Misunderstanding
By roshigo58
@roshigo58 (4859)
Pune, India
July 21, 2012 11:28am CST
Generally i do not like to quarrel with anybody.Because it is troublesome to us and others also feel bad by it. On a rainy day once i had been to a shop to buy something. One of the customer has put his wet umbrella on a sack full of flour. Unfortunately i was standing there next to sack and was not having an umbrella.The shopkeeper was under wrong impression and he has blamed me for my bad manners asking me to go out of the shop. I patiently tried to tell him that it is not my umbrella but the original umbrella owner was not there. So there was no option for me but to quit the shop. I felt very bad with the bitter incidence. Sometimes conditions are beyond our control. Anyway i hav not given a much importance to this event. What do you think.
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11 responses
@bjc66bjc (6730)
• United States
21 Jul 12
hi roshigo, incidents like this happens very often i am sure..
and it alls depends on the disposition of the sccused..on how
they responded to the accuser..
But since you were not guilty I hope when you left you left
with the umbrella..after thats why you were asked to leave the
shop,,,,LOL
@bjc66bjc (6730)
• United States
23 Jul 12
Yes I know thats why I said since you were accused of putting the wet
umbrella on the the package, I said I hoep you at least left with the
umbrella when he threw you. I mean he accused you of laying it there so
you might as well picked it up and carried it with you...that all I was
trying to convey...I know you did not have the umbrella....
@roshigo58 (4859)
• Pune, India
23 Jul 12
Ok Ok now i have followed what you mean to say. Then i would have one umbrella and may be the original owner would have asked for the umbrella who was not traceable at that time,to the shop keeper. And the sho keeper would have realised his mistake.
@roshigo58 (4859)
• Pune, India
22 Jul 12
I think you have not read correctly, i was not having umbrella at all,but the shopkeeper thought that the said umbrella was mine. Anyway thanks for the response.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
23 Jul 12
Misunderstandings are things that happen to people all the time and in many of those situations, they should be something that you just shrug off of your back. Yesterday was my littlest niece's first birthday party and we went to McDonald's for her birthday party. Well, there was one ball there for the children to play basketball with and someone had taken the ball up in the play equipment and my son went up there and got it where it was sitting still. Another mother yelled at him and I had to go outside for a minute before I went off on her because I didn't know this woman from Adam and she was yelling at my child that had done nothing wrong.
@roshigo58 (4859)
• Pune, India
23 Jul 12
Yes you are very right. Anyway thanks for the good response. Please be in touch.
@much2say (53942)
• Los Angeles, California
22 Jul 12
Perhaps in the past, I may have reacted the same way to the umbrella incident. I was never one to speak up and when confronted, I never knew what to say. But now, especially after having 2 kids, I stand up for myself better and speak out when necessary - especially if I did not do what I was accused of. And in the case of a store, I wouldn't want to get in a position where the store would make me pay for merchandise that was ruined (especially if I had nothing to do with it) - so I'd certainly speak up!
@sjvg1976 (41132)
• Delhi, India
22 Jul 12
Hello roshigo,
That looks bad when we are held responsible for something which have not done.Certainly i would have not gone out of the shop if i were in your place.your going out of the shop proved that you were not the culprit you should have proved your innocence to that shop keeper.
@vidhyaprakash_2 (7116)
• India
22 Jul 12
Hi friend, sad to hear about this, you are right, Sometimes things are happening beyond our control, we don't have the ability to do anything against it. As you mentioned you take that incident sportive, that's the right way. I am also in your sort, if i faced this kind of incidents, i don't give more importance to it
@roshigo58 (4859)
• Pune, India
23 Jul 12
You are very very right.Thanks for the appropriate response. Please be in touch and share.
@maharlikah (1045)
• Philippines
21 Jul 12
Hi there roshigo,
The store owner should have asked first who is the owner of the umbrella before getting into a conclusion. He will lost costumers with that attitude. If he asked who's umbrella was that, you should have given him the correct answer supposedly. Anyway, don't worry it's not your loss but his.
@shynepapin101 (1879)
• United Arab Emirates
21 Jul 12
A lot of silly things happen around us that though we didn't cause it, we end up having to be blamed. Sometimes it is karma of what we have sometimes done to other people or is really meant to happen to us just to test our patience, personality and resistance. The best way to somehow handle this is to stand your ground and never step down until you are heard.
@yiart65 (146)
• Singapore
21 Jul 12
I think I will try my best to let him understand the situation and not swallow it within myself. I mean, you're just trying to prove that it's not your fault, not as though you're trying to start a fight. But, on another point, since he started blaming you without even acknowledging the matter correctly, there's no point in arguing with him.
@Gautam1002 (730)
• India
21 Jul 12
It was nice reading your experience and I really admire the reaction of yours. I am pretty much of same temperament as you are. Though I like to quarrel on topics but I withdraw myself as soon as I see it turning a fight. If I would have been at your position I would have reacted exactly same, but I would come other day again to the shopkeeper explaining him what I had to say. My point will not be to make him feel guilt but just to avoid any discrimination to me further. I do this very often, try to politely make someone realize his mistake. Still I find some people not agreeing that it was their fault. I quit then. But more often than not, I find the guilt accepting his fault.
