She's not in the good books now!

@911Ricki (13602)
July 17, 2012 7:55pm CST
Yesterday was my Grandparents 63rd wedding anniversary. But my grandfather died about 6 years ago. My Grandma gets very sad, and depressed when dates like this go by. She asked my sister, me, and my Mom to go over for lunch. My Grandma made us all lunch, and I thought it was nice. She had potato salad, devil eggs, salad, and this soup (I think it was sweet potato but not sure). I inhaled this soup it was so good to be honest. Either my Grandma made it or her friend she carries on with stories either way. Now I was always taught you dont like it eat it anyways especially at someone elses house. My Grandma took the time and effort to make us all this, and she gets very sensitive if you say you dont like it, or dont eat it. My Mom said later she didnt like it but she forced it down. My sister left the entire bowl with two spoonfuls missing, and put it on the counter. My Grandma called later all upset because she didnt eat the soup, and now shes in a worse mood.
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6 responses
• United States
18 Jul 12
I think it is great that your mom and you went over to spend time with your grandmother. Holidays and special events are hard to celebrate by yourself especially when you are used to celebrating them with the person you love. I am sorry that your sister did not like the soup and even if she did not like them she still should have eaten it. I am sorry that your grandmother is sad.
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@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
20 Jul 12
That is awful that your sister left the food and it was something that hurt your grandmother's feelings. That is always something that I try not to do when I am eating with other people. Of course, for me, I have learned to be somewhat callous when it comes to the food that I fix because I have come to realize that you can please some of the people some of the time, but there is no way that you can please all of the people all the time.
@CTHanum (8254)
• Malaysia
18 Jul 12
If it was made by the family members, I will eat it no matter how it taste or else who's gonna eat the foods. It such a waste if no one finish it all. No matter how delicious my mom cook most of the time it always me and my mom who finish it as everyone is tired and they don't feel like to eat the food. I don't want to waste it and I know my mom dishes are yummy, so no reason to reject it. I know your grandma feelings. It's good that you love your grandma's soup. The others just don't know how to be polite at least. Didn't your mom feel something if his son comment and say bad about her meals??(^^)
@SomeCowgirl (32270)
• United States
18 Jul 12
Your sister just thinks she's special now doesn't she? Okay now if she didn't want to eat it, fine, but she should have disposed of it somehow without your grandma knowing. I was taught to eat it even if I didn't enjoy it as well. Of course on my dad's side of the family I wasn't about to eat stuff they KNEW I did not like but decided to put on my plate anyway... I was taught if I didn't eat all of something to offer it to someone else as well, not to just throw it away.
@Jessi_T (380)
• United States
18 Jul 12
If you don't like something you shouldn't be forced to eat it, your sister did nothing wrong (in this situation) however she should have been polite about it and told Grandma she wasn't feeling well, had a stomachache or a headache. I never tried to enforce the "clean your plate rule" or the "if you are visiting someone show manners and eat it anyway rule" because it is wrong. I did teach my children if they didn't like something, ask to be excused politely without making negative comments and to always say "thank you" when offered something at someone else's home rather that is a "yes thank you" or a "no thank you" As adults I hope they still remember to be polite about it. I myself wouldn't have set there and yet. I would have said "thanks for the delicious meal grandma but I have a stomachache" something in that extent spare grandmas's feelings on a hard day for her, and spare my stomach from not getting an ache forcing myself to eat something I truly did not want.
@Hatley (164629)
• Garden Grove, California
18 Jul 12
hi Ricki that sister of yours needs a good hard swat on her spoiled rear end,. her grandmother did not deserve that. surely just once your sister could have thought first of her grandmother's feelings.Poor Grandma next time you see her give her a hug from me just because. I was taught the same thing when you are at someone else's home and I would eat it anyway not to upset the cook.Sounds like it was really good soup to m e.