I'm just cheap

@911Ricki (13602)
Canada
February 25, 2013 10:20am CST
A girl I went to high school with is having a kid, to be honest I want to spend the least amount of money possible. She invited me to her baby shower, I am hoping I have to work. I hate kids, and I know half the people that go have screaming whining little brats. But I thought I would give her a gift anyways, it's not until July. I am emailed a few companies and getting some coupons for free products, and will go to the dollar store buy so covers, bibs, and things like that. I was telling my friend this, and she goes don't be cheap, you wouldn't expect this cheap things. Well one I don't plan on having kids , two I wouldn't expect anything at all. I believe you have a kid, you pay for the kid not expect people to buy you it all. I know some who have registers and have the nerve to ask for a $1,000 crib, or $100 sleepers. I had that with a few cousins, and I just laughted and never went.
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@blackrusty (3530)
• Mexico
25 Feb 13
well it is not the amount that your spend its the gift from the heart that counts I think it was wrong of the person to say dont be cheap and well if someone puts down they want a 1000 dollar crib sorry wont every find that in my budget I dont even have that kid of money to spend of my self as for going to the party just tell them you cant go you dont have to give a reason if you wish not too
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@911Ricki (13602)
• Canada
25 Feb 13
I said the same thing it's about the thought. I can see asking the immediate family to throw in for a crib, or something. But not asking people you haven't seen in years.
• Mexico
25 Feb 13
I cant even begin to think even why she would go that route from people you have not seen in years i wonder that she was thinking about when she did that and why she would do that
• United States
25 Feb 13
More guests=more stuff?
@FrugalMommy (1447)
• United States
25 Feb 13
I think baby showers tend to be a sort of "pay it forward" type thing. Your friend has a baby and you give her a gift, then when it's your turn having one she gives you something. At least, that's the way my friends and I have approached it. Honestly, it sounds like you're more of an acquaintance with this girl than a close friend. If that's how it is, I'd wonder why she's inviting you. When I had mine, it was only my close friends. Oh, well... to each her own. It's nice that you want to get her a gift even if you don't go to the shower. I don't think it's being cheap at all. You have your budget and you need to stick to it. You're being practical. And really... the big things are nice, but she's going to use things like bibs just about every day. The best things I received at my shower were a couple packs of diapers and some toiletries. My daughter didn't even wear most of the clothes because everybody bought newborn stuff and she was too big for them when she was born.
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@911Ricki (13602)
• Canada
25 Feb 13
I was really good friends with her in high school, very close. After high school I moved away to college, and well her mindset is stuck at that age frame. She then moved north for about 4 or 5 years. But she still acts like a 15 year old, can't hold a job, and we are didn't aspects of our lives. She depends on a man, moves place to place, wants to go out partying, or pplaying video games. I have always worked, and working to buy a place. I bumped into her at Walmart and I couldn't believe she was the same girl, acting like she was. I emailed Johnson and Johnson getting a free baby pack which includes like shampoo, and such for babies, then may grab something special and small.
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@SomeCowgirl (32270)
• United States
25 Feb 13
I come from a family of hand me downs and arounds, and a cheap gift is still a gift, it shows you thought of them enough. I don't understand those who spend so much money, expensive items for things that won't last.
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@911Ricki (13602)
• Canada
25 Feb 13
I was the same, always hand me downs. I use to get made fun of for wearing my brothers batman pajamas. Many people now a days, expect everything, and it to be perfect. Plus, still get their luxuries. I see this with my cousins, yet they go further in debt.
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@Anne18 (11036)
25 Feb 13
I agree with all the replies on here, you are not cheap, just be careful and a gift is a gift no matter what the price. I always used ot take an undear gift to weddings with me, in fact I always used ot choose the cheapest gift in the catolgue. You shouls never go into debt for a gift.
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@Outcast (633)
• United States
25 Feb 13
That isn't being cheap. That is being good. I was happy with whatever anybody decided to give to me for my kids. She ought to be happy that she is given anything for the baby. The way things are today she needs to be happy that people are thinking of the baby and her that they are spending their hard earned money on gifts. She dont need to be selfish.
@MissBlack (357)
• United States
25 Feb 13
I call it being cost effective. Why can't people just be happy for the gift and call it a day. People who go and make those registries with all that expensive crap that they really don't need should be ashamed of themselves. I was never a fan of baby showers and all that crap anyway. To me, it says I got pregnant so buy me stuff and I'll sit and eat cake. For situations like that, you did exactly what a sensible person is supposed to do. Find something cost effective, bag it up, slap a ribbon on it, and be done with it.
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@mariaperalta (19094)
• Mexico
25 Feb 13
Thats not being cheap.. She wont know where you got them from. Id put all that stuff in a plastic bucket or basket. Would look really good.
@911Ricki (13602)
• Canada
25 Feb 13
I was thinking that in a bucket, or basket. I know people wouldn't go out spending all this money on me, or care how much I spent if I went over my budget and couldn't pay my bills.
• Mexico
25 Feb 13
I understand that, you can also go to hospitals sometimes they give out great sample bags. Maybe they would give you one. Worth a try.
• United States
25 Feb 13
I think you have to be the one who's expecting and pretty close to your due date to get the samples. It's been about three years since I had my daughter but I think at the time there were a couple of formula companies that would send you a voucher for a bag of samples. You had to take the voucher to the hospital with you to get the bag, or something like that. I thought it was too much of a hassle and didn't bother.
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@kourdapya (926)
• Philippines
26 Feb 13
Does it matter if it's cheap or not if the baby will use it anyway? I think the mother have no right to demand because it's a free gift. If that's what someone can afford, the she just have to be thankful for the present. It's not obligatory, if I'm not mistaken.
@911Ricki (13602)
• Canada
26 Feb 13
I feel the same way, sadly people now a days expect the world for free.
@BarBaraPrz (20794)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
25 Feb 13
I hear ya. If it was me, I'd just give a pack of Huggies...
@911Ricki (13602)
• Canada
25 Feb 13
They are ridiculous price $30 - $80 a pack, plus if the kid comes out small or big, have to guess the size basically. I emailed Johnson and Johnson and getting a free baby pack it comes with shampoo, and such for the baby, then I was thinking of buying something small then.
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@maximax8 (28558)
• United Kingdom
8 Mar 13
You could buy a sweet looking basket and put a ribbon around it in pretty bow. Then you could add some cheap baby stuff you can get in the dollar store. A newborn sleep suit, set of bibs or a baby's blanket would make the ideal baby shower gift. I don't think that would seem cheap.
@vernaC (1493)
• Romania
28 Feb 13
What the heck, it's a gift why ask for amount? But since you are friends I guess she's just kidding around. You are a very practical person so if you think again for products that the baby can use for a longer time. If I were your friend, I'd appreciate it so much for giving me those feeding bottles, at least I won't be spending on little things.
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
27 Feb 13
I don't think that you are being cheap at all. In fact, I think that you are being very economical about the gift that you are going to be giving to this girl. I know that when I had my baby shower before my son was born, the gift that I really appreciated the most was probably one of the gifts that cost the least. It was a diaper cake that my son's godmother made for us. The diapers of course came in very handy and the little onesies and stuff that she included on the cake definitely went to great use as well.
@cher913 (25890)
• Canada
26 Feb 13
i am always on the lookout for sales for presents like that. the church that i go to always has baby showers for people that belong to the church and some i don't really know that well or really don't want to spend a lot of money on. for the last baby shower, i bought a scrapbooking kit that was on sale with the book and everything. it was geared towards a baby theme and i think i only paid around $8 for it. i made a really nice card to go with it and that was my gift. i just don't have a whole lot of money to spend on people i don't know well and honestly, it seems like you don't know this girl that well either so i think that going to dollarama is ok because sometimes you can get really great stuff there. i just got a fiskars paper punch there for $3! (i can imagine that people will buy them and try to sell them on ebay even!
@jenny1015 (13389)
• Philippines
26 Feb 13
Nothing wrong with giving inexpensive gifts for as long as it comes from he heart. Besides, people should not expect too much from their guests when it comes to the gifts that they will give. It's the thought that counts, that should matter.
@lilybug (21148)
• United States
25 Feb 13
I don't blame you for wanting to spend as little as possible. Especially since you are saving up to buy a mobile home. I also don't blame you for not wanting to go to a baby shower where there is a chance there will be a lot of loud kids. I have 2 kids of my own and even I hate the noise.