Things change in new york minute.................
By mariaperalta
@mariaperalta (19073)
Mexico
February 8, 2013 9:06am CST
How things change so fast in life...
Wed. afternoon my dad was given temp. custody of my 14 year old son.
Tomorrow, my son will fly to mexico city, mexico to be with me.
Hours after custody was granted to my dad. My ex started in on my son.
Told him , how wrong he was to do live with my dad.
And that he could now forget he even had a dad.
My son was heart broken.
He called and asked to come home with me.
I have to let him, hes my love and joy.
So we decided to bring him home, keep him out of school till we move back to the usa in july or aug.
I dont like that idea, he needs school.
But he can be here, to help me get ready for the move.
We need to sell things here, give things to churches.
Alot of work for just m.
My son can also work in my cafe, keep it open later than I do.
So we will make extra money here.
I once loved my ex very much, but hes gone mad.
He will see someday, I hope.....
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14 responses
@trisha27 (3494)
• United States
9 Feb 13
Wow that was crazy how your ex is treating your son. That is not even right at all. How about him be wrong with choosing his wife over his son and then requiring that he calls her mom. He's in the wrong completely. Let your son know that in no way it is his fault. One day hopefully I do hope that your ex will learn that what he did was wrong and that he should have never treated his son the way that he did. And he will be missing out a lot on his sons life, just cause now he decides to disown him for the decisions that he has made. He should be happy that his son is capable of making his own choices and just embrace them. Hopefully one day he will come around. Until then enjoy having your son around and helping you out with things and the move. I know he'll be happy just to be back home with you. 
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@FrugalMommy (1438)
• United States
8 Feb 13
Your ex is unbelievable. He chose his new wife over your son, told your son that he's not welcome back if he left to go to your dad's, and now he's pulling this stunt? ¡Que hombrecito!
It's too bad you'll be pulling your son out of school for now but I think being with you will do him good. He really needs you now. Maybe you can talk to his school district and find out what sort of things will be covered in his classes until the end of the school year so he can study on his own. Or see about getting him into online classes. There are a few online schools for kids here that cover the same things traditional schools do. Something like that might help him stay caught up. 
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@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
8 Feb 13
sure is.. wants his new wife over his son. my dad says... the new wife is the one pulling the strings there...
@dawnald (85135)
• Shingle Springs, California
9 Feb 13
That's really awful. I wonder if his new wife put him up to it.
@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
9 Feb 13
Im sure she did, as all changed when they got married and she moved in. When they were dating my son said the dad was great.
@inertia4 (27961)
• United States
8 Feb 13
Let me start this off this way. Remember that old saying, what goes around comes around. And that is very true. He will get it back to him two fold. Don't worry about that. Your son sounds like a great kid and needs his mother. Too bad his father is an @ss. That is good for him to stay with you. And I do agree about school. He does need it. But when you get back to America, and he is with you, then he will get back to school and he will do real good. I am not seeing my kids this weekend because of that blizzard we are having. its hard to get around. Enjoy your son. They do grow up fast.
@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
10 Feb 13
Yes I understand but, in the long run the dad will pay more. I know miguel he can go years like this.....
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@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
8 Feb 13
Yes Steve, I feel so sorry for my son. he was just getting to know his dad again.. and now this.......
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@belindayhughes (1096)
• United States
10 Feb 13
Hi maria, yes, things can change in an instant where divorce and parenting are concerned. I'm so sorry your son is hurting. I pray for the day that your ex and other dads realize the truth, that making their children's health and happiness their top priority, and being agreeable and generous with the mothers, will make their own lives much healthier and happier all around. You can't go wrong with the basic truth of "Love one another."
@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
10 Feb 13
I hope so, maybe once I get back to them there.. things will change. We never know.....
@extremefun4fun (2908)
• India
9 Feb 13
Happy that you have your son with you, and wish you to have a much happier and better life as you wish.
@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
9 Feb 13
Yes he will be here today, I cant wait to see him here. Been 5-6 months. Take care there.
@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
14 Feb 13
What a wonderful window of opportunity that has opened up for not just your son but for you also, it is weird how things change, good or bad I believe that things happen for a purpose, we may not realize at the time that the change is beneficial for us, but when we look back over our life we realize that it was the best way forward.
@GardenGerty (157627)
• United States
9 Feb 13
There are lots of options for online schooling here, I do not know about in Mexico. Your son is definitely getting an education about parenting. He will also learn practical things about life by helping in the cafe. It will be applied math and customer relations and probably a lot of other things as well.
@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
9 Feb 13
I agree. boy guy has had to grow up to early. Its 835am here. He arrives at 5pm. Cant wait...
@Kashmeresmycat (6369)
• United States
8 Feb 13
You can't pretend to be a dad one day and the next day decide not to. I feel sorry for your son, but I'm glad he's home with you. Could you not put him in school in Mexico for a few months?
@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
8 Feb 13
your right, Ive never seen my boy so much of a mess in all his life. hes so hurt. He loves my dad, but doesnt want to be close to his dad now. And his dad calls, and goes to his school, and soccer games.
@wilsongoddard (7291)
• United States
8 Feb 13
He really isn't going to miss much of anything by not being in school for a few months. He will be getting work experience at the cafe, learning about the practicalities surrounding a major move, interacting with people in a culture different than the one in which he's been living... He likely will be absorbing more from these experiences than he would during those few months in school.
It is going to be a lot to have him moving there and, then, the two of you moving back to the U.S. in a few months. It will be a lot for him to process. However, he will have his mother by his side, and that is what he very much wants.
@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
8 Feb 13
your right, and with us moving later this year, sure could use the help here. I surely cant do it all myself..
@LovingMyBabies (85127)
• Valdosta, Georgia
8 Feb 13
Your ex is something else that is for sure. I am so glad that your son will be with you though, I know how much you have missed him! I think your ex has karma coming to him. He is a terrible father. Your son is much better off without him anyway!
@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
8 Feb 13
I know, how do you choose anew wife over your own son? And my son is the type when he says he wont talk to his dad again.. I believe him. How are you these days???
@ARIES1973 (11426)
• Legaspi, Philippines
8 Feb 13
Hi maria!
Just let go. I'm sure much better things await ahead of you.
@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
9 Feb 13
I think your right, we must move on.. Have a great weekend there. Love ya dear....
@teotimoponcerosacena (1552)
• Philippines
8 Feb 13
In a wink of an eye life changes, It is one reason why we must always be prepared of what happen next. Just prepare yourself anyway by the trials you've undergone you are a little bit stronger by now.
@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
8 Feb 13
your right, I thank my dad... for buying him a ticket from las egas to mexico city. its over 1000.00 I sure could not have paid for one. Love you daddy.
