OPEN Relationships...?
By Miss G
@nhailojaye (207)
Philippines
December 25, 2012 2:33pm CST
I really don't understand people engaging to this kind of relationship. And honestly, I really don't get this kind of relationship? What is this all about and everything?
Based from what I understand, for me, this kind of relationship is for unfaithful ones. This triggers disloyalty to couples and lovers. I believe that this relationship doesn't have any commitment at all. Hello, you are in a relationship and you are allowed to be in relation with others too?! OMG! This stuff shouldn't be existing at all.
My ex-partner is really engaged with this stuff. We've been in this kind of set-up for almost five years but I already put an end to it. This was really hurting, honestly. That feeling when you saw your boyfriend snogging other girls, flirting with them, and doing your stuffs (date/movies/etc) with them; that really triggers me for a world war III. We end up having fights because of this stuff. Over and over again. And mostly, because of that EX of his who keeps on sticking around him.
A relationship where he makes his rules of allowing other relationships to himself, while I can't have any. I am not allowed to have other relationship aside from him. I remained loyal and faithful to him. That was really my bad side. I allowed him to do such dreadful things to me.
And come to think of it, I am the legal girlfriend, having known by his family and friends and his school and all, yet I was the one taken aside. He left me for that ex of hers. I wanted to change him for good, but he ended up being an avid fan of polygamy! And we, ended up too! HAHAHAHA!
See? this kind of relationship is really a NO-NO!I hope everyone understands and gets my point! People becomes inhumane for this. :/
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23 responses
@ronnalee (43)
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28 Dec 12
I skimmed the responses and read the original post in full, and I have to disagree. I myself am monogamous, have avoided relationships for most of my life knowing I don't want to commit to someone I'm not absolutely crazy about as I don't want to waste their and my time, but I am not ignorant to the existence and validity of polygamous individuals and open relationships. An open relationship is not an excuse for cheating. I think perhaps as mainstream society became aware of the term, many began abusing its meaning - including your ex boyfriend.
Any relationship should ideally be a mutual agreement and consensual on both parts. Same goes for open relationships. There is more than one way to live and every open relationship will vary based on individuals involved. Most open relationships I have witnessed or heard of usually involved two individuals who were very much in love, but mutually agreed to various degrees of openness to meeting and seeing other people. Some people are just into that. The thing is, if you don't want to have an open relationship, just don't agree to be in one.
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@LovingMyBabies (85127)
• Valdosta, Georgia
25 Dec 12
Your right, an open relationship causes nothing but jealousy, insecurity and PAIN! I have never been in a relationship like that and I never would either. I would not want to wonder who my man is with that day, no thank you!
I like being committed. I don't want to have to worry and be jealous all the time. It is not even worth being in a relationship then...Might as well stay single!
I'm sorry you went through that and I truly hope you have learned to stay away from that kind of thing now! It is nothing but a heart break waiting to happen...
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@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
25 Dec 12
I agree with you. A person might as well stay single.Why even have a relationship if they are going to do things like that? It really does lead to a lot of pain. And it is not a healthy way for them to live their life.
@aerous (13434)
• Philippines
28 Dec 12
I think you need to analyze things for sake of your future. If you still accept your bf in such manner. He always abuse you, and don't mind if you hurt or not. Because your always trying to understand him. Even this is against the rule of your heart, you still want him. Try to widen your insight to find a good person which is match to your loving and care attitude.
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@mythociate (21437)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
28 Dec 12
This is the kind of relationship we guys are born into. That's why we each NEED a lusty mother (like you 
) to seduct us down the hot-sweaty road of monogamy! ROAR!
) to seduct us down the hot-sweaty road of monogamy! ROAR!1 person likes this
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
25 Dec 12
Unfaithful are the people who cheat, do things behind the back of their partner. What is more faithful as admitting you need more and if you both agree it's not a problem? To some it's even exciting to watch their partner or hear what he/she did with someone else. It gives some extra to the relationship. People are different, like different things and as long as they do not harm anyone why making a problem out of it? As you say.. you are not allowed to have an other relationship... how about your partner? Is he allowed? Will he have an other relationship next to you? Behind your back perhaps? Wil you accept that if you find it out? Or will he dump you first and say: sorry I am interested in someone else?
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@danishcanadian (28953)
• Canada
3 Jan 13
It's absolutely imposible to remain faithful to one's partner in an open relationship. However, as long as both parites are consenting to the type of relationship they want, I say "live and let live." Some people out there want the best of both worlds. They want to be able to have a partner to come home to, but they want to have the freedom to be with other folks too. Not something I'd ever get into.
@cobalt20 (1318)
• Philippines
27 Dec 12
I think that guy is not loyal to you. He needs to mature more or grow things up. Open relationship is a mind boggling for me for the girls.
@ivaylo2009 (973)
• Bulgaria
26 Dec 12
Hello that is interesting point of view.Usualy in all kind of relation there is one rule.I mean you alone make the relationship in way that you like - WHAT YOU PUT THAT SHOULD RCEIVE - if someone is not satisfied so is the time for separation for goodness of each of relation.
The life should continied in the same positive aspect that you want so the best answer for me is to create one positive,nice feelings and fill with smiles and pleasure relationship.Make in this way that everyone have been wonder of you.Yes it is so easy in word but is twice in reality - all depends on you!
Take a look at this article there is some tricks for happiness in relation without act of cheat and lie:
http://expertscolumn.com/content/tricks-happy-relationship
Have a nice day!
@deiusz (193)
• Indonesia
26 Dec 12
you do the right think, because when you forgive him one time, two time, you will be always got cheating from him for the same reason. Hey, you ever forgave me, it's the same thing now, why not?
you got lose for your win, because reserve for better than him. It's now your turn to let him now that he will sorry for what he did and let you go from him, show him your great thing in yours.
@liezel25 (292)
• Germany
25 Dec 12
That kind of relationship is only for those chick magnets, cheaters and not loyal. How could they allow such a relationship like that. It's like in the movie, friends with benefits,lol.. yah, so much benefit from it though. But the relationship is not firm and I don't think it will last if the relationship will just stick-to-1. I hope you learn a lesson from it. Hope you find the one true love :)
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@misjoseph (162)
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26 Dec 12
Open relationship should not be allow, this is not a form of respect.Couples should get together and set a future plan. They should not be all about the place and not knowing what they are really about. Having many partners which is not right and should not be legal...
@misjoseph (162)
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26 Dec 12
Open relationship should not be allow, this is not a form of respect. Couples should get together and set a future plan. Couples should not be all about the place and don't even know what they really about. Having many partners which is not right and should not be legal...
@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
25 Dec 12
I have never understood this one at all either. I have known so many people though that have done things like this, and it makes you wonder. What you;re afraid to commit to one person? Are you not afraid of all the diseases out there to where you might catch something? Seriously to me this does not sound safe, or good. And what about when kids some along? Time to get back to the Bible and what a Relationship and marriage really needs to be.
@AdalieM (1134)
• United States
26 Dec 12
I guess this type of relationship is for someone who doesn't want commitment at all. I am not the type of girl that jumps from one guy to the next. I like commitment, but I guess some guys like open relationships because they get the feeling that they are powerful and they have anyone they want without getting attached, and the more females they have the better.
@Shavkat (137221)
• Philippines
26 Dec 12
In my opinion, it is their preferences to engage in an open relationship. But I don't go for such practice that is starting to be visible in the society. I don't have any against them.
@neelia27 (896)
• Philippines
26 Dec 12
In my opinion those who go for an open relationship must learn to love themselves more.. because if you love yourself and respect it you will be wiser enough to know that being in that kind of relationship will take you nowhere and will just leave you alone and hurting.. but if you love yourself you will have a high respect for you self and body that you will value who you are and will know what kind of man you deserves..
@kitoplayer (65)
• Argentina
25 Dec 12
It is prefectly fine, because they know their relationship is not based in "love", but only attraction (like 99% relationships nowadays) and if someone attractive comes by, they will take the chance without all the "drawbacks" that a "normal" relationship would have
