For better or for worse
By dorannmwin
@dorannmwin (36392)
United States
August 6, 2012 9:44pm CST
I've shared with you all some of the many problems that my husband and I have been through, with the worst problem that we've had being his getting addicted to prescription pain medications.
Well, there were a few stumbles along the road with my intervention that I staged for him and I wanted to leave the relationship because I felt like our children and myself were being abused. However, I stuck it out because I knew that he wanted to change his ways.
We are now four months after the time that I started the intervention with him and gave him the ultimatum. Things are still not financially the way that I would like for them to be, but it really does feel like the cards are all falling into place.
However, as far as our relationship goes, things now are so much better than they were. We are able to talk about the issues that we do face and I honestly know that our marriage is going to last for the rest of our lives.
How about you all, have you had to face major changes in your relationship? Do you believe that marriages are able to last through thick and thin? What would be the issue that could happen in your marriage that would be the one thing that would make you call it quits?
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@LovingMyBabies (85127)
• Valdosta, Georgia
8 Aug 12
My husband and I have been through so many things together. So many really hard things. First of all we are always struggling financially to get our bills paid each month. But the two hardest things we have been through was Our miscarriage and Being homeless.
The miscarriage broke our hearts and we sat in the hospital room crying for hours in each others arms. It was really tough.
Being homeless was the second hardest thing for us. We lived in a tent for months in the middle of winter in Virginia. We also had our oldest daughter with us who was only 3 months old at the time. She was hospitalized from it being so cold, she got really sick.
The third hardest time for us is actually right now. Since my husband cut his hand on a saw at work he has not been able to work since December 2011. We don't have a vehicle therefore I cannot work. We have 3 children and the workers comp check is only $300 a week! Our rent alone is $700 per month, plus all of the other bills.
BUT we have made it through all of these things and I know for a fact we CAN get through anything together. We have been together for 8 years. There were days when I thought about giving up, but once I prayed about it I knew I belong with him. I have no doubt that I am with my soul mate. We are perfect together even with the daily struggles. The struggles have only made us stronger.
With all we have been through I truly think people could make most marriages last if they want it to. You and I are both proof of that...
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
9 Aug 12
You are right, it is the hard times that will make a person feel like they need to give up, but it is when you emerge from those hard times that you will find that the relationship that you have with your spouse is stronger than it was when you fell into the hard times.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
9 Aug 12
You are right that immaturity would be something that would make it impossible to carry on with a relationship. I've been lucky in that my husband is mature and responsible most of the time. I believe that if he wasn't I wouldn't be able to deal with it.
@3SnuggleBunnies (16374)
• United States
7 Aug 12
I'm glad things are turning around for you guys. Sadly no relationship is perfect, no matter the aspects involved.
I think cheating would be the number one culprit next to not getting along in general. I know I've had some people say they'd leave my hubby for the stuff he pulls... but it's nothing serious like what you are going thru Doran.
GL to you guys I hope things keep improving!
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
8 Aug 12
I honestly do believe that things for us are going to keep getting better. There are still hard times that we are going to have to face, but I also see that the good times that we are having are coming much more often than the hard times that we still have to face.
@much2say (53941)
• Los Angeles, California
7 Aug 12
So glad that things REALLY worked out for the better for you both, dorannmwin! It was a rough road to say the least - but you guys were able to work it out - but of course a lot of it had to do with your strength, patience, and love for your man. I do believe that marriages can last through thick and thin - but that all depends on the person and how they are as a couple with the other person. Honestly we haven't gone through having to face major changes in the 25 some years we've known each other - and hope never to face it ever. The only thing that would make me call it quits is if he ever told me he didn't love me anymore. Our relationship is based on such a strong bond - so that's why I say that.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
8 Aug 12
I have to say that it really hasn't been something that has been easy, but I really feel like it is all worth it. Our family is only going to become much stronger as a result of the struggles that we've been through. Yes, I will admit that the going is still tough at times, but the good times that we are having are much closer together now than they were a few months ago.
@Hillxuan (77)
• China
8 Aug 12
now i'am still single.before i look forward to marrying.but now saw your describle the marriage,it let me flinch.marriage is mystery and full of happiness and worried.the nice marriage need run it better that you think it's worthwhile.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
8 Aug 12
I believe that the thing that is important for all people to remember is the fact that a marriage is not always going to be as wonderful and carefree as it is on the day that a couple is married.
