What to do with my engagement ring??

South Korea
February 14, 2013 3:47am CST
I was engaged with my first boyfriend seven years ago...but had to decide between him and to the ONE I thought was the decision I made.... he's already married and one child.... we're still friends...but I don't know what to do with the engagement ring that he gave me...he bought it in New York...his family wanted the ring back when I broke up with him...but he told me that it's mine and I can do anything I want with it....I don't know the price but I know that it costs a lot... I wanted to sell it, is it the right thing to do???? What will you do if you were in my shoe????but I also wanted to give it back to him..
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8 responses
• Philippines
18 Feb 13
Since you wanted to return it and yet he still insisted not to... well... you should keep it,, well in fact it is your ex boy friend who said that you can do anything you want with it =) If I were you, I will keep it,,, still it has a sentimental value anyway.. BUT on the contrary,,, if your practical better wise sell it... You can use the money for your own good too =0
• South Korea
18 Feb 13
h aha!! then find me a buyer ..... do you know someone??? lol
@yrallih (147)
15 Feb 13
I think you should sell it because it doesn't count anymore and besides you could use the money for something better. Some guys do not really like getting back things that they gave to their ex girlfriends and though you insist in returning it, he already made a decision not to accept.
• South Korea
18 Feb 13
ha ha! ok,,, can you find me a buyer???????? ;-)
@cutepenguin (6458)
• Canada
15 Feb 13
Well, he bought it, so it's not like it's a family heirloom. If he said it was yours to do with as you wish, then you can take it to a jeweller and have it appraised and see what price you can get for it.
• South Korea
19 Feb 13
I want to but my conscince would tell me to gve it back,,thanks anyway!
@redredrose (1107)
• United States
14 Feb 13
You could sell it yes. Tho i think giving it back is better because then you never have to think of him again or see him again. Why do you want the money from it anyway when it will just remind you of him and money doesn't mean much when you are single and bu yourself. So would just give it back you don't need it anyway. yes the money would be nice to have but what woudl you spend it on and would you be happy with it?
• South Korea
15 Feb 13
you have a point dear, and maybe I won't be able to sleep at night if I sell it ;-)....so giving it back to him I think is the right thing to do Thanks!
@owlwings (38419)
• Cambridge, England
14 Feb 13
He already told you that it's yours to do what you want with. It wouldn't solve anything very much to give it back to him now and would probably cause embarrassment to him and his wife and family. The best thing to do would be to take it to a reputable jeweller to have it valued and then to decide whether to sell it or not. Be aware that there will be two valuation figures: one for insurance purposes (the retail/replacement value) and the price that the jeweller would expect to pay for it (which will probably be half or less than half of the insurance valuation).
• South Korea
15 Feb 13
Thanks dear! but I think I would rather give it back to him....
• India
14 Feb 13
When there is no engagement left between him and you then what's the purpose of that ring to you so I think you should give it back to that person. No its not the right thing to sell that ring because it doesn't belong to you now. It's the thing that you have to understand because he will never say you to give it back.
• South Korea
15 Feb 13
yeah! because that's what my conscince would tell me,,,so I'm just waiting for a chance to meet him so I can give it back to him...Thanks!
@tyleremy (170)
• China
14 Feb 13
give it back to him. it means nothing but a lot of money to u.if u are planing to spend money on just yourself,, then I think its fine
• South Korea
15 Feb 13
I even told him aout it but of course I won't do it!! my conscience would tell me not to sell it...so when there's a chance I would give it back..thanks,,dear!
@youless (87603)
• Guangzhou, China
1 Mar 13
I think this engagement ring belongs you and you have the rights to deal with it as you wish. Even if you already broke up with him, but it doesn't mean that you have to return this engagement ring. It is a kind of your memory. It is alright to keep it or sell it. Nobody should bother you in this matter.