They Call me a Cougar
@ElusiveButterfly (45939)
United States
August 5, 2012 9:21am CST
I recently had a conversation with an old friend of mine on Facebook. We chatted for over an hour. The topic of my spouse and I came up. She asked how we met, how old he was, etc.
Well once she found out his age, she came back quickly with "Cougar!" This term has been overused if you ask me. I find it insulting. Never had I ever imagined meeting someone who is 20 years younger than me, fall in love, and marry.
Age shouldn't matter when two people enjoy each other's company and love, respect, and support one another.
Who knows what the future holds for us. Until then, we are happy with what we have.
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@chookie1971 (2271)
• Australia
5 Aug 12
Do not be offended. I love cats. all sorts of cats. Cougar is a cat. A beautiful cat.
Now if cougar is a beautiful cat, that must mean that you are beautiful as well.
Honestly who cares about age. It is only a number of years. The most important is that you love each other.
So remember cougar is a cat, and a big cat is a beautiful cat, and a beautiful cat means you are a beautiful cat. "Roar" like a cat.
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@ElusiveButterfly (45939)
• United States
5 Aug 12
Thanks for the insightful comment. It made me smile!
=^..^=
@Jshean20 (14349)
• Canada
6 Aug 12
I like the way you explained that chookie1971, I agree with you. I think that "cougar" is just an over used term when referring to a big age gap between a man and a woman, your friend is probably jealous and wishes she could attract a younger crowd.
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@GardenGerty (157563)
• United States
5 Aug 12
My mom was almost eleven years older than my dad. His present wife is almost eleven years older. Those are his two longest and best relationships. You just tell people he is lucky to have you and that he values fine quality. People can be so rude and insulting. How did you meet your husband?
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@ElusiveButterfly (45939)
• United States
5 Aug 12
I met him on Facebook. I added him when I found he was friends with a lot of my friends. He was a really nice guy and I liked him from the start. He was the one who started this whole thing!
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@GardenGerty (157563)
• United States
5 Aug 12
Your friend may just be jealous of your happiness. I think it is great to have someone who is so nice.
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@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
5 Aug 12
My mom is 86 now and my father is 75 but still they are living together. Been married for 45 years still strong and inlove. Age doesn't matter in terms of loving a person. And finding the right guy is no exception.
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@ElusiveButterfly (45939)
• United States
5 Aug 12
Wow! 45 years and still going strong. That is wonderful!
@blue65packer (11826)
• United States
5 Aug 12
You are right the "cougar" is been over used! So what if your husband is 20 years younger then you? Today this is commom! Of course some woman only look for younger men but hey men do it to! All the time! Your relationship was not planned. It just happened! As long as you are both happy that is what is important!
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@ElusiveButterfly (45939)
• United States
5 Aug 12
I wasn't even looking when we found each other. We in fact had been friends for a long time.
@bjc66bjc (6730)
• United States
6 Aug 12
+Elusive, congrats...don't you worry about your fb friend and
her termonology...If she wasn't call you a cougar she would be
calling you something else...Girl don't pay any attemtion to
that chatter...If you are happy with your man then thats what
important...
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@nyssa102 (748)
• United States
5 Aug 12
Hi there Ellusive Butterfly! I say take that name Cougar and wear it proudly. It means you are a fascinating, talented and strong woman. I see nothing wrong with it at all. And age should not matter. If I were to meet a man 20 years my junior and fall in love I'd marry him in a heartbeat. Age should not matter, neither should the comments made by short sighted and jealous people. You rock! Support each other, be kind to all living things and enjoy what you have. Please do not find the term insulting, it's a strong animal that takes no prisoners. Be well, Elisive butterfly, and enjoy love!
@chrystalia (1208)
• Tucson, Arizona
5 Aug 12
YES! Nyssa, I agree with you 100%. Heck, if anyone called me a cougar, I'd be thrilled-- you only get called one, usually, if you're successful :-). I agree with everyone that age, in and of itself, isn't all that important. I know that for some reason, every male I have had in my life long term, either friends or my other half, always turns out to be nine years older than me-- go figure :-). Even weirder, most of them are Aquarians like myself. My other half was born Feb. 8th, I'm the 13th. Four of our male friends, that started out as my friends, also have February birthdays. Anyway-- enjoy your life and celebrate your love!
May you live as long as you like, and love as long as you live-- Robert Heinlein
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@BarBaraPrz (45498)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
5 Aug 12
Men are always marrying women much their junior, and nobody blinks an eye. Why should it be any different for we women?
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@ElusiveButterfly (45939)
• United States
5 Aug 12
That is what I say to people who question the age difference.
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@anklesmash (1412)
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5 Aug 12
As long as you are both happy and love each other the age difference dosen't matter I know a couple with a similar age difference and have been together for a while and are very happy.What your not is a cougar or at least not in my view.Cougars just tend to sleep with much younger men and it is just a physical thing not a love thing often they are married as well and just bored.
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@toyota4k (1208)
• Philippines
5 Aug 12
I know of couples with a big age gap from the other. Which gender may be older, I am referring to those, after a long time together, have never broke up. Their families grew and progressed through the years and are actually among the model families in their community.
@sweeteauty (22)
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5 Aug 12
relax,take this word as a compliment.If guy so younger than u are is interested in you it means only that you are attractive and sexy,and age has nothing to do with these things,to my strong opinion.If woman takes good care about herself ,she will look young for a loooooong time-rememer Ninon Lanclot?
@bhibbard13 (30)
• United States
5 Aug 12
I've never really taken "cougar" as a derogatory word, at least when I have heard it. I see how others may take offense, but I wouldn't if I were you. Congrats to the both of you and good for you :)
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