why do (some) guys do this?

@SomeCowgirl (32191)
United States
November 19, 2012 10:36am CST
If a lady is cleaning the bathrooms at a public place, why is it that sometimes you find an odd man or two who just decide to walk right on in. They may see the woman but keep walking to the stall or the urinal? I just don't understand it. It's disgusting. Have you ever been cleaning the bathrooms in a public place and this happen to you?
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22 responses
• Canada
19 Nov 12
Well, I would say that he still had to relieve himself, and if she hadn't 'closed' the facility temporarily while she was cleaning, then it must be ok. If she didn't want anyone in there while cleaning, she could have locked the door. There are more than 1 urinal and toilets, so there would still be some available to use while she was cleaning the others. So, I don't see the problem. Unless there is something else you forgot to mention.??
• Canada
19 Nov 12
Well, if you can't say no, and your employer won't allow you to close the bathrooms while you clean, I still don't see the issue. Asking seems as if it would be a waste of time. And sometimes when you gotta go, you really gotta go and there really isn't time nor need for a conversation first. In my opinion either the bathroom is open or it isn't.
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@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
20 Nov 12
Well I respectfully disagree since I've been in this direct situation. It is not hard to say "excuse me" but to walk right on in? It seems cocky to me, and impolite. It's obvious that myself or whomever is attending to the bathroom would need to walk out, but the least the customer could do is acknowledge we are there at all. To walk in, with no regard to us? I felt as if I had stayed in there the customer would not have minded at all, that is why it bothers me in the least. The situation was uncomfortable, and creepy.
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
19 Nov 12
It is a public restroom, and cleaning the whole bathroom. There was a cone outside as well as the mop bucket. We can't close just one door, and we can't completely close it off from the customers.. However it is courteous of the man to ask instead of just walk by and go do his business. It's like he knew that I would leave, but that doesn't mean that he couldn't have said "Oh may I please use the bathroom?" I can't say "No sorry, hold it!" Lol...
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@celticeagle (157281)
• Boise, Idaho
19 Nov 12
I used to work at Burger King and had to clean the floors and do the bathrooms. I did have one of the workers come in the men's bathroom one time and I was nearly done. I just stepped out until he was done and then went back and finished. It is sort of embarrassing isn't it?
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
23 Nov 12
Yes it is, and yeah. It's just disrespectful. If I didn't value my job I'd have spoken up to him, but I didn't want to say something and get fired.
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@celticeagle (157281)
• Boise, Idaho
8 Dec 12
Isn't that the pits?!
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@celticeagle (157281)
• Boise, Idaho
23 Nov 12
Communication is very important. A customer? Ugh!
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@Danzylop (1120)
• Philippines
20 Nov 12
Woah! I don't think you have to bother yourself for it. In the first place it was a male restroom and they were not expecting you to be there. They might also have this thinking that are used to doing the job even if they are inside. I suppose you dont want the males to pee on their pants while falling in line and wait for you to finish the cleaning.
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@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
20 Nov 12
Woah! right back at you. They had to be "expecting" me to be in there because there was a mop bucket at the door as well a caution cone. Of course I don't expect a man to pee himself, nor a woman just so that I can do my job. My qualm is that the man said not a thing to me, which in my opinion is a "dismissal without respect." Had the person said "excuse me ma'am" that'd have been different, but to just walk right on in? How am I to know whether he truly cared if I left the restroom or not..
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
20 Nov 12
Well that may be acceptable wherever you are... I don't know bathrooms are different all over the world, but here it wouldn't be acceptable...
@Danzylop (1120)
• Philippines
20 Nov 12
I've been in a restroom with a female taking care of the cleaning. We even had a short chat(while peeing) sometimes. For me it is just a matter of malice in mind.
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@prashu228 (37524)
• India
19 Nov 12
I have noticed it too, may be they take for granted that the lady is meant for cleaning and will clean again if they walk through. Its too sarcastic and disgusting . I never experienced it personally.
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@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
19 Nov 12
I don't think sarcastic is the right word, rude is better I think. I didn't mind so much that they needed to use the restroom and thus I'd have to re-clean, it was the fact they didn't say a word to me that bothered me.
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
20 Nov 12
Oh it's okay, no problem. I am not sure that bitter fits completely but I think I understand to what you mean.
@prashu228 (37524)
• India
20 Nov 12
oh i am so sorry for using the wrong word, i mean to say bitter in their behavior.
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@doroffee (4222)
• Hungary
19 Nov 12
Ugh. That's just nasty. I mean, that's really inconsiderate from them... if I was a cleaning lady (I'm a female), I wouldn't really wanna see random guys pulling down their pants and exposing their body parts. Maybe a sign should be put on the door which says, "The toilet is just being cleaned, please come back a bit later".
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@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
19 Nov 12
The door is open to the bathroom and their is a cone outside, not to mention the mop bucket they had to climb over. Plenty of indication that someone is cleaning, though they didn't know whether male or female until they entered the bathroom... They should have turned around and left.
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
21 Nov 12
Yes I would have, but as is I was "forced to oblige" so to speak, impolitely.
• Singapore
20 Nov 12
Hi SomeCowGirl, I agree with you that these men are really rude and inconsiderate inspite of having noticed that the bathroom is being cleaned with ample warning and notice being given. If it is an emergency then they should have the manners and decency to ask or request the cleaning lady of the urgent need to use it. I'm sure the nice lady will oblige.
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@911Ricki (13588)
• Canada
22 Nov 12
At my old job this use to happen all the time on the midnight shift. It was just 1 bathroom with 1 stall. But we would leave the door wide open with a sign, they would walk by and go to go, and you would have to walk out or they would go in front of you. I really don;t know why they do this, I have never had a woman do this, they always apologize.
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@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
22 Nov 12
The women always ask and I say "yeah come on in", but I don't leave the bathroom if it's the ladies bathroom of course. I've had this happen to me twice in total, I don't understand it either. It's perverted.
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
22 Nov 12
That's what makes it so perverted that they find it as a turn on. Well I'll walk out of everytime. If it hadn't happened to me directly and I saw a guy walk in, I'd be sure to say something. I know how it feels, and I know that the person cleaning can't very well say anything.
@911Ricki (13588)
• Canada
22 Nov 12
I found that in the past, I think some men want it as a turn on.
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@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
20 Nov 12
I have never cleaned the toilets but I have friends who do so. I guess those guys don't intentionally do so, they're just so focused about them wanting to pee that they don't really notice any other person or thing as long as the urinals are available. Have a great mylot experience ahead!
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@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
20 Nov 12
Perhaps some but the combination of close quarters and the fact that I believe he even looked at me... Well I can hardly believe atleast this particular guy was preoccupied with thoughts of "I gotta go"
@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
22 Nov 12
No..not me..but I know what you mean. I talked to a lady one time that worked for a cleaning service and that was one of her biggest complaints. She said there were men that would just walk in and let it all hang out. I asked her what she did and she said if she was close to the door, she would take off.
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@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
22 Nov 12
I would take off even if I wasn't close to the door. It's just disrespectful to walk right on in and not even say a thing.
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
20 Nov 12
It is not only there at the bathrooms. I have seen people getting impatient even at the hospitals and definitely this is disgusting. The people should realize the importance and have respect for those who clean the mess spread by them at public places. Personally, there were a few occasions when I had cleaned the toilets at my office (I was a teacher those days and there were days when the cleaning people would not turn up - so we had to take turns to clean them). And when any student overstepped, we would surely ask them to stay away as long as the cleaning was done and the floors had dried up.
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
20 Nov 12
Yes it is very rude for people to impatient like that in any setting. We are there to do a job to help keep them safe from any germs and so they should be willing to wait a few moments, and if they just can not the least they can do is utter a word. This gentleman uttered no such thing and barged in as if he owned the place. Now for your situation you are a teacher to your pupil and they respect you or should show respect and so it isn't a matter of getting fired. If I were to speak up, I could very well be reprimanded.
@Arieles (2473)
• United States
25 Nov 12
I have cleaned public bathrooms many times in various jobs I have had and I do not recall anyone ever just walking in and using the bathroom. When cleaning bathrooms, I have had signs out, such as: closed for cleaning. If there hasn't been a sign, there has been a "yellow wet floor sign" holding the bathroom door open. Men have asked "Would you mind if I use the bathroom?" I do agree with you though if someone walks in while you are cleaning and proceeds to do their thing without even allowing you to leave the bathroom, is being inconsiderate.
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
25 Nov 12
I had an orange cone out as well as the mop bucket being in the door way. Though honestly the fact that the door was open should have given them pause atleast to check if someone was cleaning. They walked right on in and didn't say a word. I thought it was perverted of them.
@subhojit10 (7375)
• India
19 Nov 12
Thanks a ton for sharing this discussion. I know this does happens most of the time and sometimes even i have watched the same thing happening and it is very disgusting to see such things. I can understand what that cleaner must be feeling from inside but then they have to keep mum as their job is to clean the bathrooms. I think the people who are doing such things should at least have the basic manners to respect the lady who is working so hard to make that place clean and hygienic. This is an indirect way of disrespecting the people. What say?
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@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
19 Nov 12
Especially when one is in the midst of cleaning and has to go back and clean the toilet again.. but that's not so much the problem. It's just the fact that they don't even say "may I use the bathroom?" or anything. Of course the lady will leave the restroom, but I wonder if that man even cares? I wonder if they'd do their business regardless?
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
21 Nov 12
I just walk carefully if it is mopped, but if they are sweeping I walk away from their swept pile and try to dodge any other thing that hadn't yet been swept. I don't want to trample through their work so to speak, only common courtesy.
• India
21 Nov 12
Thanks a ton for your response. Yes u are absolutely right, the men could have asked her that question but i think it is human tendency to neglect such people while at work. We have to be sensible enough towards such thing if we are educated. On a personal front, i have always waited or walked in such a way that the floor that is being cleaned is not untidy when i have come across such situations. These people hardly care what is going around them. What say?
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• China
20 Nov 12
As a guy I definitely agree with your opinion,it is very rude when guys see woman in the bathroom but still go straight to the urinal and pee. But why send woman to clean the man's bathroom?Usually in my city the public man's bathroom,the PIC usually is man,then I think it will avoid many misunderstanding.
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@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
20 Nov 12
Here in the USA, it certain places it is a man, in certain places it's a woman and in certain places it depends. I happen to work for a "it depends" place. I do actually like to clean the bathrooms and usually have no problems, but every once in awhile (as this isn't the first time) a gentleman will walk right on in and not say a word. The fact that there was a sign outside (safety cone) and the mop bucket as well..
• China
20 Nov 12
Usually if the cleaner is in the bathroom, there will be a warning board standing at the door. Then no guys will come in. Sometimes i think maybe the guys feel terrible and want to get into the bathroom in advance, they will always ignore the cleanner. I just advice all the cleaness, when you enter a bathroom just put a warning board outside. Then people will notice it clearly.
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@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
20 Nov 12
This person noticed the sign and the mop bucket when they pased by them surely, as they had to manuever around it to get to the inside of the bathroom... That is what is irking me.
• Philippines
20 Nov 12
I never had a chance to work in that field but yes, that was was very disgusting and very disrespectful. But here in our country, male janitors are usually in charge in male restroooms.
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@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
20 Nov 12
Here in the USA it can be either / or. I am not a janitor by trade, but I do clean the bathrooms sometimes and when I do and this happens.. it just irritates me.
@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
20 Nov 12
Usually they will have a sign up in the Gents toilets warning you that there is a female on duty, or they will close the Gents whilst the toilets are being cleaned which is a much better way. I feel sorry for any lady who has to clean a gents toilet to be honest and this comes from a man himself!
@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
20 Nov 12
Of course being a guy I've never had any reason to go into a woman's toilets and I was surprised to hear that ladies could be as bad, really opened my eyes. I am sure they don't do this at home, so why should they do it when they are out? Doesn't make sense to me!
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@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
20 Nov 12
Definitely not, and I can't imagine why the think being out somewhere changes the bathroom etiquette rules. Yes, though some ladies may deny being nasty in a public restroom, I've cleaned them and shake my head when I see some things. I, as a lady, never leave anything like that behind. If I make a mess of things in the stall I do what I can to clean it up because I wouldnt' want to be the next person to use said stall.
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
20 Nov 12
Wolfie, here in the USA there are some places that have the signs but a lot more that don't. I work for a place where we do have the "safety cone" but no sign that says "lady cleaning restrooms". I've cleaned both the ladies and men's restrooms, and let me tell you while men can be disgusting, us women can be equally so. I've seen some where ladies just leave their "business" in the toilet without flushing, or their.. Toilettes just out for all to see.
@yoniarnon (1079)
• Israel
19 Nov 12
I agree with you it is disgusting and very inconsiderable, but i never been cleaning the bathrooms in a public place..
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@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
19 Nov 12
*inconsiderate* Well it happens more often then not... but oh well nothing to be done about it.
@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
19 Nov 12
I hate that as well. I was a maid at las vegas hotels. And several times I would be asked to clean a room while people were there watching tv. And many times I d be in bathroom and men walked in and used it. They couldnt even close the door... very rude.
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
19 Nov 12
Honestly I think they want us to see their "package" but if it weren't for this happening at where I work, I'd be apt to say "honey I don't wanna see your vienna sausage."
@Angelpink (4035)
• Philippines
20 Nov 12
I haven't experience that but if i am in that situation i will just keep quiet and walk out. I am the one to be ashamed in that situation . There are really people who doesn't think of their privacy , thinking to show private parts are but natural . There are also people who does show their private parts with intention and from there they will feel some kind of satisfaction. This is one kind of a deviant.
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@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
20 Nov 12
I felt a bit embarrassed but more frustrated. Who is to say the man wasn't wanting / intending for me to feel embarrassed. I even question as to whether he'd have cared if I left the restroom at all..
@kokomo (1867)
• Philippines
20 Nov 12
I never yet experience to clean a public bathroom except when I was in an elementary because we need to keep it clean everyday. But not to the comfort room of boys. The girls will clean their own comfort room as well as the boys.And I were in your situation, I'll be awkward with me because anytime or we never know accidentally we could see something we should not see.
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@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
20 Nov 12
In the setting I clean bathrooms it is not likely that a man should flash himself to the bathroom attendant at that time. However, this also isn't the first time someone has come in without saying anything, just walk by and basically "dismiss" us with not a word.. It's rude.
• India
19 Nov 12
at times we tend to ignore what is going on around and end up doing such thoughtless deeds. our acts may hurt or disrespect others. once my flight was about to depart and I decided to use loo first,it was kind of urgent as boarding might have taken some time. Later it struck my mind that some one was cleaning the wash room. I really felt very bad. must pay attention to our surroundings and think what we are doing
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@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
19 Nov 12
I clean the restrooms regularly and I don't really mind re-cleaning if someone must use the restroom, but to not say a word to me when I am cleaning? If I had not stepped out, I wonder if they had cared? The fact is if you are urgently need to use the restroom then TELL the person cleaning, dont' just walk in and not say a word, that is what is rude.