Should I check her bags before she leaves?
By jureathome
@jureathome (5361)
Philippines
July 24, 2012 8:07am CST
This nanny has been with us for only a short 6 months. Now, she's asking permission to go on a leave to attend to a family emergency. She'll be bringing her luggage, for sure, since she'll be out for a week.
I wonder if it's necessary and proper to check her bags, before she leaves, just to be sure she's not taking anything that doesn't belong there.
I'm having this thought because we had a nanny before who took things from our room, and I was able to see those in her bag. So, I let her go.
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@Belle_of_the_Ball (896)
• Philippines
30 Nov 12
This may sound sneaky and outright unbecoming but why don't you check her bag when she's not around lols. Yeah, I understand how you fell.That could be a trauma from your past experience. Let me share my experience. Few years ago, my cousins had a vacation in our house. I have a habit of wearing my favorite clothes right after drying so one day, I couldn't find my pair of shorts, I turned the house upside down but I couldn't find it. So I secretly checked my cousins bag and I found it there. I didn't get it after seeing my stuff in here bag,instead I asked every one in the house including my cousin if they've seen my short pants around. Then, after few minutes, she helped me find my shorts, to my surprise my shorts were inside my cupboard, but I knew it weren't really there before I asked them. lols.
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@jureathome (5361)
• Philippines
30 Nov 12
What a shame for you cousin to have done such an embarrassing act. Was it more of a habit for her to take things that aren't hers?
I did the same to my first nanny. I suspected her for stealing some of my RTW stocks that I sell online. And, I wasn't surprised to see the missing items in her bag. On the same day, I let her go home. I can't live with someone I can't trust.
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@ShyBear88 (59299)
• Sterling, Virginia
25 Jul 12
Well one you have no right to check her bags a Nanny doesn't have to let you look at there stuff. I wouldn't look unless you saw things are missing. Things like this happen and checking her stuff won't change the matter if she does or doesn't take your things. If things are missing then you report them to the authority other wise with no evidence that she has done something wrong you have no right touching her stuff.
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@jureathome (5361)
• Philippines
27 Jul 12
I didn't check her stuff. I'm banking on the thought that we kept our room locked when we're away, so she can't take valuables.
But with my first nanny, after 2 years of serving us, I noticed things disappear and she's the only one who comes in the room once in awhile. So, while she was away, I sneaked in to her room and went thru her stuff. Alas, I saw the missing items, and on that very day I confronted her and let her go. To my amazement, she still denied it.
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
8 Dec 12
hi jureathonme if I did not miss anything ahd she never acted like she would steal no I w ould not check her bags., She is not the s ame thing as the person who stole your things so nod not embarrass her like that. She is a human being and that would be humiliating to anyone servant or not.Either you do not trust her then just fire her or you do trust her so do not humiliate her. She is a human being not just a servant to be bullied.
@jureathome (5361)
• Philippines
8 Dec 12
In stores, they inspect their staff coming in and out of the store vicinity. That's a rule they follow strictly because there is a big risk of theft. Can't we have the same rule in the house, especially if we don't know the person too well.
@jureathome (5361)
• Philippines
27 Jul 12
Well, my previous nanny who stole things from us stayed with us for 2 years. We have trusted her enough to just allow her to get in and out of the room. She took advantage of that. I don't think its the period of time that tells how we can trust someone, in this case.
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@vidhyaprakash_2 (7116)
• India
24 Jul 12
Hi friend, sad to hear about your previous nanny, it is really hard to believe a person in this days, as you mentioned your new nanny is working around 6 months, so you have an idea about her in this period, if you have a good opinion about her, then there is no need to check her luggage, otherwise check it
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@jureathome (5361)
• Philippines
27 Jul 12
6 months is a short time for stay in help. And, besides, Im not here to look after what she's doing 24 hours. I even think she's just putting on a kind and soft attitude when we're in front of her. Too good to be true.
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@francis920176 (84)
• Philippines
24 Jul 12
check the baggage. it is not that you don't trust her. it is one way to help her not to even try doing nasty things. i suggest that you tell her about the inspection. explain nicely why you will do it. and after checking, give her a gift or something she could take with her family.
@jureathome (5361)
• Philippines
27 Jul 12
That would have been a good idea. But, its too late. I didn't feel comfortable about asking her to open her bags for me to check it, so I just let her go. I'm hoping nothing valuable were in those bags. We lock our room all the time when we're away, so I'm banking on that.
@jureathome (5361)
• Philippines
27 Jul 12
She was only with us for 6 months, and even if she was here 6 years, we could never give our 100% trust on non-family members in the house. I mean, things happen when you least expect it. We always lock the room, where most of the important stuff are, so I guess we didn't lose anything valuable. We had to learn the lesson the hard way with our first nanny who took things from us because we allowed her to just go in and out the room, out of trust.
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