Grandchildren really are GRAND, aren't they?

United States
July 21, 2012 10:40am CST
I take care of my granddaughter while my daughter and her boyfriend work. This saves them money, keeps my Lily out of a stranger's hands, and allows me time to spend with my little angel. For those who are interested, I'll post some pictures of my Lilyana later. Anyway, I'm very excited today because Lily took her first steps! At least, I'm pretty sure they're her first because I can't imagine my daughter not telling me if she's already walked. I'm of two minds about this. One, I'm super excited that I got to be present for her first steps, but two, her mother isn't going to be happy that she wasn't. It's hard on a first-time mom to miss any of those baby firsts and I know she'll be kind of sad. This makes me feel bad, you know? But I guess it's better than some random daycare provider, right?
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@deebomb (15323)
• United States
23 Jul 12
Hello tina and welcome to myLot. I have 9 grandchildren. Three boys and 6 girls. I lived with mt son and helped him raise a daughter and a son. They are all grown up now. My granddaughter is married now and has been for two years. She and her brother are the light of my life. I had to move to MI to live with my daughter now. She has three girls. It is very hard to like the younger two all the time.. I love them but to many times they are real little bit7hes to their mother and their older sister. The funny thing is one went to Australia with her mom. She had to bunk with other young girls. She said her roommate was a bit5ch. Guess it takes one to know one. Now my other grand kids I don't know much about because we are so far away you can't get to know any one over the internet or the phone. They were all sweet when they were babies. I was present at the birth of my oldest daughter first baby. It was so exciting. It was a small hospital and after Jessica was born I was allowed in the nursery and they gave me some of her foot prints in my address book.
• United States
24 Jul 12
I wish I had thought to ask about having my grandchildrens' footprints done. That would have been so nice.
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@deebomb (15323)
• United States
25 Jul 12
It was s small country hospital. It was cover twenty years ago. I was also allowed in the nursery. Jessica was the only baby in there at the time. I doubt I would have gotten them these days. It is nice having her foot prints. She was the only one of my grandchildern tha t I was at the birth of.
• United States
26 Jul 12
I've been in the delivery room for two of my three. When my oldest had her second, she called me after he was born because he came a lot faster than they expected. I was disappointed because I'd wanted to be there for his birth, too, but I guess he was an impatient little man... lol.
@ANTIQUELADY (36488)
• United States
27 Jul 12
They sure are grand, I keep my grandson who just turned 8 most every day since school has been out.I also picked him up at school every day. He makes my life worth living.I'm so glad u are getting to keep her. U never know what's going on in some of these daycares.Your daughter will hate that she misses alot of things , i did to w/my boys but u have to make a living.
• United States
28 Jul 12
I think it's sad that so many people don't have the choice anymore. I hope that society and the economy swings back in that direction so more women could stay home with their kids if they want to.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36488)
• United States
28 Jul 12
I doubt that will ever happen. There is so many ladies that have to make a living like i did that have no choice but to work. Thankfully i had grandparents that helped me out likie u are doing for your daughter. Happy weekend to u.
@shylade (3137)
• Philippines
21 Jul 12
Hi! I am a working and first mom too. At first, I was really frustrated that I have to go back to work and leave my son. I actually still looking for work at home or stable business so I can take care of my son. It has been 2 years but I am not losing hope that one day it will come true if not with my first child but with my future children. Anyway your daughter is lucky to have to take care of her baby. My mom can't take care of my son because she's far from us and still working. But next month she will finally retire. We are just lucky to have a nanny that is almost a relative of my husband (sister of his mom's sister in law). She's taking care of our son well and even potty trained before he turned 2.
• United States
22 Jul 12
That's awesome! Potty training that early is pretty rare and even more rare with boys. For some reason, boys tend to train later than girls.
@shylade (3137)
• Philippines
23 Jul 12
Yeah, I actually surrendered when I started potty trained him at 14 months. I was frustrated that time so I was really surprised when I learned that his new nanny already potty trained him. So he's only on diaper at night because he's still drinking milk at night. Actually what took him this fast is the fact that he's using cloth diaper since he's 15 months. I also read that boys took much time than girls when it comes to potty training so I am just proud with my son.
@padu19 (1441)
• India
23 Jul 12
You are absolutely right! No one can replace our own family. Even my parents take lot of care in bringing up my neice. I sometimes feel that they are over-doing. But, just that they are truly loving her a lot. She is a very cute baby and no one can stop loving her, specially her grand parents!!
• United States
24 Jul 12
There's no such thing as overdoing the time you spend with grandchildren, or any member of the family. As long as they do it by choice, and not because the parents are skipping out on their responsibilities, then it's all good. I believe that Americans lost a lot when we stopped having extended families around us. Most families are scattered and I believe this hurts the backbone of our values and society.
@GemmaR (8526)
21 Jul 12
I think that grandchildren are one of the best things that any of us can probably have. In a way, it's like having your own child who you love just as much but without having the same kind of level of responsibility. At least when you've had to look after your grandchildren you get to give them back at the end of the day and you don't have to worry about putting them to bed and having sleepless nights. You can be very proud of your child when they have their own child, as they have given you something really special that you can cherish for the rest of your life.
• United States
22 Jul 12
Exactly! I tell people that as grandparents we get all the fun without dealing with the guilt. I don't have to worry about spoiling them as that's part of my job description.
@yiart65 (146)
• Singapore
21 Jul 12
I know it's the best feeling in the world to be the first to watch her take her first steps. Don't worry, your daughter will have many chances in the future to see her baby having many first times.
• United States
22 Jul 12
Well, turns out I was wrong and she did see her first steps do that's nice, in a way.
@sid556 (31005)
• United States
21 Jul 12
I do the same thing for my daughters. I am the sitter on my days off from work and I wouldn't have it any other way. I know your dilema in their milestones. My youngest grandson is 16 months now and I'd told my daughter when he first showed signs of wanting to crawl etc. that I would be tempted to lie to her and not tell her if he did it on my watch. She assured me that even though she did not want to miss the "first" of anything, she did not want me to lie. She wanted his baby book to be accurate. As it turned out, she was there for for all of them so far. We were both there for his first word. It's just fun. Enjoy your little one, Tina. Some days are a little tough but they pass so quickly and the bonding is so strong. My oldest grandson is now 13 and I don't see him much during the school year as he is in another town and busy with sports and school. He spends time here during the summer and loves it. I love that he loves coming here still. I wish it would never change but I'm sure it will as he gets older.
• United States
22 Jul 12
My oldest grandchild just turned 3. All three of mine were about a year apart, so they're kind of like little steps at 3, 2 and 1. Lily has her first birthday in a little over a week on August 1.
@jaiho2009 (39019)
• Philippines
21 Jul 12
I agree, grandkids are definitely GRAND I remember how my mom's heart melted when she saw her granddaughter. My mom was kind of angry because I married a man they especially she- doesn't like (uhmn..) But the moment she saw her granddaughter- she never say a word but just kiss and hug and cry
• United States
22 Jul 12
I get that. I'm not overly fond of my oldest daughter's boyfriend but I love my grandsons. It was one of the high points of my life being in the delivery room for the oldest boy - my first grandchild. Rather surreal, seeing my baby have a baby, but it was an incredible experience.
• United States
21 Jul 12
Your daughter should not be upset over this. Her baby will have more things that she will get to see first like when she calls her momma. With kids in danger of the world today I know your daughter is blessed to have you watching her child.
• United States
22 Jul 12
I was wrong about being first, as I replied to the poster before you. All good, though. And yes, I believe that having me take care of Lily is a blessing. None of us wanted to risk her being cared for by a stranger.
@donsky14 (5963)
• Philippines
21 Jul 12
I'm a first time mom to, and yeah your right...every first's count. But don't worry, I'm sure your daughter will get to see more firsts.
• United States
22 Jul 12
I was wrong. Lily had taken 4 steps for her mom and dad the night before I posted but my daughter forgot to call me and tell me. So even though I didn't get to see her first, I'm glad her mama did. But she ended up doing 7-8 steps for me so that was still cool.