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I wish I could tell the same thing about my father. Godamit, he made me crazy 30 minutes ago when he saw me making Tahini for me and for my sister. He just took the dish with the Tahini and started to add water and chop the garlic for me , showing me how is the right way to make it. It made me so angry I shouted at him. If he want, he can give me some recommendations but not to take the dish and just do the work for me, I'm not a 3 years old boy and I have my own ways of making things. He can't force me to do things in his own ways. When he gets old and I have life of my own, I will not help him and I won't visit him.

Children obey your parents in the Lord for this is the first commandment with a promise!:) Hehehe my parents had always thought us to be nice, passionate and extra understanding not only to them parents but even to other elders. She said we children wouldn't be blessed if we would not obey and love them. I am an adult now, and the way I see as how my parents cared for me, they have always wanted the best for us kids. For their disciplines before,words are not enough to tell them I am thankful before their disciplines led me to the right and safe path. :) Words are lacking, that's why love and care is through actions is there =) Happy mylotting =D

Yes, you often find when you have visitors in your home that even if you are glad to see them, you are usually glad when they leave. I find myself even when I go visit someone always,comparing as well. It is true we do get set in our ways and anytime we have to break routine it can be hard.

I guess if you pay them good, then they'll pay you back. My uncle told me this, and never thought it would be applicable to something else other than money. I have to take note of this when I grow old. I'll take care of my children so they'll take care of me when my hair turns grey.

So what are the changes that you have seen to your son?

Is there anything specific that he says or does that forces you to think outside the box? This is an amazing thing as the younger generation is much different the previous generation. I must admit, I don't have any children of my own, but I experience a lot of invalidation sometimes with my parents - not because anyone is necessarily wrong in their perception, it's just - we're different. The effort to respect each other is much harder in this regard, but with enough love - possible.

When you are away, coming home feels wonderful. When you have company, it feels really good to have your own way back, later. I am glad your son was there to help you.

I like having things a certain way, anything else would just make things harder, not easier for me. I like my ways and there is a reason for each and every one of those ways. My daughter was here one day and wanted to re-arrange my furniture, I wouldn't let her. I didn't want to stub my toe one something because it wasn't there before!

Hi savypat, It is good to have our children come to visit and to help. Old ways give way to the new however, and sometimes makes us older folks uncomfortable. We prefer our old tried and true ways of doing things. Blessings.

I love having my family visit but you're right, it's good to get back to our normal routines. It is such a blessing to have children that help us and love us!

now its always good to be on home turf and enjoying the pleasant stay with friends and family,i like it a lot

Hi friend, good to know about your son. As you mentioned your kids are taking care about you well, really you are lucky to have good kids.

Great that your son can come and help you there. My son lives in the usa and Im in Mexico. I hope he gets to come home at xmas time. I miss him. Even though we chat several times a week. Have a great weekend.