another day of disagreement again

Well, couples always argues, jazel. And it's an ordinary situation between couples, specially if both are very opinionated. I guess, this time you can make a go in what you are thinking of doing. At least, he will know that you really are saying the truth!

It is normal for any couple to get into an argument..Sometimes that's how we learn each other...unfortunately...Fortunately, there are ways to solve your difference if it gets out of hand.. Men and women are different specifies, we will always be..Sometimes men have a hard time understanding women and we handle things differently than them..It's hard to have a proper communication when one is unwilling to see what the other person is saying..sometimes what i do is to repeat what they're saying to help a little bit of any misunderstanding.. It is always good to start with the phrase "I feel......... Vanessa

I think there comes a time in a marriage when the wife should show the husband that she is right and should stick to that principle. As long as he's not humiliated in some way in the public eye, then I think you have the right to be right for once. You see, if you keep on apologizing for the things that you didn't do wrong, then I guess what a huge ego the guy must have!? He should learn to accept his mistakes and his misunderstanding of the things that you did. But for now, I guess silence is enough. Let it boil for a moment and have him feel that you are upset because you know you are right. He should understand that you have principles and he didn't marry you for your looks alone!! hehe.. Let it be for now, as long as you know you are right and he needs to step down from his high horse for once and admit that you are right. You take care there. Just remember your worth. Nobody should be the master and the slave in a marriage. That's why it's called a "partnership". Good luck! Have a great mylot experience ahead!

Hello Jazel_juan, I think the hubby should understand that your a person and you have the right of mind. I am sure the hubby feels a bit insecure or something but this is part where both sides should let go of the pride and learn from each other's view. I think pride can be a dangerous thing when your in a marriage situation. I think respect should remain also, both of you work it all out for the family and no one is above it.

I am also a wife and there are really times that we will encounter this kind of problem in any relationship. When I was younger, I really won't ask for forgiveness on anything even if sometimes, I know I am wrong. My husband is older than me for some years so he will always be the one to make the first move. But as grow more mature should I say, I've learned that the relationship that we have is more important than any other things. I break the habit of shouting even if there are times that I am already angry. I now asked for the reason for something or any problem. I know this time that talking over things can do a lot of things.

My guess is that he doesn't like your sense of independence. He views himself as the decision maker and ruler of your home. When you speak your mind he feels his role as ruler is being threatened and he gets defensive. If you both want to work at the marriage he will eventually value your independence and iniative. If either of you do not want to work at the marriage - it is best that you leave. Because every time you vocalize your independency the same problems will come up and fester. Eventually you will both want to call it quits. You need to decide if your marriage is worth working on or not.

hi jazel__juan but why is he taunting you about brave? Surely he d oes not hit you? do not let anyone ever hit you as thats just not right.,what was on his mine wondering why sounds sort of mean to me, a wife shoud not have to be brave with her own husband just to prove her point , this obsession on his part with brave as if he prefers you to be afraid of him?thats not right you sho uld nmot have to fe el brave you should always feel safe if your husband really loves you.

In marriage life it happens but it is not a question of proving bravery to husband is wife sticks to her opinions. Maybe he said it just like that and did not mean it. . me and my husband argue too but in minutes we are cool again. There has not been a day that we stayed without talking. all will be fine and try to cool down and explain him again what you mean. Thanks for sharing and have a wonderful day ahead.