My friend finds himself unemployed

@maximax8 (28490)
United Kingdom
March 4, 2013 7:53am CST
My friend used to work in a shop as a shop assistant. His wife wished him to earn more money so he left that job to become a bus driver. However he failed his bus driving training. I feel very sorry for him now that he hasn't got any job at all. His wife works as a nurse. Do you think it is stressful to be unemployed? How can a couple budget when one is not working do you think? If you found yourself unemployed which sorts of jobs would you apply for?
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17 responses
@natliegleb (5184)
• India
8 Mar 13
He needs to put up some effort,improve his quality and standard and apply for nature of job which suits him so much
@lady1993 (18609)
• Philippines
8 Mar 13
YEs, definitely. In our country, many people are unemployed, and it is very stressful since it increases the crime rate since people are desperate for money.. and the prices of goods keep going up. If it were me, i would just look for any kind of job that i can do.. even not so high paying ones.
@roshigo58 (4871)
• Pune, India
8 Mar 13
Hi, i feel very sorry for your friend who has no job. Being unemployed is very hard situation. He shouldn't have left his previous job before getting new job. Now he has to start from the beginning. He can do online jobs, or some part time job. His wife should encourage her and give support to your friend. i wish he will get the job soon.
@wolfie34 (26793)
• United Kingdom
5 Mar 13
I bet he wished he never listened to his wife! Unemployment is terrible and every day you hear of so many getting made redundant and losing their jobs and it doesn't seem to be getting better. I plan to go back to work this year but I know I face stiff competition, my age, unfortunately is against me, I have experience but don't have the kind of qualifications that they are looking for. It can very stressful my friend.
@jenny1015 (13389)
• Philippines
5 Mar 13
Actually, my husband and I have been on that same situation. I used to have a work while he just mainly stayed home after he closed his petshop permanently. It was a struggle, but the good thing was , both our parents where always there to help us in any way possible. Now that I no longer have work, he happens to have one which I am thankful for. But his jobs ends in June. And I am prating that he may have another work soon right after that contract.
• Quezon, Philippines
5 Mar 13
So sorry to hear that your friend is jobless. Yes it is stressful especially for a guy for not having a job. Tell your friend to keep on applying in a different company. until they get a new job. Keep on praying and be patient
@suspenseful (40316)
• Canada
4 Mar 13
I write a lot and I would write more. I am a pensioner and well I would have a hard time getting a job because I prefer to be at home. So what I would do is to do what I do. Now because I could not get pregnant after marriage, and we adopted, if I had gone to work full time or even part time, we would not have been able to adopt so that is a moot job. However we were able to budget and quite well, because I looked for bargains, cooked the meals instead of eating at restaurants, watched our money etc. A lot of my friends work as well as look after their children, but they never had to adopt. And lot of them were able to afford to become nurses and teachers.
@GreenMoo (11842)
4 Mar 13
I feel very sorry for your friend, but nothing ventured nothing gained so I think he did the right thing to try for something new. He can be thankful that his wife still has a job.
@Janey1966 (24127)
• Carlisle, England
4 Mar 13
For a start, what's his wife doing interfering in his job choices? That's well out of order in my opinion. I would never do that with John even though I KNOW there are better paid jobs out there he could do standing on his head. I've been unemployed for quite some time now. I used to work in an office and the very idea of doing that now fills me with dread as I don't think I'd like it anymore..all those people around me. I'm not entitled to benefits as I have no children and John works full-time so I've been used to not having much or very little money for ages. Any money I have (birthdays, Christmas) I tend to use for the house. We don't go anywhere so no point buying lots of clothes. The worst part is relying on handouts although working online helps as I cannot stand not being independent when it comes to money. At least I'm not in debt so that's something. Credit cards are for other people lol.
• United States
4 Mar 13
Now i think he will learn a lesson, never leave your job if you are not sure you will have another one. Life is not over yet, he can retake the test, or learn something else.
@mariaperalta (19094)
• Mexico
4 Mar 13
Sorry to hear that. A great reason why one should not quit a job before finding another one. i wish him luck in finding one fast there.
• United States
4 Mar 13
I've been there, its no fun, its scary but there are ways to find employment. Make sure your resume is updated and that you tailor it to the job you are wanting. A general resume will get passed over. Stress is the key factor in being unemployed, have him look for ways to help other people, a job may come out of that endeavour.
@bhanusb (5709)
• India
4 Mar 13
Hi Maxine, I feel sympathy for your friend. He lost his job to satisfy his wife. Now a days it is not easy to get a new job. Everyone should remain satisfy with his/her own position. Your friend did foolishness by trying to please his wife.
@Bhebelen14 (5206)
• Philippines
4 Mar 13
Yes, it's very stressful to be unemployed before I am working as a private duty nurse but because were planning to have child my husband and i decided to stop to work and stay here at home instead. Sometimes I feel very ashamed to my husband because instead of supporting my parents in my our salary, my husband is doing that for me and adjust his daily work allowance. It's very different when both couple are working, they can save more and have some extra money most of the time. But because it's for our goods and having a child makes us happy i need to endure it and make some ways to earn money here at home like working online and accepting orders for my bake products.
@chiyosan (29940)
• Philippines
4 Mar 13
So sorry to hear about I what happened that your friend list goes job. But that u the risk he had to take right? He is supposed to have passed it and then they could have had the extra money. I guess your friend is left to being b unemployed right now but he can find other jobs still. He just needs to try and apply to where he thinks he can n work. I understand how frustrating it is for him and I for her wife too. They are family and v they should be able to go t through this together . For now while he tries to find himself a new job, they can then try to make ends meet h and keep their expenses lower. I hope forget the best to type friend.
@checkmail (2042)
• India
4 Mar 13
Hello maximax8 this is checkmail and me too feel sorry for your friend here, as unemployment kind of stung like an cobra bite full of poison.Yup being unemployment real is an worst situation in anyone's life as there are vast opportunities and you just aren't able to get hands on it, lots of distraction due to different kind of employments.
@Outcast (633)
• United States
4 Mar 13
I am sorry your friend failed the training. It can be very stressful when you are not working. And can be extremely difficult to budget very quickly when that happens. You have got to watch what you and your partner spend and where you spend it at. I am currently looking for work as well. I had to quit my last job due to no sitter for my kids. But I am looking for work anywhere. But I am also going back to school as well.