He Is Angry With Me...How Can I....

@Dassodils (2013)
India
February 11, 2013 7:03am CST
Dear friends.. I have a lover.I can't say him that just a lover.But my soul.he is the only person touches my heart in every problems.His mom and every family members know about our relationship.His mom don't like to hear anything about me.She will be speechless while hearing my name. But before some time while chatting he said that his aunties want to talk with me through phone.But my family is very strict.They don't know about this relationship.My mom will always be with me.And he said me to attend the call.But I was not able to do that.I described him the situation.But he scolded me.and said that every time I find some excuses to say no.I feel loneliness now.And don't know what to do.He is angry with me.Usually, after quarrel he will be normal after sometime.he thought that I don't like to speck with his relatives.He misunderstand me and went.He said that see you at night.That is the only thing that I feel little good.Will you please help me to make him as old??do you had such experiences?? I really worry about thinking that..Thanks
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@sizzle3000 (3040)
• United States
12 Feb 13
My daughter actually went through this. She had told me and her father about getting married to her now husband but he had yet to even tell his mom that they were dating. It's a hard place to be but sooner or later people have to be told. If you don't then what's the point in having a relationship?
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@Dassodils (2013)
• India
12 Feb 13
Yes..I know that.I have the courage to introduce him to my parents and face the problems.But here,the situation is changed.My mom is always stands with me.Then how can I talk to his aunts??
@Aja103654 (5658)
• Philippines
12 Feb 13
It's just a misunderstanding. Clear it up and talk to him about it, everything should be fine. he was quick to make assumptions to, so he is also at fault.
@Dassodils (2013)
• India
12 Feb 13
tomorrow we arranged a meeting to solve all these things..And I hope that all things will be get solved by tomorrow's meeting.he will be very angry,at any time,If he see me,Then he will be very happy and forgot everything.I think that the quarreling is because of no time to see him every time that he is in leave at home.Thank you
@Aja103654 (5658)
• Philippines
16 Feb 13
Maybe he is just upset he didn't see you and got upset. I assume you are both alright now?
@Ishaa13 (20)
11 Feb 13
All that I could sum up after reading this post is that he must be a dominating kind of person. He is not even understanding that you are with your mother at that time, then how come he will understand you. Understanding is the base of any relationship. If its not there, any relation can crash, sooner or later.
@Dassodils (2013)
• India
12 Feb 13
Oh..What to do..Now he realized and apologized.and he said that he was angry because I said suddenly no to his suggestion.That is why he got so angry on me.And also said that do not say no to every one in every matters.That is not a good habbit.I thought..Then I also felt that he is right.Thank you..
@Dassodils (2013)
• India
12 Feb 13
Yaa..After this incident he called me and apologized for that.And described the reason behind that.He got angry at the time that I suddenly said no to that.When I heard that I know that it is not easy to do that.That is why I said no.But he says that I am always saying no to everything.And that is not a good habbit.I have to change that.So he got angry on me on that time.After that he said these all things to me.I thought on that time and realized that he is right.I promise to him that I will not repeat it in future.Thank you..
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
12 Feb 13
What is the reason that your mother will not accept the relationship that you have with this man? I feel like if you are able to get to the bottom of that then you will be able to have a more positive relationship with your partner. When it does come to the relationships that we have in our lives, I do believe that it is important that we are able to talk with the family of our partners and that we are able to have a positive relationship with them because this is something that will ultimately make your relationship with your partner a stronger relationship.
@Dassodils (2013)
• India
13 Feb 13
yes..I know that I have to do it quickly.Otherwise the things will go wrong.Now I am getting preparations to face such all things..Thanks
• Philippines
12 Feb 13
Don't get offended Dassodils but I think he's disrespectful both to you and your family. I'm not going to suggest that you make peace with him. You should set things straight first. If he's really important to you then make him meet your parents no matter how strict they are. Parents will always be like that because they just want what's good for you. He should be man enough to face them and tell the truth about your relationship. With regards to him scolding you, I think he shouldn't be that demanding when he hasn't faced your parents yet. Men like that in my past relationships didn't last long because there was no respect.
@Dassodils (2013)
• India
12 Feb 13
Ya..but he is now in a smooth behaviour. But sometimes he will be very angry when I am not obeying him.That will make him very angry.But in other times,He is really loving,caring me as a baby..Thanks friend..
@lsjapdoit (652)
• Indonesia
12 Feb 13
Things like that happen in a relationship Dassodils, and there will always be many more to come. Only serious couple can go through them well together till deaths do them apart, so to speak :)
@Dassodils (2013)
• India
12 Feb 13
I face it well.But when he says such angry words,I can't to accept that the truth that I am a human and have to face problems in life.yesterday when we talked about this he said that we are human beings so,we have to face every thing like,happiness,sadness etc.Don't get upset to face them.Thankss..
@jazel_juan (15767)
• Philippines
12 Feb 13
i believe one solution to this is to open more channel of communication and probably about the right time to tell your parents.. maybe talk to your lover first, tell him to wait and talk to your parents, hopefully they will accept. THen bring him over with his mom or aunts..that way things are clear and no more misunderstandings,
@Dassodils (2013)
• India
12 Feb 13
I also want to do that as soon as I can.But now he is studying,If I am introducing him now,My family will not allow this and surely try to get another proposals which I am refusing daily.If it happens,that is really risk.I have to take some risk and try to go with him with out thinking other things.That is why I keep silence..Thanks dear friend..
@512771751 (1096)
• China
12 Feb 13
Oh, it is bad. You both should sit down clamly and talk with each other deeply. Love is the thing that consider two persons, but marriage is the thing that consider two families. Good luck.
@Dassodils (2013)
• India
12 Feb 13
Thank you...I have to talk with him always in a calm manner.If he is angry,his behaviour will be changed.I will be very sad by seeing him on that time..
• Jacksonville, Florida
12 Feb 13
I personally don't think he should be scolding you and he should be more understanding of your situation. He should be your partner, not your parent! That to me raises some flags if he is already scolding you. Men are NOT higher or better than women!! And they should be treated equally...
@Dassodils (2013)
• India
12 Feb 13
he says that I am a fool in some times.And when we are in good time,we will be loving each other at it's maximum.But his nature is like that.if he is in a good mood he will kill me by love.Otherwise he will scold me and hurts me..Thank you...
• India
12 Feb 13
i think you have to make some time to talk with his aunties . i would be batter for you future .. it may be possible that his aunties like you. and i most important thing , if you love him so much and he also , and your love is true , then say to your mom and dad don't fear . if you are right then your parent always with you. every parent , mom and dad want batter for their children ..
@Dassodils (2013)
• India
12 Feb 13
That is the problem.They will not agree with this if they know that we are in love. They hate love.But I can't live with an other person.With out knowing his character and tastes..Thanks
@enelym001 (8333)
• Philippines
11 Feb 13
What I thought about this is that... Since in your culture it is a little different. He must be kind enough to understand that it is not that easy to just simply tell your parents or relatives about your relationship with him. There will be right timing for everything. Maybe you tell it slowly to your mom. Make her understand about love relationship. But if he insist that you tell it to your parents. Then think about it. TEll him about the consequences. If you both force to tell them and that they did not approve of it then he must accept it. Otherwise, wait and maybe things will turn out better and wished that both families will support both of you.
@WakeUpKitty (8707)
• Netherlands
11 Feb 13
So... he scolds at you because you are not able to speak to his aunts? Well this proves already what kind of person he is. No respect for you or the rules of your parents. It will stay that way, even get worser if you stay together, since this is the kind of man who places himself in the centre of all attention. You will have to do exactly what he likes/wants. If not you are a... I wonder what is good about meeting someone who scolds at you! I would not let myself force to talk to family... some men ask me the same, that is a sign to me they want to prove to their family we are more as just friends. So I refuse. The do get the message but never scold at me. They know if they would only try to do so they won't hear from me anymore or meet me ever again.
@Dassodils (2013)
• India
12 Feb 13
He is a nice man.and we love each other.But sometimes, he will be very angry.and will not think or remember about our relationship and just speaks like hating me..It hurts me so much..
@andy77e (5165)
• United States
17 Feb 13
You need to leave him. His parents do not like you. Apparently your parents are not informed, which makes me think they do not know. If you stay with him, you will be miserable. Stop hurting yourself. Leave him.
@SHAMRACK (8384)
• India
14 Feb 13
Dear friend, If you are serious in this relationship, anyhow you have to tell or make your family know about your relationship if you both want to marry. On the otherside may your lover could have made his parents convinced and talke the matter to your parents if you both want the family support to go further with your relationship. If you are in appropriate age get married. Anyhow I hope u both might have decided to get married.
@jenny1015 (13390)
• Philippines
13 Feb 13
I think that he should have understood you more. He knows that your mother is not in favor if you and yet you keep quiet about it. You didn't argue with him with that kind of behavior, right? And he also knows that your mother doesn't know about your relationship, so why would he be making such a big deal out if it? If he would be treating you unfairly, I think that you should not stay in a relationship wherein the guy always wants to get his ways. and does not understand you. Look for a person that will respect you and love you always.
@celticeagle (117257)
• Boise, Idaho
13 Feb 13
You have a right to your own feelings. If he doesnt believe in you and understand then that is cause for real concern. You either go by what he says and feels or you do what you feel is best. Good communication is very important. If you don't have that then you don't have much of a relationship.