would you tell her or he the story between you and your ex-bf or ex-gf?

@freedang (320)
China
August 23, 2012 10:21pm CST
I believe one person could fall in love with more than one people in her or his life.it is unaviodable to tell your GF or BF your past experence.would you tell her or he the story between you and your ex-bf or ex-gf?and would you like listen the story of she or he? sometimes i just feel that a women's mind is so complex that i could never ever understand it...ladies,forgive what i have said
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22 responses
• Philippines
24 Aug 12
In my own opinion I would like to tell her my past. It is not that I want to him to know how stupid I am before, but because I wanted him to know me more. Besides, there are people who knew you in your past, they might tell a story that is different to what really happened like in my experienced before. So before someone make a story about you, then I think, you should be the first one to tell the whole story to avoid any misunderstanding about it. But this is not applicable to all, because there are people or guys that aren't interested to your past or ex boyfriend, or there are guys out there who does not like to talk about your past. Just try to tell him or not, if he does not like it then do not.
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@Jshean20 (14374)
• Canada
25 Aug 12
I'll be honest here, I'm a very jealous type of person so I don't think I'd really want to hear anything about my boyfriend’s ex-girlfriend; in fact I'd rather pretend she doesn't even exist..
@freedang (320)
• China
25 Aug 12
yeah??i am jealous too,and i cannt bear she tell me the story beween the her and her ex-bf even though i konw that she is loving me
• Philippines
24 Aug 12
It depends whether your new one is interested. If my girlfriend wants to know about it i would be tell her everything. And it also depends on you if your are comfortable telling your past relationship. But I really think theres nothing to worry as past is past. Unless our haven't moved on and you have still feelings for your ex.
@freedang (320)
• China
24 Aug 12
you are right,if she want to konw i would tell her everything.but forget someone is not a easy task and to be honest ,i still have feeling for my ex,i just cannt let it go,and everytime i think about that,i feel that its not fair for my Gf even i love she more than i can say
@joliefille (3697)
• Philippines
24 Aug 12
Oh I would. I think it's only fair that way. In the past when I would get involved with a new guy and if I knew he was interested in me more than a friend, I would ask him about his past and what happened with the former relationships. I always think that I would know more about a guy's relationship patterns that way. Of course when you get closer and share stuff, that topic about the exes can't be avoided. I would share my story openly too. It's also a good indicator that I am ready to be in a new relationship if I can freely open up about it without any hangups or whatever.
@freedang (320)
• China
24 Aug 12
indeed.if you are in love with one guys,you would like to tell he everthing happened on you.so do he.if those two people are completely open mind and trust each other,this will greatly improve the relationship.
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@KrauseHome (32345)
• United States
18 Jan 13
There are many people even in Marriage that will often have Ex's. There are certain things when the time is right that you can share, and things you should also keep Secret as well. I would think when it comes to a relationship of any length, there are things you should never share, but personally when you outwardly are comparing or talking about an Ex it is a great way to chase someone off as well.
• Philippines
25 Dec 12
Well for me I wouldn't mind it as long as he doesn't love that girl anymore and he won't keep on telling me about them everyday haha. There are really times that you can open that particular topic with your partner and for me it is really okay. I am sharing my past too if my partner is okay with it but if not? I would never open it because I don't want my partner to feel bad. It only depends on the couple if they are open for that or not.
• China
23 Sep 12
i agree with you ,if you want to love the person in front of you,you are concerned about his future but not the past,so as him,
• Indonesia
13 Sep 12
If you want to know about your girlfriend's ex-boyfriend, you can ask her simply. For me it's not a problem if my boyfriend want to know about my ex-boyfriend. But I would never tell 1st about my ex-boyfriend to my current boyfriend if he do not ask me directly.
• United States
11 Sep 12
I wanted to tell my current BF regarding my past relationship but he is not interested. He already shared his but he is no more interested in opening the topic regarding his ex-GFs. :P I am open to hear his stories but I should also share mine. Maybe sooner we can talk about this. :)
• Philippines
27 Aug 12
I would say yes. Well, me and my boyfriend were friends for over 4 years before he courted me. We have shared so many stories together, that includes past relationships. I know that he's been hurt with his past relationship and I respect him for that. I don't want to force him to tell me everything as it would heighten his emotions. But then again, if he wants to tell me something about his past, it's fine with me. I don't think it's a bad idea to tell him about my past as well. We have shared numerous stories in the past when we were still friends, and I would say it's not a big deal if we'll do it again.
@Jatelo2 (166)
• Nairobi, Kenya
26 Aug 12
It doesn't help to tell all that. As for me I'll be silent about my past relationship experiences unless asked by my partner. The problem is that whenever you want to share these past experiences, the partner tends to see you in that light thereafter. I'll let the past be the past unless asked!
@dorannmwin (36608)
• United States
24 Aug 12
I have actually shared the story between my ex and myself with my husband and the reason that I did that is because I believe that it is important for him to know everything about me and what makes me operate the way that I do. Now, I've tried to get my husband to tell me about his ex-fiancee, but he has never really opened up to me about her. I do know that the reason that they broke up is because of the fact that my husband didn't drop his entire life to run off with her to another state. I also know that she was abused as a child, but that is pretty much all that I know about her.
@natliegleb (5186)
• India
24 Aug 12
of course i would its not a big deal and i can narrate the total story to them and show the photos also.first of all we must open up in the first hand before we get caught about our past relatiionships
@Canellita (12059)
• United States
24 Aug 12
Both people should know what was good and bad in their relationships for themselves so they don't fall into patterns. Because of this it is necessary to talk about past relationships enough to know just who you are getting involved with. This doesn't mean that you should tell every single thing that happened. Even if a relationship was bad, you don't want to seem like a person who is disloyal. Things will come up over time naturally. BTW, men are just as complex and difficult to understand.
@cupkitties (6689)
• United States
24 Aug 12
I'd have no choice in the matter because I'm divorced with two teens. Some guys and even women don't want to deal with someone like me because they either don't want someone like me because of two reasons 1.They aren't ready for kids yet 2. They can't get rid of the ex as easily when that ex is the parent of your kids. Not that I blame them, but I would want to know who and what I'm dealing with and give them a chance to run while they can
@djalex14 (195)
• Canada
24 Aug 12
If both of you have a good open mind and will not be any problem.zyou just say that is your past and some stories about ex-s may be hilarious.
@verolop29 (1096)
• United States
24 Aug 12
Hmmm is that a trick question? Hahaha I'm just kidding! Unless he asked me, I wouldn't tell him. But once he did ask about my ex the one I still talk to in prison. I know there is this rule that says ur not supposed to reconnect with it ex especially now that I'm married and have kids. But in my case, I don't think there has to be rules. I know where my heart and mind is. Jason the ex who's in prison and I have a lot of history and yes I did love him. ALOT! Only he didn't return that love. Until now. But he agreed that he would not interfere in my marriage. So no once again I wOuld not tell unless he asks and if he gets affended oh well he's the one that asked, right? Happy mylotting!!
• Philippines
24 Aug 12
Oh, I don't have any ex-boyfriend so my husband is lucky. He sometimes tells me stories about his ex-girlfriends but not in full details. I guess he isn't comfortable telling me everything. I don't get jealous though. It's already his past. I want him to tell me more about them but he doesn't tell me. Happy myLotting.
@Ciel08 (29)
24 Aug 12
yes.. would tell him.. if he ask about my past experience when it comes to that... because i thing its only fair for him... i only wish he'll do the same if i ask him... if not i wont push about that conversation.... but i will definitely listen to the story...
@mikej143 (310)
• Philippines
24 Aug 12
It would depends on situation, if you share those past experience can make stronger your relationship. and it makes wrong when you kept doing those wrong habit.