Small town drama; just get over it

@911Ricki (13602)
Canada
December 17, 2012 8:24pm CST
Now I live in a small area, my town of about 500 people, and I work in surrounding towns. I grew up in this area, my parents, and grandparents were born and raised in this area. I am related to 95% of the population,and majority of the rest knows me, or someone related to me. So when someone says something about me, usually they are saying it to a cousin. It's rather funny actually. Now about a year or more (when I worked at my last job which I got fired August 2011), I was interested in this guy who came into my work. We flirted, he never made a move, and I would say things and never jumped at it. He got his coworkers then to ask me, or hint that he liked me. A feww months later, he ignored me, and literally would be driving down the road and do a complete u turn, and floor it the other way. Now I am not some crazy stalker and ignored him finding out (seeing as everyone and their mothers know of me), that he was dating some other girl. End of it for me, I ignored him and went on my way. Behind my back a coworker, had sent this guy a couple facebook messages (I didnt know seriously), and well I'm sure it made me look desperate, or whatever, but I ignored it all, as I really could care a less, I sort of laugh at it actually. So one night I went to a bar with an old coworker, and bumped into a guy this guy new. We laughted over,it, and clearly drunk, he told me to send him a Facebook message, just saying sorry about this lady I work with, and basicaally I know he has a girlfriend, and I am done. I cant recall exactly what I wrote, but the only reason I knew I sent it was I had opened facebook on my cellphone to that the next morning (smack in the face doh). Now that was awhile back when I still worked at my old job in 2011. He is still dating this girl, she has been going around for almost a year talking sh*t about me. She obviously has issues, she going around saying she is going the beat my face in, and just saying things that clearly arnt true. Of course she said it to my relatives, which is pretty funny. I ignored her, just shows how she is insecure, jealous, and trust issues (if she cant trust her boyfriend). I see this guy about once a week, I just stick my nose up and pretend like I don't see him. He waves, slows down while driving, tries getting my attention. He came into my work back in September at the pet store, with his girlfriend. He obviously wasnt happy, I just ignored him and pretended like I didnt know him and serve them like any other customers as I was there by myself and could not serve them He then came in yesterday into my work, with his girlfriend. I told my coworker I was not serving them, so she did. She was telling me, they dont look happy at all. She was yelling at him, he was all p*ssy. Meanwhile, she said that he was looking around, and asked where I was, if I walked by serviing someone else he would stare at me. I chuckled at this, he made his decision live with it now. Now everyone and their mothers are saying to me, they are back gossiping about me. It's rather funny, I am not getting in the middle of some drama relationship, and I want a man not some coward, who cant tell his girlfriend he wants out, and isnt happy. Meanwhile, his girlfriend is in complete denial, and blaming me for her issues, and her failure relationship. It's funny what I hear, what a small town thing.
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9 responses
• United States
18 Dec 12
She got the right one because she could not get away with that mess with everybody.. someone would have put that itch in her place long time ago and it would be so good the whole town would be talking. let some woman get all stupid over me and adrian she will wish she never opened her mouth. Everyone here knows me and I am know for not taking crap like that. sometimes it is great to just ignore people and other times you need to stand up for yourself and be respected.
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@Hatley (161854)
• Garden Grove, California
18 Dec 12
hi Ricki I grew up in a small town but we did not have computers and Facebook to spew n asty gossip on b ut of course people still did gossip about each other. All I ever heard about me w s shes so bright and it is a shame she is so shy too and she has a sister who is retarded. yep Doc clarks girls.I left there at thirty and have never returned and know what I might not either. I did not enjoy being talked about behind my back.And another thing thats f unny. I am in contact with my childhood best friend back in Newell South Dakota and she had a fit when she learned I voted democratic .she said' b ut all people in South D akota vote republican how can you be a Democrat?" small towns yuck love them and hate them but I lived on the farm anyway so there.
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• United States
19 Dec 12
You really need to move out of that town--away from all of that drama. You need to be living somewhere that you can have a decent-sized pool of guys who are not related to you so that you can hopefully find a good guy when you are ready for a serious relationship. Small towns can be incredibly charming. They can be great places to live. However, there are also ones that can be incredibly suffocating--too much drama, too little family tree forking, not enough of a dating pool, little educational or economic opportunities. Sometimes, you just need to get out of the small town in which you grew up; in your case, that definitely sounds like it is time to migrate elsewhere.
• United States
20 Dec 12
I grew up in a small town that functioned (or malfunctioned) a lot like that one. That would be why I live in another state now. I wanted room to stretch--and that was not going to happen in a place where people thought they knew me.
@shaggin (29628)
• United States
18 Dec 12
Oh wow I would have been so mad that someone messaged him behind my back like that and made him think I was crazy and in love with him. He sounds like a real loser for acting the way he did. Purposefully ignoring you like the plague then looking for you when things arent going great with the girl hes with.
@911Ricki (13602)
• Canada
18 Dec 12
He is a coward, and his coworker came up to me and to this day says he is interesteed, but is too afraid to ask me not knowing my answer, and scared to ditch his physcho firlfriend. I really don;t care now, he is a coward, I wouldn't date him. He is trying to find a way out of his relationship, and I wont be it. He made his bed, now time to lay in it.
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@shaggin (29628)
• United States
18 Dec 12
Coward is the perfect word to describe him! I wouldnt date someone like that either. It is wrong to try to be with someone new before ditching the other person. I end things with someone because I dont want to be with them then I go look for someone else. People should never leave who they are with to be with someone else. Its just wrong.
• India
18 Dec 12
Sometimes, it so happens in life that you find yourself part of a drama that you had nothing to do with. Gossips always die down with time. People get bored and move on to a hotter topic. I think you are taking it the right way. Cheers!
@911Ricki (13602)
• Canada
18 Dec 12
Seeing as it's been almost 2 years, I hope it's gone. I just continue to ignore them, if I say anything or do anything it will just make it worse. I find it funny, how both are so immature, and this girl has such insecure, jealous, and trust issues. I couldn't imagine living like this, I sort of feel sorry for her seeing as she has nothing else in lifee to show for herself but a trashy boyfriend.
@ZoeJoy (1395)
• United States
18 Dec 12
Yep. I used to live in a small town, small town politics, small town thinking, so I know what you are talking about. I do think you are best to laugh it off and move on from this guy. I think you are right to not get in the middle of some drama relationship. Hope you do find someone who is just right for you.
@911Ricki (13602)
• Canada
18 Dec 12
Don't yea just love the small town gossip. But usually they say it to someone I know, related too or so on, who they come tell me. I just shurg it off, I am not lowering myself to this girls level. I feel sorry for her, the fact she has nothing else to show for her life, but fight for a coward. I want someone better, and I want my own life not following a man around like a dog.
@jeztrose (1406)
• Philippines
18 Dec 12
The guy really is a coward one, well it is better that you didn't end up with him, he is not good for you anyways.and to the girl i feel pity for her, why would she goes with a guy who didn't really like her?Can't she find another one?well just don't mind them, it's their own business.Just be happy in your life :)
@911Ricki (13602)
• Canada
18 Dec 12
I saaid the same thing thank god I didnt end up with him. Clearly, she can't see. I feel sorry for her, and the fact all she has to show for her life is a coward boyfriend who clearly doesn't care for her, while he is trying to replace her. The fact she has to go around saying stuff about other people, because she has nothing else to show for her life but some piece of trash.
@artemeis (4023)
• China
18 Dec 12
Everyone simply loves a gossip and how word gets around in your community but I have to admire the way you took it in your stride. Also, I liked the way you handled your relationships where you do not rush in at the first instance and end off with a loser boyfriend. This is the hesitation I am trying so hard to teach here to my daughters, which is so relevant for us women of today. I am happy for you and wish you all the best for the coming Christmas holiday.
@silverfox09 (4727)
• United States
18 Dec 12
She need to let that man go , if she cant trust him instead of talking things about you . Some female are so stupid , they dont see that the man is the one causing everything bad . I would have kick him to the curve if I was her and If I were you , I would not want him either . He sound like the guy that wont break up until he find someone else to cling to . Your town sound real small , I am afraid to live in such places where every body know every body . Although it seems every body know me because I am new whee I am .