my embarassing love

China
December 5, 2012 3:05am CST
I feel so bad for a week because i have crash on a girl . but she have a boyfriend . This make me so unhappy. whats worse , she is my classmate. I cant take control of my emotion . I always find her where to sit ,what her do . Im addicted to her beauty and her character ! So i tell her i love her . She accept my words . We talk a lot . She say: we can be friend . but i want more .... today ,her boyfriend come to see her . they are really match. but i feel so down . I dont know how to get along with her .its complex . I want to give up really ......
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20 responses
@valerievy (162)
• Guam
5 Dec 12
How old are you? If you are still young, don't fret too much and settle for her just now. You never know what the future holds. If you stick around too closely to her and not open your heart to other girls, you will only put yourself through pain and heartache. But if you really think that you might have a chance with her, if maybe one day she'll open her heart to you at the right time, just keep your distance and stay friends but not as close a friend are you are with her now. Just let her know that you'll always be there for her, maybe she'll realize you're the one for her. Choose wisely, and don't let her lead you on though.
• China
12 Dec 12
thanks ! I think i find my way !
@babyEj (1525)
• Philippines
5 Dec 12
Oh that's too bad. However, you need to give way because she got a boyfriend already. You need to divert yourself so you won't be hurt much and you can forget her easily, such as making friends with other women. It won't be easy but be consistent so you will forget her.
• China
12 Dec 12
thanks a lot ! I cant give up my love easily ! I will be friend with her and wait her
@victorywp (3530)
• Malaysia
2 Mar 13
hi yejianzhou, it is too early for you to decide the end of your world. she may be great in your eyes now but maybe there are better ones out there whom you have not met yet. don't put a conclusion to yourself just because of her. let's say you both went your own ways after graduation. you found your job and becmae successful. you meet more girls in your ring of colleagues/friends at that time and they admire you for your capabilities and success. you may find your love at that time easily. or maybe the girl whom you had a crush on now were separated with her boyfriend and met you at that point of time and both of you still can be together. it is just a matter of timing so just do your part and become a successful man. please don't worry about love relationship during study times.
@zurichann (235)
• Philippines
8 Dec 12
I know that what you're getting through is not that easy. Falling in love is a very beautiful thing. You shouldn't be ashamed of it. The only time that you should start thinking is if someone's already being hurt. Love should be patient and kind. It should not dishonour others and not self-seeking.
@kokomo (1868)
• Philippines
7 Dec 12
Feel privilege that she accepts your love. Wait for the right girl for you. Do not feel bad about it. Just be happy with them. Treasure your friendship with her. Just accept that you are just friend and that's the only thing that she can do for you.Just think that friends don't have break up unlike lovers.
@mythociate (13827)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
6 Dec 12
You're thinking right! Give up on women! Aim to be a monk or a priest. Or not. No matter what you do, focus on ... 'what you do'---your job, your school-work, your career-path. Spousal relationships--though people will tell you they're the backbone of your life and that you should focus all your energy on them--are things that happen almost-automatically while you do your best job at 'important things' (like the 'what you do' I mentioned). Guru Sting puts it this way, "If you love somebody, if you love someone, if you need somebody, if you need ... someone; Set Them Free!" The old-wives'-tale that comes from says something about 'if it's meant-to-be, she'll return to thee!' but don't even worry about that. You're right to be her friend, though you need to be careful not to let "Mr. Winky's thoughts" weigh too heavily into your decisions for her. You want her to have the best life possible---true, that might not be exactly the life she "wants"; but it's not 'exactly what your "Mr. Winky" wants' either. Do 'what you do.' If 'what you do' can help her live or -do 'what she does,' help her. As her friend---think of her as a sister. That's what I did with a girl whom I pretty-much 'grew up with'; I thought of her as a sister and let her go, and she found a guy who's pretty-much like me except not so-much brain-injured---and I couldn't be happier for her. She has a much-better life than I could've given her---not to say I can't give any girl a happy life, just ... not in the common way. (I oughta start a discussion about that ... how 'I need me a Paycheck Woman' who is more-outgoing than that "sister" I'm talking about. --- Anyway, back to you ...) Maybe help her study. Be her learning-partner (i.e. ask for her help in studying).
@voracious (624)
• Philippines
6 Dec 12
If you really love the girl then you should wait for the right time for you. Love is patient. I believe there's a lot of fish in the sea and you can get yours soon just don't lose hope.
• China
6 Dec 12
So when you see her boyfriend come to see her and think that they are really match,then why you just get over this weird feeling and move on?Pls remember,next is the best.
@narnia007 (1051)
• India
6 Dec 12
Hey,it is ok for you to have crush on somebody.It happens for everyone at some point of time.But since she has a boyfriend,you should let go off the crush.If you can control it,you can be friends.But if you can't,keep some distance as you will end up hurting yourself and doing things that would irritate her and thus losing a good friend.
@leeandrew (1226)
• Philippines
6 Dec 12
Sometimes I missed being young and feeling what you feel. I have loads of crushes before and they all inspire me in one way or another. I eve remember painting their names on our window. So embarrassing too, I just realized how embarrassing it was really. Try to talk with so that she'll have some idea about you and your feelings, then you'll see with yourself too how serious you are with her
• China
6 Dec 12
As to my experience, i think if you have a stong crsh on her, just strive for it, regardless of her boyfriend. Maybe she will find you are more appropriate to be her Mr Right. Perhaps it is not a moral behavior to stand between a couple of lover in your mind, but they have not got married and you should hold full confidence to bring her happiness. Overall, i may hold the different opinion that goes against giving up but 100% giving your love and showing to her. Even though she decline your love, you will not feel regretful anymore.
@robspeakman (1707)
6 Dec 12
my embarassing love? I opened this expecting to read about your undying love for a farm animal - Nothing to be ashamed of, we have all been. Seriously though, this girl has a boyfriend - You need to man up and move on before your affection becomes a little creepy and causes a problem... Too honest?
• United States
6 Dec 12
I hope you can be good friends with her without ruining your friendship. She loves another and you can deal with it by not stressing the issue and making new friends.
@bluesea3 (167)
• Indonesia
6 Dec 12
"Love", you tell so much about it. But, do you know what the "love" is? It's most about sincerity and hope. When you only hope or sincere, you will fail. So, do something with sincerity, but still keeping your hope for her. Pray for her, tell your hope for her to the "God". If it's the time, marrying her. Empower your intention with an positive statement. Take care her, be her husband(if it's the time). Before it, respect her rights, not only for your "satisfaction" like an animal.. It's the best way to respect your life and her.
@natliegleb (5188)
• India
6 Dec 12
it happens most of them and we never take control of our natural emotions and let it run aseep and flow naturally and its quite common too for all of us
@challs12 (549)
• Malaysia
6 Dec 12
You should make her feel sorry not to accept you. You must show that your are someone that are better than his boyfriend. I think this is very interesting and challenging target in our life to have the one that we love. Never give up, upgrade yourself. Be a better one. Get more to your group, be the one that idol by many girls. Always show her how you appreciate her, always praise her, always be kind to her and so many things to describe here how to attract her. Sure her heart will touched by your appearance.
• United States
5 Dec 12
My advice is to not give up if she is that important to you but don't focus on just her. Be active and find things to keep your mind off of it. Remind her everyone few months that you are still waiting for her so she knows how much you truly love her but at the same time keep an open mind in case someone better comes along. Don't put all your eggs in one basket. Good luck
@humairaku (2040)
• Indonesia
5 Dec 12
no.no.no.no.no..it is not embarrassing at all. falling in love is the most beautiful and exciting thing in the world. I'm married and one thing i miss today is falling in love. i love my husband of course, but the feeling of falling in love with a guy, so shy every time we meet each other, feel the heart beats faster than usual and etc are feelings i don't have today. so falling in love is not embarrassing. yeah, i know you said it is embarrassing cos you love a girl who already had a boyfriend. it must be very hurt right? cos i ever had an experience like yours when i was in a school. but of course i didn't give up cos i knew that someday i would stay away from them when we continued our study out of our town and it truly happened. what i did at that time was i kept studying well, and became the best graduation in our graduation day. i didn't tell you a lie. rejected by a boy made me study harder cos i wanted to prove to them that i could be better than them. you should do good activity too instead of being sad or even crying cos you don't get a girl you love. prove her that you are a qualified boy and she will regret if she doesn't choose you as her boyfriend. don't forget to open your heart to another girl. I'm sure there is one girl out there who also loves you, you deserve a good girl than a girl who has a boyfriend. you should respect yourself by staying away from them. cos if you push yourself to be close to her, it will hurt you more and more.
@Angelpink (4023)
• Philippines
5 Dec 12
Be a real man. Don't give up , she is not just meant for you , and there would always be a reason for that which we fail to see and comprehend. Ocean is too wide , am sure one best is for you. Don't rush for it will come by surprise. For now continue living productively life is beautiful.
• Philippines
5 Dec 12
Dont give her up. Fight for love and let her see that your the best for her. Love that is fight for is the best love ever.