What do you do when you are depressed?

United States
February 6, 2013 2:26pm CST
More and more people are suffering from depression and others have bouts of depression every now and then. What do you do when you are depressed? I'm starting to feel really down about all that is happening in my life. I can't really talk with my friends because most of my friends are close to both me and my husband. My other friends live a greater distance away. I would like to start going to college sometime in my life but something always seems to happen that prevents me from doing it. I don't have support so I'm just doing everything on my own. I would also like to work more so I can save more but we can't afford the daycare and we would have to get another vehicle. Have you ever felt like a lot of things are going wrong in your life?
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@sajujohn (1009)
• India
6 Feb 13
Honestly, most of the times I am depressed. I know why it is so, but I don't want to share that here due to some personal reasons. Anyway the topic here is not that. Most of the times, I will hear songs. Also I will eat lots of chocolates because somewhere I read that chocolates are a good depression buster.
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• United States
7 Feb 13
I understand what you mean. Glad to hear that listening to songs help you. I will have to get me some a whole lot of chocolate because so many things seem to happen at once. And I'm getting really down about all of it. I hope that your situation improves. Life can be so difficult and it often seems there are things and people that keep adding to our stress.
@lelin1123 (15645)
• Puerto Rico
6 Feb 13
Most people go through what you are going through all the time or some of the times. I have it some of the times. What I do when I feel it coming on I just go and do something that I love to do. Such as gardening, reading or watching a good funny movie. These things will normally snap me out of the depression. Life is not easy by any means and everyone has their days or weeks of feeling out of it. However, you have to learn what makes you really happy and try your best to do these things for you and you alone when you feel the depression coming. Good luck and hope this helps you.
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• United States
7 Feb 13
Thanks! I really do appreciate this advice. I will try and work on this. I agree it is a good thing for us to do what we love doing when we are feeling down. I hope that I will start feeling better soon. I'm hoping to get to bed earlier tonight so that I can get some rest. I haven't been getting much rest either. So this might help as well.
• United States
6 Feb 13
I feel this way all the time and I come right here and you all make me feel better. I can tell you this when I was working and could not risk leaving kay with no good people again. i just quit my job and got a child care license for my home. that way I was taking care of kids and mine as well. thye count your child in as one of the kids. you can go to college when you get more saved but you might want to look inot that as well. the state has people needing child care and you get top dollar for each of them. i am on the waiting list for the next class here to get my license for my home. I can care for six kids and that would bring like $15 a week per child plus,meals can be brought in or I can make them. good luck.
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• United States
7 Feb 13
I'm so excited to hear that you are getting your license. I will definitely have to keep this in mind. I have thought about it in the past and it seems like the more other areas of my life go crazy that I will have to keep this in mind. It really does pay good to have a daycare in your home. It's a way to earn and be able to spend time with my daughter and then she would be able to be around other kids. How many hours will you have your kids for the day? Let us know how things go when you get started.
@ARIES1973 (9441)
• Legaspi, Philippines
7 Feb 13
Hi dominique. I experience the same things as of now especially that my husband lost his work and so many other things that is happening. Most of the time, to prevent me from thinking too much of my situation, it is better if I am always busy. As of now, working online is the best way I could do it. Well, just remember everyone of us has our own problems and I'm sure we will be the only person who can solve whatever it is. Let us just be thankful that we are always being given a chance to have another day in order for us to think of ways that could somehow help. Have a nice day!
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• United States
7 Feb 13
Yeah I do agree that staying busy can help us to get through tough times. I hope that your husband will be able to find work. That would be a very hard situation to have to deal with. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.
@redredrose (1107)
• United States
7 Feb 13
Everybody feels like you do at some point in their life. I tho have been diagnosed with clinical depression and i take prozac for it, but when i still feel depressed i sleep go for a walk outside when the weather is nice or i listen to music or talk to a friend. When i was younger tho before the meds i tried to kill myself but now i realize that was a horrible idea since my life has gotten better. Prayer is good going to church or temple can help you feel better, No im not that religious but ive heard it works for some people. everything will soon work out for you and get better life has a way of doing that. good luck with everything.
• United States
7 Feb 13
Thanks. I appreciate your encouragement. I really do hope things will improve and get better for me. I just have been feeling like the same type of problems continue to bother me for the past few years. Like every time I try to get ahead in my life something happens that knocks me right back to square one. I'm glad to hear that you have made it through those difficult times and that prozac is helping you.
@rosekiss (30152)
• Eugene, Oregon
6 Feb 13
It always seems like things are going wrong in my life, and it really stinks. I find though, that by coming here, does help, as I forget about the things that are happening in my life and then I feel so much better. I just hope that things get bett for me one of these days, and I am sure they will, but it is so hard to accept that, when things always seem to go crazy instead of the way they should go. At least I have my families love and support and that is good too. Take care, and have a very good day.
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• United States
7 Feb 13
I hope that things will get better for you as well. It is very hard to stay positive when we are overloaded with bad and negative things coming our way. It is a great thing that you have your families love and support. I'm sure that you appreciate all that they do for you and that they feel the same about you.
• United States
9 Feb 13
You fail to mentionm... Is it a mental disorder depression or a bout with depression. One requires psychological counseling the other is an obstacle in life that 'normal' people eventually get over!
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• United States
10 Feb 13
I haven't been diagnosed with depression so I'm assuming that it is a bout with depression. Just when everything goes wrong I get depressed. I don't feel this way all the time under regular circumstances. I at least hope I'm not going to start feeling this way all the time.
• United States
11 Feb 13
I think you'll be OK. For feeling depressed mood, try to keep occupied and do things you enjoy. From shopping to walking to surfing the vinternet, occupy your mind. One more thing, sometimes depression is due to Seasonal Affective Disorder(SAD). This comes if you live in a cold climate that lacks sunshine. Take Vitamin D and use a sunlamp!
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• United States
14 Feb 13
I will have to do better at taking my vitamins. And I do think that the seasonal affective disorder is bothering me. I really don't like winter and I often feel shut in. In the summer time I don't feel as down.
@suspenseful (40326)
• Canada
7 Feb 13
I have felt depressed about why has not things gone my way or why I never got the chances I have now when I was younger. I look younger than my years, but inside I am still my real age and I have been told, "you have plenty of time." I think aside from the seasonable and or chemical depression, that much of it has to do with 'had I known what I know now, I would have chosen a different path,' and then I would get more depressed if I had done things different, what if the ending was what it is now? I think it is what is known as life. I never went to college, but I used the internet, read a lot, watched a lot of news programs to get the information. For seasonable, get out in the sun. For the rest, you have to work and sometimes it does not seem to make you get ahead. Maybe you could work at home. I have not been that much help, have I?
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• United States
10 Feb 13
yes you have helped. Thanks! I appreciate it. I understand what you mean. I hope to be able to find something to do at home or to be able to go to college in the near future. Until then I will keep at what I'm doing.
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@suspenseful (40326)
• Canada
10 Feb 13
Thank you. I find that sometimes things open up when you least expect them. I know I often despaired about never having gone to college - finances, but now with the internet, I can learn without having to take a bus. Just remember to put money aside for when you have time to go to college or take a night course.
@JamesKYTan (1607)
• Malaysia
7 Feb 13
For those who feel depressed there are support groups or bodies or associations which they can contact and seek for advice. It is anonymous. They don't ask for your names or any details at all. You just have to state your problems and their experts or counsellors will try to help within their abilities. There are community centers you can approach for daycare help.
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• United States
7 Feb 13
Thanks! I will have to look into that. I never thought about community centers but I will have to make a note of that and see what help they offer. Thanks I really appreciate this. I hope that you have a good day at mylot.
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• Malaysia
8 Feb 13
I hope that you can get help from the community center. You may also get help from your local state assemblyman whom you voted to represent your area. Usually they are help as they want your vote. Good bless you.
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@Mavic123456 (7910)
• Thailand
7 Feb 13
I usually sleep. I am relieved after sleeping sometimes depression is due to lack of sleep too. I heard that coffee can shoot up something in the brain to make the depressed person functioning again, Although I heard that this is just padding the real feelings.
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• United States
7 Feb 13
I do agree that sleeping is a good thing to do when we are depressed. Yesterday I felt so down that I had to take a nap or I would have just ended up crying. I will work on getting some more sleep so that hopefully a normal sleep schedule will help me feel better. Thanks for sharing your thoughts. I appreciate it.
• Thailand
7 Feb 13
yes, complete sleep is better although we know that it is really difficult to sleep when you are depressed. You are welcome
@Aja103654 (5663)
• Philippines
7 Feb 13
Yes, last year I had experienced depression. How to get over it is... well, first, one shouldn't panic and just let things flow, because the truth is, things won't always stay bad. If we do something that will improve things then, we are on the right track. Talking to someone about it would be good, maybe someone your husband doesn't know? Some people try talking to strangers about it, it's crazy, but strangers are not biased that may be why people want to share it with a stranger.
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• United States
7 Feb 13
Yeah thanks for that reminder. I need to remember that things will not always stay bad. That even bad things come to an end. Yeah I completely understand why others talk with strangers. You are exactly right it is because they are not biased. When we are surround by people who are biased or who feel they have to take sides then it's hard to really open up to them.
@Aja103654 (5663)
• Philippines
9 Feb 13
Yes, so you may want to give this talking to stranger method a try. Or you can use a journal to write your thoughts on.
• India
14 Feb 13
Thanks for sharing, to be honest each of us feel depressed some times, guess it is part of human life, but if one remains depressed always that is not good at all.You must know what makes you depressed, try to remove that, never take anti depress medicines. HAPPY VALENTINE DAY.
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• United States
14 Feb 13
I agree with you. When we are always depressed it is not a good thing. Thanks for the thoughts on anti depressant medicines. I know that they can have a lot of harmful side effects. I hope that I will be able to feel a lot better about my life soon.
@artemeis (4007)
• China
13 Feb 13
I believe I need to recognize just what is it that is causing me to be depressed and take it from there. For me, it could be the children, some uncompleted chores at home, a family emergency, repairs that doesn't seem to fix problems or some work delays that is affecting the progress of the overall work. So like me, I think you need to find out the root of the problem before you decide on implementing viable solutions to it. We will also need to recognize problems that cannot be fixed within a certain fixed time frame because we will need to slow down and make use of our waiting time to do other things to solve other problems in hand. If the problem is not due to our self inflicting reasons then talking to the concern party would be necessary and could not be ignored or have it any other way. We will need to work on our approach and choice of words if you are sensitive of the other party's feelings. In all, there's no such thing as an unsolvable person but a person who is unable to evolve.
• United States
14 Feb 13
Thanks. I will continue to work on dealing with the root of the problem. I hope that in time things will get better. I hope to keep working on the way that I react to different circumstances I think this will help me feel less stressed.
@bluespygirl (2112)
• Philippines
10 Feb 13
Like you, I can't talk to somethings with my real friends and relatives. I also got to this point where I feel so low and and helpless. I used to be so depressed that I don't want to do anything than sleep. In my subconscious mind, I am thinking that thing will be okay after sleeping. But what I do now is I divert my attention to some other things like reading, doing cross stitch or sometimes, I just drove around the town with my motorcycle. It feels good for me to feel the air wrapping around my body. I feel a little recharged after driving. Almost all people feels the same with you. I wish you well in whatever things you will do. Keep smiling and God Bless.
• United States
14 Feb 13
Thanks I appreciate that. I'm glad to hear that you are able to go for a drive and that helps you to feel better. That is really great. I wish I were able to go for a drive more but with the price of gas it is not a good idea for me to do this. Even though awhile ago it is something that I would have liked to do a lot.
@kokomo (1868)
• Philippines
10 Feb 13
I just leave everything to God if what is my problem and if I feel depress. He is the only one I can lean into. I will just submit all my burden to Him and He will ease the pain. nothing is impossible to God.Problems are existing because he wants us to be challenged and to measure our faith with Him.
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• United States
14 Feb 13
I'm glad to hear that you turn to God and let him help you with your problems. That is a good thing to do. After all he knows what we are going through and how to help us. We do feel a sense of relief when we open up and talk with him about all that we are going through.
@cerebellum (3871)
• United States
8 Feb 13
I feel that way a lot. If one thing gets better, I wait for something else to happen. That is just the way life is sometimes, but when I do get depressed, all I want to do is sleep. Sometimes when I wake up things don't seem as bad!
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• United States
10 Feb 13
Yeah I feel the same way. I like to sleep when I'm feeling down. Most of the time when I get up I feel a little better about my situation or what has happened. Hopefully sometime soon things will start to improve at least in one area. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.
@ladygator (3469)
• United States
7 Feb 13
Good afternoon Dominique25, Yes I sure do have this feeling a lot. Its hard to cope sometimes when things are moving to fast and moving to fast into the wrong direction. When to many things are going on at the same time and things are not getting done properly. I get lost sometimes and just wish everything would just stop and let me catch my breath. Everyone has this happen from time to time, but there are times when it goes on to long and gets to dark. Thats when it might be important to go and talk with someone. And thats perfectly normal and even commendable when you decide to get some help and get yourself into a better state.
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• United States
10 Feb 13
Yeah I agree with you. It is very overwhelming when things continue to go wrong for long stretches of time. It feels as if we are lost. That we are lost in all that is happening and that we don't know how to get things going right again. I really do hope that things will improve for me. I will keep working at it and hope to see things improve.
@sshiva95 (77)
• India
7 Feb 13
I go for long walks or I go cycling. It gives me a feeling of freedom and happiness. Nothing can take that away. Thats my only hope. I always want to believe that I can overcome any obstacle in life
• United States
9 Feb 13
I'm glad to hear that you go for walks. I'm going to start walking inside when I feel stressed. It will do a lot for me emotionally as well as physically. I have videos that I like to exercise to and so I'm going to start doing those when I'm feeling down. I think it will help because at least I will feel like I'm reaching one of my goals.
• Jacksonville, Florida
7 Feb 13
I feel like this a lot too! There are things that I probably should have done before having kids but I did things backwards... Sometimes I wish I did things much different. If I did things differently I would have a career right now and plenty of money to take care of my kids, go on vacations and be able to pay all the bills. Not like the way we are living right now... I only have one friend and I am not close with her like that yet to tell her personal things so I come here when I have something on my mind. It helps a lot! My husband doesn't really get certain things so I don't talk to him about some things... I want to go back to school as well but once we have kids and a husband other things always become more of a priority! I am in the same situation, I want a job too but we have one vehicle and no one to watch the kids all day! I thought about getting a night job but I would not be dependable because I never know when my husband would get home or not. So I cannot tell a job I can be there at this time when my husband gets home at a different time each day... Sometimes life really sucks I know!
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• United States
9 Feb 13
Yes, you understand what I'm going through. I'm so thankful that I'm able to come to mylot as well. I think that I would be a lot more depressed if I were not able to talk with individuals like you at mylot. It has been a great help knowing that I'm not the only one going through circumstances like this. I hope that your daycare business is going well. It would be so great for you to do well at that, because then you are earning a good deal and are able to be with your children also. Sending our child/ren to daycare is so expensive. My husband was shocked when I told him how much it would cost for our daughter to go just part time. And just like your family we only have one vehicle. Which is a real pain when we want to work. I hope that your daycare will allow you to reach your goals.
• Philippines
7 Feb 13
Guess I have been there before, it's the time when every thing never makes sense and I have no one to turn to. So, I got into a blogsite and start writing. It feels great when you write something and you can feel other people's concern on you. I had friends online and I was grateful I've met them 'coz it's in those times that I realize that my problem is not the worst thing a human could bear. Try not to think of your problem too hard. Find ways to distract your attention. Life would smile back if you smile at it. Everything will be fine sooner than you expect it.
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• United States
7 Feb 13
I'm glad to hear that you have started writing. I hope that writing helps you when you get depressed. When things have recently started getting really hard for me I started writing in my journal again. I would like my journal to be more positive things but are life isn't always happy and good times. So I will have to write about the hard times as well. Thanks for your encouraging words I appreciate it.