Patience is a virtue...

@Raine38 (9117)
United States
August 13, 2012 7:28am CST
which I do not have...Well, not really but there are certain situations wherein I don't think I still have the patience to see through. When the situation calls for it, I do extend and stretch my patience. Could be that the person is really clueless and I am her only "resource" at that time, or the circumstances cannot be really avoided as it is brought on by nature, like torrential rains. But I admit that I do not have patience for people who, for the sake of conversation, will keep on asking you questions that are obviously addressed in your first answer. I do not mind being asked, really I don't. But if the conversation is just starting to go around in circles and still the person doing the asking is still either not getting it, or trying to be "cool" by asking the "cool stuff", I just give up and turn my back. I virtually walk out, lol! Not because I'm scared but it's just pointless to talk to someone who obviously isn't trying to meet you halfway. That or they just don't try to understand. I admire those who still bear it until the bitter end. But looking back on my younger self, I can pretty much say that I've come a long way as far as patience is concerned. But then, I know that there's still a lot for me to learn on this.
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@riyauro (6430)
• India
13 Aug 12
I always lose it when I have to keep telling same thing to people and they don't get it. I don't like to be questioned on the same thing repeatedly as well. I used to think that I am cool minded, but recently my husband told me that I am very short tempered. lol. I think I am cool with my goals in life but the small small thing that irritates me, I can't handle it. I would love to be patience with things that will reward in future but not in conversations that can be irritating. good day to you.
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• Philippines
14 Aug 12
Some people tend to ask questions and been provided for the answers, but still, may not be so sure whether the resource we gave really answered their questions or not at all. Sometimes, we may discover that we are the ones who must get through their blocks to try to help them understand what they mean, and to acknowledge how it will supposedly be fixed, in a way we both get rewards. This situation are challenging to some, yet, frustrating. specially, if it came to our senses that they only trying to have a conversation to get along with you and their cool stuff but making a mistake or just trying to ruin your day. I think here, that patience isn't just only about the measurement of our willingness to endure certain situations that challenge us; but also, on how the way we deal to the challenges we confront within ourselves.
@Raine38 (9117)
• United States
14 Aug 12
Now that you mention it, my frustration on this isn't about the person asking all those questions; but it is also the fact that her doing so makes me question my ability as an effective communicator. Like, am I the problem, am I doing a lousy job? I just hate that I cannot really qualify if I am the problem or it is the other person.
• Philippines
14 Aug 12
It alright to reflect on our faults and the others. If only to find out that we are the ones who have the inabilities and choose to be unbiased and analyzed the problems even if it means correcting the errors of our own making. Fortunately,the acceptance of what we might find about the fact also welcome growth and development. Patience will never be a virtue without the fabrics of positives traits and right views about life in every situation, and what's behind patience is a calm mind.
• Philippines
19 Aug 12
I think it also comes with age, when you are more mature (or "older" like me ) and have dealt with a lot of people (of this kind), you will eventually accept the fact that most people are really like that.. and pretty much - you can't do anything about it except to deal with it "patiently".
@Canellita (12058)
• United States
13 Aug 12
Like you, I do not have patience for someone asking me the same thing over and over. Even when they change the question I do not change my answer. I tell them that I gave them my answer, it does not matter if they do not like it, do not understand it, or do not accept it. If I uttered a response they should accept that I gave an answer. If my answer was not specific enough, and the person needs more details, that is different. Otherwise it is hard not to lose patience and be annoyed.
@Raine38 (9117)
• United States
14 Aug 12
I know, right? I mean, we can extend or even expound our answers in consideration of those who really need it but I am pretty sure we can tell if they're really intentionally not giving heed to whatever we say and then come running back to ask again and again. It's a total waste of time.
@Canellita (12058)
• United States
14 Aug 12
The one thing I absolutely hate in life is having my time wasted.
@Paper_Doll (2376)
• Philippines
14 Aug 12
I think that to become patient or to achieve this kind of quality/trait, it qould require a lot of maturity. And when it comes to maturity, I don't think that I have already reached that stage. It is really hard to keep calm especially we are not raised like that so your family and environment have something to do with it as well. My parents are the coolest people in the world, especially my father who I have never seen been angry all his life even during those toughest and most irritating situations. But we, their siblings are not the same. Maybe because my parents are too kind that is why we grew up like this. We can do and say what we want because we know that in the end, my father won't scold or hurt us. But later on, there are instances that made me realized that you cannot just raise your voice or be annoyed to someone or a situation. I have been through a lot of arguments in the past, because when I feel that this person is lying or just making an excuse, I am easily disappointed and would voiced out my feelings not thinking that those actions can be sometimes be used against me or to judge my character. I told myself that I would be careful the next time but those kind of incidents happened so many times. But the last one, which happened late last year, made me learned my lesson. Although I still irritated, I no longer raise my voice at them. When I feel that I can't stand what the other person is saying, I would just keep my silence and would walk out. I learned to listen and stop in there. But it is really hard. There are times that I just cry secretly because I can't say what I want. You know that feeling that you wanted to explain yourself but just to avoid further arguments, you just walk out of the scene that regret that you have said something that you can't take back after. I think that all relationships requires patience to be able to succeed. We behave and act differently and so there will always a time that our thoughts will not meet which can lead to arguments. But if we are patient enough to handle those situations, I guess that many relationships can be saved. This virtue is very important in marriages wherein incompatibilities can cause married couples to give up their marriages. Patience plays an important role not only in successful marriages but in every relationships.
@Raine38 (9117)
• United States
14 Aug 12
You're right. I think I became more patient, generally speaking, when I got married. I mean, I just can't lose it with my husband and walk away like I usually do. And from there, it extended to other people as well. I am far from being emotionally mature to be considered as a patient person but I am taking baby steps towards it.
@leeandrew (1226)
• Philippines
7 Nov 12
Indeed! (patience is a virtue). Up to this very moment I am still trying to apply that with myself. It's always easier to say it than do it. It's easier to tell people about it than applying it to self. I do too accept the waiting game but mostly with a lot of whining. Hope everything is well with you now.
@williamjisir (22903)
• China
4 Nov 12
In most cases, I am patient, but sometimes I can be impatient. It makes me think that I am not what I am expected to be as always, especially to my baby son who likes to keep repeating the same question again and again, which sometimes makes impatient. I must try to be always patient to my baby son. It is true that patience is a virtue. Thanks for the discussion, Raine.
@wolfie34 (26793)
• United Kingdom
21 Aug 12
Like you I gave patience in certain situations, if I am doing a jigsaw puzzle I have all the patience in the world to sit and do it, for me it's relaxing and I have the patience to get on with it and finish it, if it takes a couple of days, it takes a couple of days no worries. But when it comes to people, I have little patience, I get frustrated quickly and I find it incredibly hard to keep my patience. I am the most patient person when it comes to driving to, if I am a traffic jam I use the time to ponder about stuff, so time isn't wasted, it's quality me time! If someone cuts me up, so what I don't get angry, peep my horn or use hand signals I just shrug it off. I wish I could exercise the same patience with people when I am not in my car LOL.
@iola2012 (172)
• Philippines
20 Aug 12
If I used to snap out to something, then my patience got low from 100% level. But I still believe with this phrase, we tend to be patient to live comfortable in some ways. Even dealing with people, we used to be patient enough to get along with them.
@Daisy_22 (1230)
• Philippines
16 Aug 12
sO am I.Some circumstance that is unavoidable leads to burst my temper easily.My friends keep on telling me that phrase but i also keep on answering it by my phrase but time is gold.So i value more with it.I myself don't have any patient especially if my monthly period is coming..I easily get irritated without any reasons..
@jaiho2009 (39019)
• Philippines
13 Aug 12
Honestly I am not a patient kind, but when situation ask me to stretch my patient- maybe then I have to if necessarily needed. It's not easy to adjust especially if doesn't come by heart. It's not even worth the wait if I am losing my temper :xxx... How I really wish I am patient enough for everything.