How Am I (SPECIAL CASE) Supposed to Ask for Marriage?

I suspect it's just life being a pain in the butt. :)

Haha! Pain in the butt it is. What i dont like about it is that when you know that love comes when you're not looking, you're kind of expecting at as well. So its somewhat looking too.

That's true about finding someone when you're not looking. It even works for women too. Apparently, guys like the confident independent woman who looks like she doesn't need a man to be happy. But then it only works if you are 100% not looking/not expecting for love. I have no idea why that happens.

I don't have that kind of money either!

Money for online dating? I thought that was free. Haha

The only online-dating that's FREE is ... social sites like this, Xomba, Friendster, Facebook---like in real life: you just go there & do 'what you do' and the opposite-gender gets to know you by hanging out with you 'doing what you do'

Thank you for the Amazing Grace

You are welcome. What are friends for? No she won't! True love Has Nothing to do with money! The right woman for you will see And Love you. You two may not have money but you will have each other. you will be rich in love. And that's what matters, right?

But if a woman CAN'T see me as a pocketbook, she's bound to see me as a DRAIN on her own pocketbook. (Oh, my love is a very-satisfying reward; but it doesn't figure into any MONETARY balance!)

Firstly I do know how to break up my sentences into more easy to read sentences. I just choose not to due to laziness and the fact that I am the mom of a 2 year old and am too tired to care when I write these things. I will however humor you to make it easier for you to read. I'm not giving attitude just saying it is something I know how to do. I get the word sprawled. I am lucky in the fact where I live I can walk across town when needed. Of course it's still takes an hour or two to get there but I can do it if needed. Those are some good ideas. You're on the right track. I think we are all capable of more than we give ourselves credit for. Just remember don't sell yourself short. Just because you can't give some things the average guy can give doesn't mean you have nothing to offer. Not all women want the average guy. Some women just want a decent guy and will accept a man just the way he is car or no car. They can work around that no matter the circumstances. If you love someone enough you figure out ways to make it work no matter how much work it may take. Sometimes the extra effort is worth it to be with someone. I get that you say it's a pain to get around and takes forever without a car. I'm just saying that sometimes the hassle is worth it for what you get in the long run. When I first met my BF he lived in a town about 45 minutes away from me and neither of us had a car. I had a really good best friend that would go get him for me. Then we would spend weekends together. We worked around it. Luckily now we both live together in our own apartment. So don't give up hope it will happen eventually if you just keep at it.

You ought to break up your paragraph into more easy-to-swallow bites (double-returning every 1-to-6 lines of text) ... I'll show you: "I saw someone mention online dating. You don't have to spend money on it. There are a few sites that have free online dating sites. I met my boyfriend through a free online dating site. It's called plentyoffish.com. I am sure there are other free ones out there too you just have to look. I think there is jumpdates and casualkiss too. I tried a few before I found my boyfriend. As for the whole car thing it's something a lot of women can look past. I think the first thing you need to do is have a little more confidence. Some women are really about material things, but not all of them are. My boyfriend does have a job (minimum wage and child support is being taken out) but he doesn't drive because we can't afford a car and he doesn't have a HS diploma. I mean needless to say he may not be a lot of women's pick because he can't offer as much, but he offers more than what people may think. He is my best friend it's the fact that he is willing to listen to me and treat me right. He is smart, caring, loyal, sensitive, makes me laugh, and would do anything for me. That's what women should be looking for what you can give to a relationship not your income or what you can give them materialistically. I mean sure it helps to be more driven and have an idea where you want your life to go. That doesn't mean you have to have a high paying income or a car. It just means create goals from things you can do. Figure out that and go from there. Have more confidence in yourself, don't sell yourself short and don't be in such a rush for marriage. Best place to start is as friends and take it slowly from there. You need to build a foundation before you jump into something as serious as marriage. Good Luck! Hope you can find someone great!" My goal is to stay right here, doing what I'm doing now ... of course, getting more recognition for that would be good---being sought-after like an ancient guru on top of a mountain (by the little part of EVERYONE who wants to be the able-bodied person who seeks the wisdom. The problem is 'where RIGHT HERE is'---in the middle of a SPRAWLED city: think a population like New York City, spread out to four-or-five times the area. Going practically-'anywhere' here, you either need a car, cab-fare or WAY more time than it's worth! And--to be within walking-distance of 'necessities' (the bank, the grocery-store, a few restaraunts &--originally (on a plan that didn't pan out)--the university)--I had to move to a neighborhood that isn't very neighborly. Maybe THAT'S where I should start---gathering the neighbors around a free show (with maybe everybody bringing free snacks to share), and forging sort of a neighborhood clique or something! But that would require getting dressed (after taking a shower ) and being somewhere ... And then there's the whole 'putting on a show'; well, the university I'm near HAS a music/drama/arts school (I was there for ... the original plan was music, but my brain-injury made me settle for entertainment-business, switching to English Composition & economics just before I dropped-out), & I'm SURE some students wouldn't mind 'playing for tips.' I feel like 'Doric of York' (the Medieval barber played by Steve Martin, back when Saturday Night Live was good): imagining all these wonderful things I could do ("using the Scientific Method, I could bring improvements to medicine as well as other things: the arts, music, astronomy, government ... twould be a veritable rebirth, a Renaissance! where new ideas find fertile ground, germinate, blossom & grow, bearing fuller & fuller fruits of ... NAHHHHHHHHH!") Still, we gotta start somewhere ... maybe I'll make myLot-flyers to put up around the university next time I'm passing-by on my way to SONIC Drive-In or BUY FOR LE$$

The car-thing: in Oklahoma City, it IS essential. If you were here, you would see what I mean by SPRAWL. And it's not like I'm any girl's ONLY choice, when it would be unfortunate-but-livable; every girl has the choice of either 'unfortunate-but-livable' with me or 'highly comfortable' with ANYBODY ELSE

Sorry to butt in, but if ever i were a woman in your area, i wouldn't date you because you don't have a car. I wouldn't date you because your self-esteem is damaged. In my life, I've known better to not want screwed up men.

I meant, I'd still date people without cars. So far, I've never even had a boyfriend who owned a car.

Right On!

Yeah, but I still get impatient!