Visiting the Cemetary

Yes I still visit my parent's grave. I don't have set days that I visit them just when I am missing them, although most of the time that I miss them the most the cemetary is closed, so I just end up driving by some of our old houses.

I know of only one person who visited her mother's graveside every year for 30 years. The rest of us go for awhile and over time the visits just stop.

i think it is normal to become less and less as time goes by. my dad passed away 3 years ago and i generally go out to the cemetary around his birthday (which is close to Father's day) and i know my mom goes out but i think she doesn't go that often any more due to health and i am an only child so we are pretty much the only ones that go out to visit it.

I can honestly say I have never visited a loved one at a cemetery. I don't live near any loved ones that are buried. I would go visit them if I lived near them. I feel bad that people tend to let it go after a while. I guess it is good to move on and they are never far from our thoughts though.

When we were kids, we used to go to the cemetary at least once a year to visit my "grandparents". This cemetary was a bit far away - but I believe we made the trek every year on Memorial Day. We would always know if someone else in the family went . . . usually the first one there would clean out the grave marker (clear it of weeds and such). But when I hit middle school, my mother had a fall out with her siblings and that's when we started going less and less - and finally not at all. I think the issue was more my mom didn't want to accidentally run into her siblings there (which we rarely did). My parents bought a plot along with the rest of my dad's family (so the family literally will be together later on) at another cemetary. We have visited it several times though no one was there . . . maybe my parents wanted us to remember where it was - but we did it as a side trip from a visit to a wharf/seaport. But now that my aunt is there, we haven't gone at all - and I'm not sure why. Maybe it was all too real then - that "one of us" was now there.

hey i feel so sorry for your mother and i hope her soul is always at peace. I can understand how lonely u must be feeling and how much u are missing her. It is great to hear that u have been visiting your mother's cemetary place in order to pray for her soul. this shows the love and respect u still have for your mother. We do not have this type of tradition in our culture so i have no experience regarding this. i wish your mother's blessings are always there on u. What say?

My parents were cremated so there is no grave to visit, even if there was a grave I wouldn't go visit it for they are not there, they have moved on. When I want to visit my parents I will look at old photos. Besides visiting them while they were still alive is way more important than visiting a plot in a cemetary, and I believe they got cremated so they could be free and not couped up in a box forever. I personally will be cremated myself when it's my turn to move out of this world.