I love him so much, how can I stay without him

@gary23 (425)
India
February 24, 2013 9:46am CST
I am in a relationship since 10 years. He is a great person and has supported me always. I fight with him often though over trivial matters. I am moving to a different place for my job within a week. One thing I am sure that I won't be able to meet him for the next 3 months. I am so attached to him. He has never spent a weekend without me. But he still agreed to my decision. I really admire him for his support.How would we manage? Its difficult. And I feel soooo sad leaving him here.I will miss him
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@kimte20 (89)
• Philippines
24 Feb 13
My husband and i are were not living together since im am working abroad.. Just keep the communication.. Skype ;) and you will never feel the feeling of being far away from him... He supports you because he trust you so much so marry him :)
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@gary23 (425)
• India
24 Feb 13
Yeah we have also decided to communicate through skype. And I will marry him . I just want to be financially independent first.
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@lelin1123 (15645)
• Puerto Rico
24 Feb 13
If its only for three months you can do it. After all you have been together for 10 years. Its not like its a new relationship. Just think about the reason for doing what you are doing and keep that in the forefront of your decision. Then while separated you can call or skype. Three months goes faster then you think. Will he be joining you in three months? Or are you moving for good and continuing with a distant relationship? If that is the case then that could be a bit scary. My hubby and I were together for nineteen years. I decided I wanted to move to New Mexico be near my granddaughter. So we sold the house and my hubby moved to Puerto Rico. We were not together for two years when I went to visit him in PR for vacation. I then left and went back to New Mexico, put my house up for sale and moved to PR. We have been together for almost 25 years. It was hard through the separation but it worked for us and made us stronger. Good luck at your new job and hope things work out with you and your guy.
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24 Feb 13
that's really sad can relate to that, open communications should always takes place whenever there's free time, keep yourself busy you may also write him a letter for a change or text him always and Skype.. the good thing about long distance relationship your relationship is always tested and also great foundation for strong hold relationship for both parties
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@elsino91 (443)
• Poland
24 Feb 13
Keep yourself occupied whenever you can. If you're focused on work then you're not thinking about what you're missing. It will put any sad feelings at bay. I don't mean to try and forget about him but just try to focus on the things that are around you more, it will benefit you both.
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@maximax8 (27049)
24 Feb 13
These days we have internet for emails and mobile phones for text messages. Absence makes the heart grow fonder. I am delighted that he gives you support and fully understands your work situation. You could exchange some photos of each other to look at longingly whilst you are away. Maybe text a few times a day and email each other evening day after work. Good luck.
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@Hatley (152091)
• Garden Grove, California
24 Feb 13
hi gary that is ouchy I do not think I could have held up well if my hubby had to go to different state to work let alone a country. thats so hard but of course the technology now will let you keep in touch a lot easier than when I was married.Do you have to move or is it because of the place where you work? Could not you find a good job where you live now?It great that he is supporting you in this and maybe it will work out if you both really really trust each other , Trust is such an im ortant p art of any relationship I do wish you both all the bvest
@gary23 (425)
• India
2 Mar 13
The job offer is really good and none of us want to lose it
@Raine38 (8909)
• United States
24 Feb 13
Oh gary, it will only be for 3 months. I am sure that you guys both trust each other for your relationship to withstand the test of time. Look at this as another test, or just another opportunity to creatively show your love for each other over the distance. Besides, technology is very helpful in connecting people separated by the distance. Fot the mean time, spend the remaining days that you have together in a very memorable way. Give him something that he will remember you while you are far from each other. Maintain constant communication. And while you are at your new place of work, try to learn everything that you can from that place. Meet new people that can help your growth. Enjoy life. And look forward that when that is over, you will be coming home to your beloved.
@gary23 (425)
• India
24 Feb 13
Thank you . You have increased my confidence in going to a new place.
• Philippines
24 Feb 13
hi gary, Long Distance Relationship is not easy really but if you love each other no need to see everyday as long as you both trust each other just think that you need to be part away in awhile to have a better future. happy mylotting
@jagjit273 (1740)
• India
24 Feb 13
Your relationship have reached a stage dear, where there is lot of understanding between you people. In today' era of pocket internet, you can be in touch with him every single moment even if you are far away Don't break that touch and communication. Thats the key to your trust and communication. HAPPY MY LOTTING.
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@dorannmwin (36608)
• United States
6 Mar 13
I know what you mean about really getting attached to the person that you are in a relationship with. For me, in the 11 years that my husband and I have been together, there have been only a very few times that the two of us have not been together at night and I cannot begin to imagine what it would be like if we were apart. The thing that I really have to wonder about is which one is more important to you, is it your relationship or is it this opportunity to work away from where you've been living. If you decide that the relationship is more important to you, then I would suggest turning the job down and looking for a job in the area where you and your partner already live.
@Aja103654 (5663)
• Philippines
2 Mar 13
Keep your mind off missing him. Preoccupy yourself with task and other things so that the next 3 months.
@jenny1015 (13394)
• Philippines
27 Feb 13
I am sure that anybody who is in a relationship would feel that sad and maybe in doubt if ever you are going to make it without him constantly by your side. But take this as a challenge. Distance should never be a reason for a relationship not to work out. Have strong faith in your relationship. Trust is the number one key in this kind of situation.
@trisha27 (3505)
• United States
26 Feb 13
It could work, just always keep in touch you know. If it is just for 3 months. Make sure to call and stuff like that. It is hard to be in a long distance relationship, but if you work at it, then it could definitely work out.
• Philippines
25 Feb 13
There are already a lot of ways for you to stay connected even if you are miles apart with your boyfriend. There is facebook, there is skype, there are a lot of forms for you to see and talk often. I know a lot of friends who were able to maintain a strong relationship with their boyfriend even if they are living in two different countries. If you really love each other, you do not have to worry. If you miss him, just check his pictures and videos. I know you will get along after some time. Have some courage.
@jricky1 (6809)
• China
25 Feb 13
Love is really complicated since two people make sure the relationships.Two people gonna fight when meeting together while missing the other one when fall apart.So just listen to your heart and see whether you still want to be together with the guy.Good luck to you.
@machatago (385)
• Philippines
25 Feb 13
At first you will absolutely miss him so much since long distance relationship is pretty difficult to begin with. But with the gadgets, you can call him, text him and chat to him when the both of you have time. Also just do your job diligently and you will get through this. I'm sure he will be waiting for you at home, 3 months is pretty short time, since most people working abroad take up to 3 years before that person gets back. So just have faith in your relationship and you will get through with it.
@LoKoMoMe (511)
• Belize
25 Feb 13
even its hard you have to try for the sake of you relationship.. it is good that sometimes you experience that moment so that you prepared for what happen in your relationship for the future.
• South Korea
25 Feb 13
sad to hear that! But anyway! let's be thankful to the fast growing technologies, so maybe you communicate through skuype, ym, fb,,,, there are lots of them.... it may be difficult at first and understand how you feel about leaving him... but you'll be able to overcome it later,,, goodluck!
@miketagz (645)
• Philippines
25 Feb 13
This will be a great tough challenge as a long distance relationship, although he is sacrificing and working hard to earn money. You must send messages for him and he will be happy to reply back for you... Then when the time comes, he will visit for you and treat for vacation. Patience is needed...
@pomwango (1355)
• Kenya
25 Feb 13
10 years is a long time and i think you guys need to move to the next level of your relation so that you can decide about such decisions collectively.if you are moving away is he ready to go with you,how will you guys keep o with the relation, there is so much you guys need to agree on and move to.
• China
25 Feb 13
Just one week so I think that is OK totally,you know what?I have some friends have long distance relationship more than 2 years but they still work out pretty good,so I think if you two really love each other deeply then the long distance and time will not stop you.