I'm not invited tomorrow

United States
December 31, 2012 10:16pm CST
So my son in law and daughter are going to his parents tomorrow and watch the football game tomorrow on January first. They will have a light meal of traditional holiday food of greens for money and whatever else they do here in the south. Then my daughter is bringing banana pudding to the get together. I saw the pudding and wafers and stuff and I asked if we were doing something for tomorrow. I was informed that it was just for them and his parents. He says 'you don't like football'. No I don't like football but I would have enjoyed getting out! I would have my iPhone and I could mylot. But...no, in not invited. This tells me I am really alone here. I will occupy myself here. It does sort if hurt my feelings that I can't be part of the NY celebration. I know you will tell me to suck it up. I'm trying. I should have a thicker skin. I just hate always being alone.
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15 responses
@leeandrew (1226)
• Philippines
1 Jan 13
You are not alone. This is not though but an older friend I know. One of her daughter invited some of her siblings for a small gathering. She just invited those who are closer to her and she did not bother to included those that makes her a little indifferent. The sad thing about it is... she did not invited her mom because she knew her mom would bring with her the nephew she detest the most who lives with her mom. It just saddened to know that things like that really happens. I'm sorry for you, but I do hope that even though your alone in there celebrating the New Year I still hope that you are welcoming with joy even in the midst of not a good situation.
• United States
1 Jan 13
I have accepted that I'm not wanted there. It saddens me but they are oblivious to it. My daughter asked to wear my sweater blouse. It's beautiful. His mom gave it to me for Christmas. I won't have anywhere to wear it unless it is to the doctor. I just don't ever get to get out. I have cabin fever, I guess. They get to come and go, but I don't and they rarely think about it.
@BarBaraPrz (21011)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
1 Jan 13
Is there no one you could invite over? In any case, you still have us.
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• United States
1 Jan 13
I have you here at Mylot. I'm thankful for that. All my friends are quite far away from me. I don't have any friends here. I don't get out to church. I called my church yesterday to see if there was a bus to pick people up and take them home. They said no. They didn't offer any suggestions. SIL's mom plays the organ there, but it is out of her way to come get me, so I don't ask her. There are 2 cars here but I'm not allowed to drive them except when it is to take my daughter (his wife) somewhere when he is working. I normally like being alone, but today I just feel left out.
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@BarBaraPrz (21011)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
1 Jan 13
How about taking a walk around the block and see who you run into? You might have an interesting conversation.
• Canada
1 Jan 13
I know that feeling. Fortunately I have my awesome husband, so I will never be alone. However, if I ever did find myself alone, I'd take a vacation. I'd go somewhere special.
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• United States
1 Jan 13
That would be nice to be able to do that. I have no friends to spend time with. I wish I lived next door to one of my friends. We used to be very close. I was their nanny then. I felt needed.
@stary1 (6622)
• United States
1 Jan 13
PointlessQuestions I am sorry you weren't invited and I think it was mean of them...families should be nice to each other and try to get along..especially on holidays! I would never say suck it up..you have reason to expect better from your daughter...I would reccommend at the very least just stay online..I bet there are many who feel lonely and would enjoy your company..Happy New Year and God Bless..
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@sid556 (31003)
• United States
1 Jan 13
I don;t think they meant to be mean but it was very rude for sure. I have had get-togethers and all of my friends know me so well. I have always been real clear on the fact that EVERYONE close to me is welcome. I would never ever ever dream of leaving anyone out on purpose and especially a family member. She expressed an interest in going and the right response would have been "sorry we didn;t invite you because we thought you wouldn;t be interested but we would absolutly love to have you join us." I actually have never sent out invites for get togethers. I just tell people. If the bring a friend...the friend is welcome too. My door is always open to my friends and family.
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• United States
1 Jan 13
I have told my daughter I have winter depression to explain the tears. I also said I don't feel well. I can't come out and say I am hurt because I am not wanted at the get together. I'll get over it. It just burns for now. Payday I will be family again.
• Jacksonville, Florida
1 Jan 13
The last thing you just said PQ really burns me up because I have been there. We were not treated like family until it was pay day and they wanted money from us. I am so sorry your feeling the way we felt then... We are here for you PQ always.
@celticeagle (120438)
• Boise, Idaho
1 Jan 13
I know. Alot of people don't like to be alone. I for one do enjoy time to myself. I don't like football either and I can imagine exactly what went down and why you weren't invited. And I am sure that he likes to do things with his wife and his family. I bet that if you were married you would want to do things with just your husband. I bet I am right.
@stary1 (6622)
• United States
1 Jan 13
celticeagle I love beng alone too and unless it's a really really good close game, I don't care for football anymore either. I still say for major holidays both sides of the family, especially if one is alone, should be at least be given the choice to all be together..there are plenty of other days when families can be separate...
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• United States
1 Jan 13
The only time I get out of the house is for doctor appointments, and food shopping once a month and at Christmas and thanksgiving. This year Christmas was at our house. I say our house because I pay part of the rent. I wouldn't be so upset, but other years I have been included. I feel like I'm just not welcomed this time. U certainly don't want to go where I'm not wanted so I will just stay here alone. I can't get out to church. I don't have a car where I can come and go, and I'm only allowed to drive one of the cars if, per chance I have to take my daughter to the psychiatrist... Which I haven't had to do. I'm getting depressed this winter. It's times like this that I wish I had someone in my life so I wouldn't feel like a fifth wheel. I don't belong anywhere except to myself. The feeling of NOT being family is magnified right now. There is some history here. I was told once I should know when I'm not wanted. Then when they needed me for financial support I was suddenly family. It just happened that I wasn't happy where I was and the rest is history. I normally like being alone too. That's not the point. I wasn't told in advance that I wasn't invited. I see the dessert makings and ask if we are doing anything. Then it's we are but you aren't. I'm embarrassed for asking. I wish I hadn't asked.
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@celticeagle (120438)
• Boise, Idaho
1 Jan 13
@stary1= I agree with you. PQ- So other years you have been included. Hmm. That is weird. I can see where you would feel sad with the limitations you have. I am always depressed but I know how it can pull you down and make you feel less than complete. I can see where you would feel badly and I am sorry. I would feel alittle hurt myself. I hope that you find something to occupy your time and that it isn't too bad for you. You can always email me. Hehe
@RitterSport (2452)
• Lippstadt, Germany
1 Jan 13
how cruel and insensitive of B after you were the one hosting the Christmas Party. I am so pizzed off reading you are at home alone. Wish we were closer to you cause then you would be invited to our place. We dont fix anything traditional to eat but it would be fun to have you around here for sure so please hop on the next plane and get here please.
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• United States
1 Jan 13
Oh how sweet! Ill be there in spirit sweet one! I wish I were closer also. It would be a huge honor yo meet you and give you a big hug! Out the coffee on. Here I come!
@Ahana123 (139)
• India
1 Jan 13
You have felt hurt the way your family members treated you. You may not be liking football that cannot be an excuse. You can talk to them once you meet them and express your feelings.Surely they would understand sometime.
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• United States
1 Jan 13
I'm getting over it. Being able to talk about it here is enough to help me feel better. Thanks.
• China
1 Jan 13
Hi,I really understand how you feel.The person you care so much just takes it for granted that you show no interest in football and you surly don't want to join them,but obviously they are wrong.You still hope to join them and you do love being together with them and going out for fun.But they didn't mean to,they just neglected it.Try to talk to them when they have celebration next time,don't forget you coz you wish join them as the family gathering.Cheer up,you are always the dearest of your family. Happy new year.
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• United States
1 Jan 13
I appreciate your words but I don't want to say anything. I just don't want to rock the boat and cause problems in the home. I will be co tent here and to talk to you, my mylot family.
@jenny1015 (13389)
• Philippines
1 Jan 13
Hi,Pointless! I know that you are feeling a it hurt and I think that your daughter should have asked you to join them even if they know that you do not like football. Well, anyway, I hope you still enjoy being at Mylot to spend the remaining hours of 2012. Cheer up!
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• United States
1 Jan 13
It is now 8:51 in 2013. I'll be okay. I'm looking forward to spending time with you guys. Thanks. This is home to me. All my friends are at mylot.
• United States
1 Jan 13
My in-laws invited my Mother to celebrations at their home. It wasn't until she had trouble climbing steps that we left my Mother behind as she could not make it up steps in time and I could not lift her if she fell. But I agree you should be allowed to tag along even if you don't like football. I'm a fair weather fan myself and look into doing other things while the games are on like crochet or surfing the net. I only really pay attention the last quarter.
• United States
1 Jan 13
I would have brought my phone for mylotting. I might have also brought my e-book. I would have occupied myself. I don't know what I have done to be excluded this year.
@caopaopao (12641)
• China
1 Jan 13
Hi, friend, I am sorry to know that you were not invited. Maybe your daughter didn't realize that you would feel lonely on that special day, the new year's day. Why didn't you just tell her, I mean, if you don't want to tell your thoughts to your son in law, you can certainly tell your daughter, she will understand that. She will spend sometime with you even if she won't take you to the football game. I believe she will do that for you. So just tell her.
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• United States
1 Jan 13
In not telling her. She is wearing my sweater blouse I got for Christmas. I heard them talking a few nights ago. They were talking in hushed tones about the banana pudding and the football game. They had to have planned to exclude me. It just reinforces the thought that I am not really family. I'm only family when they need me for something.
• United States
1 Jan 13
I don't think you should suck it up. you should be invited anyway love or no love of sports. I hate them and would have gone just for the company and conversation.
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• United States
1 Jan 13
I don't want to insert myself where I'm not wanted. She came and got my sweater blouse that I got for Christmas and said 'I'm wearing this if you don't mind', and u said, 'go ahead I have no place to dress up for'.
@jaiho2009 (39001)
• Philippines
1 Jan 13
You're not alone, everyone is here for you We are here to give you company
• United States
1 Jan 13
Thanks. In oretty much okay now. I'm watching TV on Netflix. I took my meds so ill probably sleep again soon.
@winterose (39918)
• Canada
2 Jan 13
I slept all day New Years day is no different than any other day here for me.
• India
1 Jan 13
Hi friend, sad to hear about this, i wonder why they don't invite you for the new year celebration? even though you don't like the foot ball, you can take part in the new year celebration and have more fun with them if they invited you, really it is hard to spend new year alone without any company. Don't worry, mylot is always with you and mylotters are always active to give company to you