Hubby Wants a Staycation

@ladym33 (11008)
United States
September 25, 2012 5:52pm CST
We have had it for the last few years where each member of the family gets to choose our vacation destination. Next year it is my husband's turn to choose, and he wants a staycation. A vacation where we stay at home and he just takes a week off of work. This does not please me at all, because that will mean, I will get no vacation at all. I work from home and I also clean the home, and prepare all the meals and do all the laundry. So if we were to do a staycation that would really stink for me. It will probably be more work for me then normal, and I know my family is not going to want to go out and eat every night for a week so I am going to end up cooking, not to mention I really need to get away at least once a year. I don't ask for much and I don't care where I go, I just need to get out of my own house once a year and go see something different. I look forward to it all year long. I would not mind doing a few long weekends where we just go away for a couple of days but it is hard to find someone to watch our dog when we just go on one vacation a year. We have been lucky to find someone every year to do it, but she is a German Shepherd and she does not like other dogs so she can't stay with anyone who has a dog, so usually who ever watches her stays here while we are gone. I think I am going to propose to my husband that we go away someplace not so far and rent a house instead of a hotel and he can lay around all he wants while the kids and I do stuff and that way we should be able to bring the dog with us. I know he is just really burnt out from work right now and just wants to rest. But a staycation does not seem like a vacation to someone like me who works from home and is home all the time at all. He gets three weeks vacation so I don't see why he can't take his own week off and just lay around and then go on another vacation with the family.
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@leeloo (1494)
• Portugal
26 Sep 12
The thing is I get both points of view. Travelling to go somewhere can be exhausting, whenever I go anywhere it seems that the trip is the worst part of the holiday, that could be why he wants to stay home. Then again, home for you is work, that is were you do everything so getting away will relax you. The ideal would be to find a middle ground, is there a resort or park or hotel near by that could give the benefit of not travelling far with the option of maybe taking the dog with? There are various hotels and lodges that take pets, or if you don't want to travel with such a large dog there are dog hotels that just take dogs even anti social ones, they are kept isolated, allowing for peace of mind. You could also bring up that if you were to stay home, he could help with the cooking and cleaning and minding the kids, so that you could have a vacation too, maybe if you explain it that way he will see that a staycation is not really a vacation for you. Hope that you find a solution though, whatever you decide to do.
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@ladym33 (11008)
• United States
26 Sep 12
I am thinking about suggesting renting a house in the Wisconsin Dells. It is only a 3 1/2 car drive so there is not a lot of driving pressure for him. The kids will have their own rooms so when are not out doing stuff he can have total peace and quiet, there is also lots to do there and beautiful scenery so I can get the feeling like I have been away, and I can could once in a while to save money.
@leeloo (1494)
• Portugal
27 Sep 12
Sounds like the perfect compromise, I hope it works out.
@allknowing (65203)
• India
26 Sep 12
Many face the kind of situation you are in at the moment. How about you going alone with your friends.Your husband could take his week off and stay home. This will solve your problem of minding you dog while you are away.
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@ladym33 (11008)
• United States
26 Sep 12
Well we have kids too, and I guess I could take them somewhere, but my husband works a million hours a week and vacations are the only time we have a lot of time to spend together.
@allknowing (65203)
• India
27 Sep 12
You have no other alternative but fall in line with your husband's suggestion. You could reduce work by eating out?
@Blondie2222 (21815)
• United States
25 Sep 12
I can see you're point if I was a house wife and was home all the time I would want a weeks vacation far away where I didn't have to do anything but play and have someone else wait on me. But I don't have that and I work all the time so this coming week I have a week off work and I'm just doing a staycation and doing absolutely nothing. Yea I may do housework here and there that I don't get to when I am working because I get home and I'm too exhausted to do anything but not going to push myself. I want to enjoy myself and do things and no stress for a week. Hope you can convince your husband to go away for a week and not stay at home.
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@ladym33 (11008)
• United States
25 Sep 12
Me too. I know he just wants to rest, but hopefully we can reach some kind of compromise. I own a home business, and I do all the housework, I need to get out of here. Plus if we stay home I will work, if we go away I shut the business down for a week, if I am at home I won't feel right doing that.
• United States
25 Sep 12
That is a good plan. You are modifying his idea. Instead of staying at home you can stay someplace not to far and still have your vacation. I mean remind him that even though home is his sanctuary it is also where you spend your whole day. He should understand that having a vacation at home to you is like being locked at work for him. I hope you figure out something nice that works for everyone.
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@ladym33 (11008)
• United States
25 Sep 12
You put that perfectly. I will present it to him that way. Hopefully some sort of compromise is in our future.
@hmkoct5 (2067)
• United States
4 Oct 12
I am with you. I would not want a staycation at all! It wouldn't be like being on vacation at all, because your're right, you would still have to cook and clean. I think your idea of renting a house somewhere is a really good idea. He could stay in and relax while the rest of you visit the sights! It would be a win-win vacation.
@winterose (39918)
• Canada
27 Sep 12
yes you have a good point there, talk to him and tell him you really need a vacation and you won't have one if you all stay home.
@natliegleb (5186)
• India
26 Sep 12
ya its very much needed its like venting out and spending some quality time,its the order of the day and everyone would need it,have a break
• Philippines
26 Sep 12
Oh, I wish you will have a vacation this year. I hope your husband consider giving you a week out of your house. I guess that's not a hard thing to do. You are a housewife. You do housework all year long. I guess having a vacation is good for you. You also need to relax even just for a while. Staycation isn't good. You'll do a lot of things. It'll be just your husband's vacation and you have to do your duties as the housekeeper. Goodluck. I hope there will be a big surprise for you. Happy mylotting. :)
@SomeCowgirl (32270)
• United States
26 Sep 12
I can understand how you feel. Maybe you could research and find places around that you can go to as a family for a day or two, maybe a few day trips and then the rest of the week he can stay at home and rest like he wants? Then again if you say he's burnt out, maybe he will change his mind and decide on a vacation instead of the staycation.
@GemmaR (8526)
26 Sep 12
I know that it might not seem like the best thing for you, and I wouldn't be pleased if it were me either because I also work from home and would just have to continue doing housework and everything like that. You could compromise and stay at home but make some plans for some nice days out during the course of the week. For example if you have a theme park near you, you could go there for a day, or take the children to the cinema to see a new film. There are lots of things that you could do which would mean that you had a good time even though you were staying at home.
• United States
26 Sep 12
I love staycations. We put everything on hold and enjoy life simplified. No appointments or visitors. I enjoy going places we usually dont go to but are right next door. It is the cheapest way and least stressful too. I would recommend it.
@riyauro (6430)
• India
26 Sep 12
you have got very good point and I know how you feel because I do all the house work too and work online too. Just try to propose this idea to him and I am sure he will say to vacation. I would you should take the dog also with you. He will love it too. I am sure you will be able to convince your hubby because the plan is just so good. Thanks for sharing and have a wonderful day ahead
@laydee (12814)
• Philippines
26 Sep 12
Hmmm.. Perhaps he doesn't want to spend much, that's why he doesn't want to go anywhere. But perhaps you could try convincing him by telling him that you'd spend half of the costs. hehehee... I know how you feel, whenever the family gets together, my mom and I end up doing all the work while they're just lying there like kings! hehehee.. Have a great mylot experience ahead!
• Canada
26 Sep 12
I have an idea, that will illustrate your poit to Hubby. Tell him all that, about you not getting a vacation, and then tellhim that you'll agree to a Staycation IF: 1) You get a housekeeper for the week. 3) You eat out a few nights. 3) You don't have to work. A vacatio should be a vacation for everyone! If he won't agree to that, leave him at home to his Staycation, and go off on a cruise by yourself, or something.