Expecting others to hand over money because of an accident?

@911Ricki (13602)
Canada
July 16, 2012 9:30am CST
I sell and buy things on a mom swap and buy group. One lady posted saying her brother was in a bike accident and died. Sure, its very sad, but common and Ive knwon close friends that have died the same way who have had families, and so on. This lady posted saying about donating money to his family, and another lady went on a rant about it. Just the way the original poster had put it, more expecting money from people. I gave my condolences, and told her money is tight, and I cant afford it but in the future (btw I dont know this lady never met her). She caame back saying its only $30 give $30 his girlfriend pregnent and just rude. I wont be handing a penny to them now I thought it was rude and ridiculous to ask for money to begin with. Some do have say dances, or parties to raise money. But Im sorry dont expect people youve never met because his girlfriend is pregnent and her boyfriend died in an accident.
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@cher913 (25899)
• Canada
16 Jul 12
we had friends like that who were in a motor bike accident and our friend was on the bike and got hit very badly. he and his wife sued the other guy several times (not just once) to get money from the poor sap. yes, he was at fault but still.
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@911Ricki (13602)
• Canada
16 Jul 12
My Dad was in a motorcycle accident, and a lady illegally turned into them (she was drunk), and he sued them as he had to get his leg amputated. This accident was the guy was riding a bicycle and was doing flips and tricks on it, fell off (no helmet), and hit his head.
@dorannmwin (36609)
• United States
20 Jul 12
Unfortunately, people go through all kinds of things in their lives that they don't expect to happen and yes, there are a lot of expenses that we come across that we are really not equipped to handle at the time. However, I don't ever think that it is right to just ask strangers for money. Yes, last year when we started getting all of Tom's medical bills I did start a fundraiser on giveforward so that friends and family members would be able to help us out to pay some of our bills and yes, there were some people that I've never met in person that donated to us and I am appreciative of that, but never did I beg people that I'd never met in person to donate to us.
@MandaLee (3377)
• United States
16 Jul 12
Dear Ricki, I would help them. It is a kind and compassionate thing to do. If everyone thought so negatively, it would only add to the girlfriend's pain.
@anklesmash (1417)
16 Jul 12
That's completely out of order and if her story is true i have deep sympathy for her but it dosent give her the right to demand money off strangers lots of people suffer family tragedies and don't demand money from people.It would have been ok if she had made a general post saying the situation and saying any help would be greatly appreciated with a link to a pay pal donation box if she had done something like this people may have been more open to help.If she was going to ask people for money she should have asked people who knew the family and asked politely for little bit of money to help them out.
@atv818 (1988)
• United Arab Emirates
16 Jul 12
From my understanding, she was asking for a specific amount to be given? If that is the case, then that is rather rude? People can ask for financial assistance for various of reasons and from different people whether they know them or not but to ask for a specific amount from a stranger, I would consider that to be unpleasant. I would not even ask for a specific amount even from a close friend. Money is tight for everyone. If financial help is needed, just be grateful for those who shared a little to us. For those who cannot give, just say a simple prayer instead.
• India
16 Jul 12
Hi friend, really it is ridiculous, as you mentioned that you don't know about the lady, then how she order you to give money for her, by telling this kind of silly reasons. You are not responsible for the accident as well as his girl friend and the lady's activity is not a good one. Better to block this kind of persons
@Hatley (132252)
• Garden Grove, California
16 Jul 12
hi ricki that does take a bit of gall to ask for money because of an accident. what if all of us anytime we were unlucky came around to our friends asking for hand out for a donation to us, our friends would soon unfriend us.Here in 'Calif the economy is too bad to expect people to halp out in any accident.
@NailTech (6895)
• United States
16 Jul 12
If you don't know them and their circumstances for sure then it's tough to know if they're telling the truth or not. I don't blame you, no one should feel forced to give money and that was being too pushy. I have known both good and bad people asking for money so it's not like you were being rude either. This is an unfortunate situation, I agree if it's true but money is tight for all. We all have our tough situations, some more than others. I'm in quite a bind right now with medical junk and I can't ask people for money.
• United States
16 Jul 12
This happens all the time and it is ok. the lady was wrng to insist that you send her the $30. but there is a site matter of fact two sites that people go on asking for money for this cause and that one. I forget the name but there is even a pet one where people put pictures of there pets and the amount the pet vet bills are and people will donate to pay the bill. I have seen dogs get more money than humans do. which is a crying out loud shame.