Am I to selfish for my friend?
By Resy King
@resy21curapika (2116)
Pasay, Philippines
July 15, 2012 6:23pm CST
My friend is going out of the country for good. She's staying with her fiance somewhere in Europe but the fun part here is I can't make it in the farewell party as my best friend specifically called me to ask if I can go for her. I said, well; given that I have a lot of work load at hand; I really can't.
Now I'm feeling guilty but I really can't. She may not be my bestest-best friend, she was my high school friend but I'm really working on something important right now, which we have 3 events in August. Care to let me know what's on your mind? Am I being foolish?
Thanks in advance!
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8 responses
@jvincent_129 (4994)
• Philippines
16 Jul 12
You shouldn't blame yourself for not being able to go with her. You have a lot of work at hand to be finished. She'll understand. Make it up to her by doing her another favor. 
@rsa101 (37952)
• Philippines
16 Jul 12
Well if you are indeed friends she would understand it. I think you have explained to her your situation so I do not think she would take that against you. I am just curios how she responded when you said you cannot come to her farewell party? I think from that point you can sense if she was hurt or not.
I think you just send her some kind text and reiterate your situation again to see if she would reply back to you or not.
If you are feeling guilty then I think it is up to you to reach up on her in any way you can to clear your mind of that guilt feeling.
@choybel (5042)
• Philippines
16 Jul 12
Sounds that you already made up your mind so there's really no use for any opinion here to make you change it, right? But to answer your question as to being selfish about it or not, well, I would say that you are just prioritizing things and that's just being mature, and not selfish for me. Somethings are just more important than others.
@OpinionatedLady (5966)
• United States
16 Jul 12
I think that if you feel guilty about this it means that some where deep inside it isn't just work stopping you from going. Think about it real deep and if you find it is just work then relax but if not.. well guess that will be what you need to think about when it comes round.
@kingparker (9673)
• United States
16 Jul 12
Well, that is your option. You choose what is your priority at the moment. If your friend, not so bestest - best friend is on good hand, and you think she doesn't really need you, you just explain it to her about the situation. You are really busy at the moment, and you can't really leave your hands of those projects, and please let her understand. Whether she can accept it or not, you have done your best.
@bjc66bjc (6730)
• United States
16 Jul 12
well I wouldn't say selfish, but is it really work thats stopping
by the party for a little while, after all she is a long time
friend..if not your bestiest friend..but I say if it dosen't
really bother you, then don't go...following your heart...
It you are feeling guilty what are you going to feel after its
too late...???
@riyauro (6421)
• India
15 Jul 12
It is not selfish of you at all resy. Your work is important that is why you can't make it to the farewell. She is just going abroad, not going forever from earth. You can always meet her later, but your work is much more important. It gives you your daily bread. If you don't have to eat, nobody will give. So don't worry, you will definitely meet her later sometime. God knows your heart is clean so don't you worry. Have a wonderful day ahead.
