not allow to just be looked down on. Use this as your motivation."...and truly it has. This is one of the things that has keep me going to go for my dreams. I am sure your sister did not mean to hurt you by that. Maybe in time they will realize this mistake and make up for it.

I haven't, but can just imagine how you feel. What was your reply? I would let them know that it hurt your feelings.

I felt bad growing up with my sister getting all the birthday parties and all the toys and snacks. I felt so bad for so long. she got all the clothes and everything else. she was so spoiled rotton.

Oh we're in the same boat! Just few weeks ago I saw from my facebook wall the newly uploaded pics of my close relatives together with my father and brother while having dinner in some resto. and that afternoon we were together yet nobody told or ask me and my husband if we wanna go with them..I was hurt but decided to keep it to myself and not to let my husband know about it coz i thought it would just aggravate the pain in me once I heard my husband's sympathy..but the secret didnt last for long when my husband had a sneak on my facebook and saw those pictures..he asked me when was it and there I told him the whole story..he was hurt too but I just told him oh just let them be..we can dine out even with out them..we can have our lives even with out them.. we can enjoy even with out them..but of course the pain is still there,, maybe this is one reason why Im becoming a lil tough and hard hearted person..

This didn't actually happen with my family, but my partners family. It was my partners mums birthday last a few months ago, and my partner has 2 sisters. One of the sisters was throwing a BBQ.. and we werent invited. The reason we weren't invited is because like yourself, we don't have a car, and my partners family live in another town so we had no way there, so they didn't invite us because no one could get us, and we had no way there. It hurt but we could understand it wasn't on purpose etc. I don't think your sister didn't invite you because she didn't WANT you there.. it was probably the car thing. Because if your sister didn't want you around her, why would she be talking to you at all?

I have felt like this from other people in my environment. I might have done it as well in the past so I can't really complain, but sometimes other people might think that they should keep some events secret because they don't want others to go. In my opinion, there are no uninvited people I believe that it's not bad not to invite someone if it's not an important event. And I wouldn't mind in that case. But when the others keep it a secret then it looks personal and it hurts. On the other hand, you have your family and you should be conentrated on them and don't let anyone say that you are unwanted again.