how to forgive one self?

Philippines
July 28, 2012 4:03am CST
I feel like I'm condemning myself. I know the Lord Jesus Christ had cleansed me. And I just can forget all the sins I did. And some of it, I'm still doing. Yeah. . Isn't funny.. I know, even you, other mylotters have many things in your life that you can't remove. Maybe vices or other things. And in my part I have the same thing. I don't see it as bad as I think but, ofcourse, my conscience tells it is. Like other people, i have alter ego. Meaning some times I'm a different person. Seems like me, myself don't know. Cuz never did I realize I can do things I can't do before. Maybe a bit confusing, but, I too, is confuse. I wish a lot of christians could read my discussion and share me a lot of verses and good thoughts that would increase my self esteem. I have a lot of faith to the Lord. But, I have nobody to talk to here at home more often. I don't talk much. So my alter ego comes out when there are set of people who act like a friend to me and lead me to a wrong way in life. I'm not taking drugs. But, I know something is really wrong to me. And i wanted to change my ways. Can you help me? Tell me how can I forgive myself ? and how can I move forward again on the right path?
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@yuekim123 (161)
• Philippines
28 Jul 12
I cannot tell you the exact ways on how to forgive yourself because only you can determine it. Only you and no one else know yourself better than others. Yet I just want to tell you that if you really want to forgive yourself, it must start with an acceptance. Acceptance to the situation you are in. Because in that way, you can properly address your problems and with that you can assess it. Furthermore, give yourself time to be in silence, for in silence you will certainly find what you are missing of. May God bless you and I wish I could be of any help to you through this :)
• Philippines
30 Jul 12
Yes. I know forgiveness starts from acceptance. Its easy to say but hard to do. Maybe, I'm half hearted to accept things too. Though I kept on regretting yet, I keep on doing. Why is it like that? Its human nature isn't it? but why others can , and made me think "why I can't?" All in the mind. Sort of. Silence and quiet time?? hmm I have a lot of that. Maybe that's one of the reasons why I do things I don't like to do. Cuz that is the time oppression is trying to hunt me. Since I'm a soloist more often. I do things my own. Not much on talking and socials. Thanks for your response :) Happy mylotting.
• Philippines
1 Aug 12
Oh, so i guess you do the opposite? just saying :)
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
31 Jul 12
The thing that is the most important to remember is the fact that no matter what you are going through, God is right there by your side. When you are going through the toughest times in your life, God is actually carrying you through those times in your life. God is able to forgive us for all of the mistakes that we make in our lives, therefore, you should also learn how to forgive yourself.
• Philippines
2 Oct 12
Been 3 months, and I just read your response. And actually, upon reading it, it touches my heart. Feels like I'm melting. Thank you for this. I don't know how and why I read this after few months already, but, I guess the Lord has reason behind it. Thank you. :)
@barehugs (8986)
• Canada
29 Jul 12
Its easy to forgive yourself if you know the true facts ~ Our Creator is a God of love who loves unconditionally with a love that demands absolutely nothing in return. This being the case, God forgives your sins even before they are committed, so you have absolutely nothing to forgive yourself for!
• Philippines
30 Jul 12
yup. I know that. He freed us from sins. I just have to accept.
• Indonesia
29 Jul 12
I have the feeling like yours. Sometimes I do the same mistake again and again eventhought I have promised myself before that I will never do the same mistake again, but still I do it again. It makes me hate myself, sometimes, and make me feel down and guilty, I lost my spirit and happiness. But then I start to realize that if I stuck with this feeling I will never become somebady new that people will remember and talk good thing about me. I have many dreams, I wrote them in my diary and whenver I feel down, upset with myself,I will read them and say to myself that I can do it, I can do something better than today that people will talk about it someday about me have done something really great in my life. If others can live happy why cant I?
• Philippines
30 Jul 12
I have the same spirit too. But, whenever I realized and think of the things I used to do I feel like I'm turning to a different persona again. Starting to hate myself. Others can't see that of course. Just me. But what I want is to eradicate that feeling. To remove that thoughts.