to criticize is better than ignoring?

@Matpunk85 (1066)
Italy
March 9, 2013 11:24am CST
Hi Mylotters! I'm really estonished! Days ago I opened a discussion and I receive more criticism about the theme of the discussion than answers. Today I even noticed that my reputation decreased of 8 points! Why people have to criticise instead of ignoring discussions they don't like? Why they have to rate my discussion as negative only because they don't like the theme?
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14 responses
@mysdianait (64068)
• Italy
9 Mar 13
Hi Mat! I didn't see your topic but I have seen it now and the responses too and I guess that those who were negative about your topic also gave you negative ratings. MyLot is an international community and not everyone can accept that there is an interest here for that type of topic. On top of that MANY do not use the rating system correctly either Continue as before and try and accept that some are earning here just by critising. Do your own thing and there will be others who will rate you correctly like they did before
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• United States
9 Mar 13
GRRRR ... I just typed a whole response here and lost it. Maybe that means that I should not respond here ... but then again when have I ever done what I "should" or avoided doing what I "should not"? At any rate, I was just saying that I think this has happened to all of us at one point or another (negative ratings and responses on discussions, even when the discussions were not intended to be controversial), but that does not make it feel any better when it does happen.
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@Matpunk85 (1066)
• Italy
9 Mar 13
As you saw, Mysdianait, the negative comments became negative ratings. I think this is very negative for Mylot because I don't like to open discussions or to comment and to receive negative ratings. I want to be free to post everything I want, obviously following the rules, the guidelines and posting in the correct interest. I really appreciate if someone doesn't agree with me or he/she thinks I'm wrong, but I pretend he/she explains why I'm wrong and what he/she thinks about the topic. The criticism received on that discussion are just to criticize without any comment about the topic of the discussion.
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@mysdianait (64068)
• Italy
10 Mar 13
PA! I didn't get a notifier for your comment or I would have been back sooner. I am here because I just received the one from Mat so I can now say that I too know how it feels when it drops and stays dropped for years, as you well know too. Indeed it does not feel good at all but we have to put up with it as there is no other way round it. I completely agree with you Mat but there are many here who just don't understand how they should use the rating system and we can do nothing about it. Maybe you should refrain from posting in that interest for a while to avoid it happening again
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• United States
9 Mar 13
In an open forum people do have the right to criticize a discussion if they dislike or disagree with it, but they need to do it in a polite way. However, the fact that someone dislikes or disagrees with something does not mean that they should rate it negatively ... and it plainly states this in the FAQS.
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• United States
9 Mar 13
LOL! That is probably why I missed it. As for the discussion, it is not something that I am generally interested in talking about, but I agree that there was nothing wrong with the discussion. In fact, I think that it is good to try to be educated in these matters, since I feel that it is important for both parties to be satisfied or the relationship will probably not work out in the longrun.
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• United States
9 Mar 13
ROTFLMAO! On the other hand, if they were experimenting to find out the answer to the question posed in that discussion, then they might have every reason to moan!
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@Matpunk85 (1066)
• Italy
10 Mar 13
I opened that discussion just for curiosity and I received all those criticisms. As you said purplealabaster criticism must be done in a polite way.
@stary1 (6622)
• United States
9 Mar 13
Matpunk85 Wow 8 points seems harsh...are you sure it was over just one discussion? I droopped 2 points over a short period of time and still haven't figured out why It is disappointing for sure. I hope posters aren't calling something negative just because they disagree. In my opinion the negative should only be used if the post is rude or obnoxious.
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@stary1 (6622)
• United States
9 Mar 13
oops..drooped should have been dropped...lol where is that edit button...
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@Matpunk85 (1066)
• Italy
10 Mar 13
Hi Stary1, I lost 8 points for sure because I checked my rating before writing the discussion. As I explained on another comment, these people disliking the topic I was talking to used my answer to the comment I received to rate me a lot of time negatively. Only thinking about them make me angry...
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• Jacksonville, Florida
9 Mar 13
I know what discussion your talking about and I think people should ignore the discussion if they don't like what is being talked about. It is much better to find another topic than to put someone down for asking something. Don't let it bother you. Me personally, if I don't like something that is being talked about I just won't respond. I won't rate anyone negative or be mean... There is no reason for all of that here. I hope you don't let it discourage you and don't let others keep you from being here.
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@Matpunk85 (1066)
• Italy
10 Mar 13
It's exactly what I think. If someone doesn't like the topic of the discussion must easily ignore it and to find another discussion. Anyway it doesn't matter, now I'm more relaxed, I don't let discourage me by some negative rating.
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@yume11 (183)
• Romania
9 Mar 13
I think sometimes it's better to ignore than to criticize, but it depends of the situation. For example, if someone has made a big mistake and somehow it's worried about this or it's ashamed, it should be better for people to ignore that person if they can't give a good advice. But sometimes to criticize it's good: it's good for building our personality. If no one would ever criticize us, we will persist in some mistakes, or we will think that we are the best of the best/the center of the world/etc. But again, it depends how this criticizing it's made. I know you've worked hard for that reputation, but I think if you'll explain them, maybe some people will give you reputation back... I'm sorry that I don't know what happened to help you more and I'm sorry that I don't know very much about reputation from myLot to help you more :(. I wish you: good luck in increasing your reputation!
@Matpunk85 (1066)
• Italy
10 Mar 13
That's the problem Yume11! I accept the criticism: I think criticism help us to become better person, but it depends on how they are made. Criticisms I received are only written to offend me and are not constructive. They just didn't like the topic, had written down a sentence explaining that is a topic I've not to talk to and then rating me a minus. Anyway it doesn't matter, now I will continue opening discussions and I'll comment on discussions I like trying to answer in a good way.
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• South Korea
9 Mar 13
Well I think everybody is just trying to be honest, besides maybe your asking for opinion that's why they are just giving what you want. But I do understand you we are working really hard in here and we just want to gain a good reputation. All I can say is don't take it personally, I think they don't really mean to hurt your feelings. Although sometimes we can encounter those really annoying people, well in that case I think it is much better to stay away than to make it longer.
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@Hatley (163744)
• Garden Grove, California
9 Mar 13
hi p rincess there is a fine line b etween disagreeing with the post and be respectful with it, and just giving someone a minus because they did not like the post.we are not to use minus that way according to the mylot admins. You do not rate minus just because you do not agree nor do you rate negative if you do not like the person these are not condoned by the admins. I wold suggest she contact the admins and tell them about the drop.
@Matpunk85 (1066)
• Italy
10 Mar 13
Those people used the minus improperly. I'll report them because they broke Mylot rules. It is not acceptable to rate someone negatively only for not liking the topic of the discussion.
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• South Korea
11 Mar 13
Oh of course we all kmow that it is not really fair to give someone a minus just because they dont like the topic. I hate these kind of people.. But I guess we cannot really anyhing about it aside from reporting it to the admins my qeustion is how do we know who rate us?
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@Hatley (163744)
• Garden Grove, California
9 Mar 13
hi matpunk you are so right. If more well really all would just read in the guidelines where it says do not minus somones post simply because you disagree or you dislike the person.that is not what the minus sign is for. Nert time you get an insulting response simply hit the exclamation point and report the insult. MyLot does not want people doing this to each other.I am truly sorryh someones been doing this to you.
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@ajithlal (14568)
• India
10 Mar 13
I also think it is good to read the guidelines and also try to ignore it rather than insulting others on the responses.
@Matpunk85 (1066)
• Italy
10 Mar 13
Thank you for suggestions. Next time instead of answer them I'll simply report insulting posts and then I'll ignore them.
@Mavic123456 (7928)
• Thailand
10 Mar 13
hahaha.. everyone here is entitled to her/his opinion. so it just happen that you posted it on the time when those oppositions were still awake. I hope you were able to express yourself fully and told these people about your point of view very well. FOR ME: .. earning is more important than reputation here in mylot.
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@Matpunk85 (1066)
• Italy
10 Mar 13
Stars for me are important. Not only for earning, but because I always try to do my best in commenting and I make an effort to have a good reputation. It's not correct to have a low rating only because people doesn't like the topic of the discussion.
• Thailand
11 Mar 13
ahhh I see, then it is really that bad to lose some stars here just like a mark from a teacher. However if this will give you a bad day and bad mood to do your tasks productively then it is not OK to think about it at all times. maybe it is a sign that you need to work harder
@ally12 (1205)
• Philippines
10 Mar 13
It seems some or many people here wants to manipulate how the other members do their activities here..
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@Matpunk85 (1066)
• Italy
10 Mar 13
I think we have to report them because they are breaking Mylot rules
@alberello (4756)
• Italy
10 Mar 13
Well, I receive by email all threads written by my friends. I usually comment the most. If, however, a discussion I do not like, or is not in my interest, I ignore and I do not give answer. However, I never had someone criticize me so much to come to lower my "star of reputation." I am convinced of the opinion that it is better not ignore threads not interesting, rather than criticize them in a negative way!
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@Matpunk85 (1066)
• Italy
10 Mar 13
Unfortunately those people decided to answer even if they didn't like the discussion. Maybe they were annoying and they had fun in this way. Some people are strange.
• South Africa
30 Mar 13
I know how you feel . Just look at my star. Not cool since I + rate alot of people to help them.
@Matpunk85 (1066)
• Italy
3 Apr 13
I always search to answer with quality to discussions, for this reason I'm angry my rate decreased unjustly.
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• South Africa
3 Apr 13
Don't worry i will help xD
@inertia4 (26991)
• United States
14 Mar 13
I guess I missed that discussion. I should go look for it. I think that people have a right to their opinion. But I for one never gave a negative rating to any of my friends here. Even if the discussions were bad. I think everything we do here is an effort to learn more and move forward. So I look at every discussion as a building block. I like criticism, but to knock down someones rating I think is wrong. An opinion should be good enough.
@Matpunk85 (1066)
• Italy
14 Mar 13
You can check the discussion, but negative comments have been deleted by Mylot cause they were just criticism and not answer at the discussion. Anyway you can verify the topic is in the correct category. Thank you for your support, I agree 100% with your thought!
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@inertia4 (26991)
• United States
19 Mar 13
Thank you for agreeing. We are here to enjoy ourselves. And with any discussion, I do believe in opinion and I definitely agree to follow the discussion. So you are right about nasty or negative remarks. There is no need for that behavior.
• Mexico
20 Mar 13
Hi Matpunk: It's sad to say this but you are probably are right. This happens because when people disagree with your point of view they usually take it personal and their response is to give a negative review- something that is simply unfair because there must be a reason why you do this not only because one disagree with someone's opinion. I hope your rate will improve. I gave you a positive feedback because I consider you a good user since we have shared discussions on the site. ALVARO
@Matpunk85 (1066)
• Italy
21 Mar 13
Hi Alvaro, negative answers have been deleted by Mylot cause they were just criticism and didn't point the discussion. I thank you for your positive feedback, my rate increased of 2 points from those negative feedbacks.
@ajithlal (14568)
• India
10 Mar 13
I think it is better to ignore rather than criticism. I think depend upon the situation both in life and also in the discussion. I try to just avoid the discussions rather than criticism them.
@Matpunk85 (1066)
• Italy
10 Mar 13
At first, when I write this discussion, I was very angry with those people, but now I agree with you: I'll just ignore them.